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Original poster

To not let neighbour park on our drive

261 replies

Sexnotgender · 27/10/2020 18:45

Neighbour 2 up approached DH the other day to ask a favour.

He’s getting a new car and doesn’t want to park it on the road in case it gets damaged. There’s plenty of parking and it’s a fairly quiet road but he wants to park it off road. Can’t park on his own driveway as his wife’s car is there. Wants to use ours.

Was I unreasonable to say a flat out no?

OP posts:
RhymesWithOrange · 28/10/2020 07:31

@Lolwhat

Our neighbour tried to do the same thing, when they built our houses they messed up the drive numbers, we’re 51 but our drive number is 43, the whole street decided to ignore these numbers and park outside our own houses because it just made no sense, neighbour is getting a new car and says we will be needing our drive back now (everyone has two spaces and they already have 2 cars), told them where to go🤣🤣

I'm going to need to see a diagram of that!

OP, YABU as parking threads always require a diagram Wink

DefinitelyPossiblyMaybe · 28/10/2020 07:35

I also believe he's hoping to avoid higher Insurance costs by saying it will be parked off-road. So he will have 3 cars and nowhere to park 2? He really should have thought about that and shouldn't be making it your problem. We had this when we had a large drive and an open sided barn facing the house. Friends asked if they could store their caravan in the barn, we said no. I didn't want to have to see their ugly old caravan from every window, nor did I want the responsibility. Then a tradesman came to do a job and the following week turned up to ask if he could park his spare van in the barn! No!!

DefinitelyPossiblyMaybe · 28/10/2020 07:37

It’s just quite close to the road and terraced so limited space to extend a driveway OMG they live in a terrace?! 😂

Charlieiscool · 28/10/2020 07:39

Things that start off as favours that are appreciated very quickly become expected and an entitlement. It would be bound to cause a fall out in the future.

Marvs · 28/10/2020 07:42

Just a thought, imagine the noise every time it’s started up? Early mornings, late nights....
Glad you’ve already decided on a big fat no

LolalovesLondon · 28/10/2020 07:46

’Stop asking now Mervin. I don’t want your car on my drive.’

This! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

LolalovesLondon · 28/10/2020 07:47

I also believe he's hoping to avoid higher Insurance costs by saying it will be parked off-road.

I agree.
He didn’t think this through did he?

AhoyMeFarties · 28/10/2020 07:51

I also thought cheaper insurance

Ellmau · 28/10/2020 07:52

Say yes but he'll need to pay you £1000 per month for the privilege. In advance.

flaviaritt · 28/10/2020 07:57

I wouldn’t want someone walking around on my property every day. I wouldn’t want to watch them unloading their shopping or washing their car in front of my house. Just no. And you don’t have to feel bad.

Fluffycloudland77 · 28/10/2020 08:00

I’d say no to this too.

LolalovesLondon · 28/10/2020 08:01

‘Hi neighbour! DH says you would like to rent a drive space off us. I’m sorry, we’re not really interested. Maybe one of the other neighbours might like the idea?’
😂

LolalovesLondon · 28/10/2020 08:02

In other words deliberately misunderstand the request.

Witchend · 28/10/2020 08:10

What happens if you scrape it with the lawnmower or whatever as you try to squeeze past? No way!

EvilPea · 28/10/2020 08:16

You can tell he’s a cheeky fucker given he’s bought a car that’s realistically too big for general use on most uk roads and car parks.

Twat.

Your not unreasonable at all, you don’t need the added risk, him having access whenever he wants to your property and the general noise and weight of the thing.

MeridianB · 28/10/2020 08:27

Aside from the fact that buying a Hummer makes him a total muppet, there are so many reasons PP have mentioned that make this a no-no. Inconvenience, accidental damage, burglary for keys etc etc.

I suspect he has already sorted insurance for it on the basis it’s parked on a driveway overnight. Not too sure how much difference this makes to a premium in the real world but for a high value car it may be enough to save him some money. Although, wouldn’t he also have affirm that the car is kept at the registered (his) address?

Anyway, he’s really cheeky to ask. Don’t feel you have to qualify your response in any way. Just a polite no.

MeridianB · 28/10/2020 08:31

Oh and if his wife’s car is insured as ‘parked on drive’ too, that explains why he doesn’t want to move it. He would have to notify insurers and get an adjustment if he now puts hers on the road.

Still amazed that anyone would buy a Hummer. I’d be embarrassed to be seen in one!

Original poster
Sexnotgender · 28/10/2020 08:46

@DefinitelyPossiblyMaybe

It’s just quite close to the road and terraced so limited space to extend a driveway OMG they live in a terrace?! 😂
What’s wrong with a terrace? It’s a nice one if that helps?
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Clareflairmare · 28/10/2020 08:52

@RelaisBlu

I feel bad as our drive is enormous

Don't feel bad! It was partly this sort of guilt that made me feel we had to say yes - don't do it!

Totally agree. Presumably you paid for that privilege! One off is a different matter but this is basically saying they want all the benefit of a larger drive and you don’t get to enjoy that any more because.....?!?
LolalovesLondon · 28/10/2020 08:54

What’s wrong with a terrace? It’s a nice one if that helps?

There really isn’t anything wrong with a terrace! I don’t think it’s a good idea to buy a hummer if you live in a small house with a small drive though. Especially if you already have a car!! Maybe that’s what they meant?

LolalovesLondon · 28/10/2020 08:54

another car

1DoesNotSimplyWalkIntoMordor · 28/10/2020 08:55

Friends (not in the UK) allowed a neighbour to park his very expensive car on their drive because at that time they didn't have a car and there had been a number of car thefts in their neighborhood, they both thought that parking it on the drive would be safer than parking it on the road. My friends house was broken into late one night while they were asleep and they were confronted by the intruder demanding the keys to the car, they were both quite badly beaten up because the intruder didn't believe that the car didn't belong to them. Fortunately one of their neighbours heard the commotion and saw that the front door was open and called the police, the intruder fled before the police arrived. The police told them that the same MO had been used in some of the other thefts where the burglar couldn't find the car keys on the ground floor of the houses that had been broken into. Nothing else was stolen just the keys and the cars.

Original poster
Sexnotgender · 28/10/2020 08:58

The robbery angle is one I really hadn’t considered and makes my no even more firm. We drive a very uninteresting probably not going to get stolen car.

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BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 28/10/2020 09:07

"Sorry Mervin, but husband doesn't want people to think the Hummer is his, and make assumptions about the size of his penis"

ChocShot90 · 28/10/2020 09:21

Bet he's insured it as 'parked on a private drive' for a cheaper insurance premium and now wants yours