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To not let neighbour park on our drive

261 replies

Sexnotgender · 27/10/2020 18:45

Neighbour 2 up approached DH the other day to ask a favour.

He’s getting a new car and doesn’t want to park it on the road in case it gets damaged. There’s plenty of parking and it’s a fairly quiet road but he wants to park it off road. Can’t park on his own driveway as his wife’s car is there. Wants to use ours.

Was I unreasonable to say a flat out no?

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Sexnotgender · 27/10/2020 19:15

@Chloemol

The wife can put her car on the road. Or if the gardens big enough he can convert it to extra drive way

No way would I allow anyone to park on the drive

Yeah I don’t know why her car can’t go on the road, though it’s a ‘nice’ car too so maybe they don’t want to.

The layout of their house means there isn’t really a garden at the front. Just stone chips as a driveway. Ours is detached and set much further back from the road so has more space out the front.

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WhySoSensitive · 27/10/2020 19:20

Charge him an extortionate rent.

Hollyhocksarenotmessy · 27/10/2020 19:21

Nope. It stops being a favour and starts being an entitlement, and you'll end up having to negotiate when you want the space for a visitor etc (voice of bitter experience). Also, imagine if it got a scratch?

It's perfectly reasonable to say no, and a bit cheeky of him to ask!

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 27/10/2020 19:22

I'd say no. You'll create a precedent and if you need it to visitors or a skip or something, it will become your problem to find a solution.

I think with a brand new car the thing to do is you tap it with a hammer yourself then that first issue is dealt with and out of the way and you can move on in life with more important things. Wink

katy1213 · 27/10/2020 19:22

What makes him think that you want to live in a car park?

Eckhart · 27/10/2020 19:23

If you don't want to say 'No, you cheeky git!', you could present it to him as a 'I'd be ever so worried I might damage it when I was going past with the lawnmower or...' and think of a list of all the ways it might accidentally get bashed.

If he insists, let him park it there and then run the lawnmower into it straight away.

ivykaty44 · 27/10/2020 19:25

Thing is what happens when his car gets damaged on your drive, scratched or worse and then he wants you to pay...

ShipshapeShore · 27/10/2020 19:25

I bet it wouldn't just be his car. You'd find all sorts of randoms parked there because he's said they can!

AmuckAmuckAmuck · 27/10/2020 19:26

My neighbour asked my late mum this, almost word for word. She also said no on the grounds I needed the drive to pick her up and take her shopping plus my daily visits. Don’t think he was happy tbh but it was a precedent she rightly didn’t want to set.

ChocolateCherrybomb · 27/10/2020 19:29

Maybe neighbour should have paid more to buy a house with parking that was adequate for his needs, instead of expecting you to pay for extra land for him to park the car on that he purchased with the money he chose not to spend on a house with more land to park it on.

Cheeky beggar.

NastyPeace · 27/10/2020 19:31

Jeez what a cheek. Is he actually being a hummer? If so I wouldn't want to look out to that either. My neighbour has a huge drive and I'll be honest it would be so much easier for us if we had the drive he does but I wouldn't ever dream of asking him to park there.

GU24Mum · 27/10/2020 19:32

Definitely no need to say yes. We're the ones with the house nearer the road and only room easily for one car................so the other one is on the road outside. Lots of our neighbours have spare room but it's literally never occurred to me to ask them to use their drives!

Cloudburstagain · 27/10/2020 19:33

Your driveway is not that big of you will struggle with a lawnmower getting past!
What if you need work doing on your house and he says no as it is his parking space etc!!

PlanDeRaccordement · 27/10/2020 19:34

I’d let him for £50 a month under a parking space lease contract.

MorganKitten · 27/10/2020 19:35

Or he can pay you a monthly rate. Up front.

acatscauldron · 27/10/2020 19:37

Hell no. Imagine if your gardener accidentally damaged his car. The fallout wouldn't be worth it.

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Sexnotgender · 27/10/2020 19:37

@NastyPeace

Jeez what a cheek. Is he actually being a hummer? If so I wouldn't want to look out to that either. My neighbour has a huge drive and I'll be honest it would be so much easier for us if we had the drive he does but I wouldn't ever dream of asking him to park there.
Yep it’s actually a Hummer.
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myomy · 27/10/2020 19:37

Do not even feel guilty about it. He knew what the road and his drive was like before he got the car.

As someone said above what if there was an accident and his car got scraped by you.

stella1know · 27/10/2020 19:38

He chose the bigger house/bigger back garden and the smaller driveway. I doubt you have been asking to share his storage space, store your brexit supplies in his kitchen or to lounge in his larger garden. And since they have more space than you, based on your kind and somewhat (I mean this kindly) masochist socialist logic, they should share it with you out of guilt for having so much.

Please please say no. People always try to rip off nice and kind softies. Set a precendent. There is often regret otherwise.

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Sexnotgender · 27/10/2020 19:39

@Cloudburstagain

Your driveway is not that big of you will struggle with a lawnmower getting past! What if you need work doing on your house and he says no as it is his parking space etc!!
The area I’d offer him (not that I’m going to) is along the side of the house. It could easily fit 2/3 cats nose to tail so could probably get another 3/4 cars on the rest of the drive but that would make it tricky for us to get in and out.
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Sexnotgender · 27/10/2020 19:40

Cars not cats obviously 😂

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acatscauldron · 27/10/2020 19:41

It could easily fit 2/3 cats nose to tail

Lions I presume, given were talking about a hummer.

stella1know · 27/10/2020 19:41

It could easily fit 2/3 cats nose to tail

So not so big then 🤣

StripeyDeckchair · 27/10/2020 19:43

What happens if amir accidentally gets knocked or scratched when its parked on your drive?
Bet he'd expect you to pay for it.

No way would I even consider this.

Sweetooth92 · 27/10/2020 19:43

Not your problem. He should have addressed parking before buying a car he can’t store where he deems appropriate on his own land. Looks to me like he expected you to okay it. I’d be tempted to post/electric gate mine so he couldn’t help
Himself just to be awkward 😂