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Original poster

To not let neighbour park on our drive

261 replies

Sexnotgender · 27/10/2020 18:45

Neighbour 2 up approached DH the other day to ask a favour.

He’s getting a new car and doesn’t want to park it on the road in case it gets damaged. There’s plenty of parking and it’s a fairly quiet road but he wants to park it off road. Can’t park on his own driveway as his wife’s car is there. Wants to use ours.

Was I unreasonable to say a flat out no?

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monkeymonkey2010 · 28/10/2020 15:07

Given the car apparently isn’t going to be available to buy until next year I suspect he’s trying to convince his wife

Got a nerve hasn't he?
He's planning on having his boy-toy and doesn't give two shits about who it inconveniences - and on top of that he actually thought he could use your drive as his personal, permanent parking spot - for free as well!

acatscauldron · 28/10/2020 16:18

I always imagined French people anyone, really to be too classy for a Hummer.

Not Jacques though, evidently.

GertieBassett · 28/10/2020 17:36

I haven't read the full thread cos its bloody bonkers you're actually asking for advice!!!

Gbtch · 28/10/2020 17:37

Charge him rental? Get a contract so you can cancel if you want or need

sadblackcat · 28/10/2020 17:41

My lovely neighbour sometimes parks on my drivewayffor a few mins if he cannot get on to his own as we live near a school and its murder at dropping off and picking up time. There is no way I would let him use it to park his car all the time. People quickly forget that you are doing them a favour and take it for granted. Then when you have to ask them to move they get all shitty with you. After all it is their parking spot now isnt it.? Tell him to let his wife park on the road.

Original poster
Sexnotgender · 28/10/2020 17:50

Tell him to let his wife park on the road.

I think unfortunately as someone else posted earlier the giant wankmobile he’s buying will be too long for his driveway.

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FelicisNox · 28/10/2020 18:08

YANBU as it's your driveway.

You could charge rent if you need the money?

Toomuchtrouble4me · 28/10/2020 18:12

or the gardener wants access. It’s a really big car he’s getting and it would make it difficult to get passed with a lawnmower etc
Surely the servants, who might find it difficult to get past, would use your lawnmower?

Toomuchtrouble4me · 28/10/2020 18:14

Are you sure that DH didn’t, in a moment of madness and neighbourly love, offer this to him? And then regret it?

IRIELADY · 28/10/2020 18:21

I don't drive so new neighbours automatically assume that they or their relatives can use my space. They don't ask! I rent out the garage directly in front of my space and the times when it hasn't been rented I have had a bike or other things I needed to access in there. I've had to explain this multiple times over the years and for that reason I will never let anyone use the space (regardless of whether the garage is being rented or not). Give people an inch ... If they asked beforehand (I'm not a dragon!) then I might let them as a one off but they don't. People really do take the piss. It's rude. F*ckers!

redgirl1 · 28/10/2020 18:26

I Abu because of all the elements to this story it’s the guy being french that shocks me the most. This really does not seem like a car a french person would drive. Please ask to check his passport next time you see him. 🤣

Original poster
Sexnotgender · 28/10/2020 18:36

Surely the servants, who might find it difficult to get past, would use your lawnmower?

What a weird thing to call my gardener...

I don’t think she does use our lawnmower? Either way she’d still have to go up the side of the house to go from the front to the back garden and the giant tank would be blocking her way.

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Iziz · 28/10/2020 18:36

Simple answer no coz if anything happens to it on our drive we will be blamed for it so no sorry .

Teddybear27 · 28/10/2020 18:54

Simple question.. Would he do the same for you? 🤔

Badnan · 28/10/2020 19:02

Tell him to do one or fuck off, we couldn't have the gardener with no where to park could we, it would never do.

browneyes77 · 28/10/2020 19:06

GTFO! Cheeky f*er!!

It still amazes me that there are people with this much front. It would never even occur to me to ask if I could use a neighbours drive as my own personal driveway.

Even when I visit my mum (who lives in the corner house of a cul-de-sac and therefore doesn’t have a driveway), the one lovely neighbour has always said to use her drive if I need to, but I never do, I park in the road. So I don’t even do it when I have permission!

Whatever issues he has with parking his twatmobile, he should’ve considered them before buying it. Not your problem.

Original poster
Sexnotgender · 28/10/2020 19:07

@Badnan

Tell him to do one or fuck off, we couldn't have the gardener with no where to park could we, it would never do.
Any reason you’re being a dick? Is that you Jacques?
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prettyscarybird · 28/10/2020 19:07

Presumably your (detached, Victorian) house, set back with a large drive, cost more than their 20th century terrace Hmm

If they wanted to have a house with a decent drive to fit 3 cars (let alone a Hummer Wink), then maybe they should have saved their money (put off buying a Hummer Wink) so that they could afford one Grin

#justsaying

LolalovesLondon · 28/10/2020 19:11

Toomuchtrouble

Servants? What’s the matter with you? Loads of people gave gardeners. They’re not servants ffs.

LolalovesLondon · 28/10/2020 19:14

‘have’

jwpetal · 28/10/2020 19:56

Imagine if something happened to the car , while parked on your drive. No way I would do it.

1moreRep · 28/10/2020 22:07

Unsure if this has been mentioned but the large expensive car will entice thieves and they may break in your house to get the keys and hike your insistence up.

Loreleigh · 28/10/2020 22:23

Bit of a liberty asking you as it sounds like neighbour wants to regularly park on your drive, not just once for a family get together or something - trouble with doing these kind of favours for people is that they then start taking it for granted, feel entitled etc. Years ago I had a small drive outside my little flat and a guy with 4 small kids over the road used to fix cars and sell them for a small profit, but if un-taxed needed to park them off-road...I sometimes let him use my drive but he always asked first - once I even let him store a small boat for a bit! Can't say I'd have been happy if I had a neighbour always parked outside my window though. My neighbour was a struggling single parent, nice polite chap and didn't take liberties

Your CF neighbour and his wife need to decide which of their cars to park on their own drive, and which in the street - not your problem and you are not being unreasonable at all, just sensible. (Neighbour would probably try and get cheaper insurance claiming the car is parked 'off-road' too!)

GammyLeg · 28/10/2020 22:53

What an absolute wanker, who buys a car that size?!

Glad you and your DH are in agreement. I'm not usually one to care what the neighbours think but I'd be mortified if they thought that hideous vehicle belonged to me.

NameChangingShame · 28/10/2020 23:28

Don't feel bad! I had my neighbour come and try intimidating me into giving her my spot the other day!😨 I can't believe how entitled sone people think they are !!