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To turn down this gift from my in laws?

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WankPuffins · 22/10/2020 13:53

My in laws are lovely and I appreciate this is a nice problem to have.

It was my 40th earlier this year but I was having an awful pregnancy, suffering from HG, in and out of hospital. It wasn’t marked in anyway.

MIL has asked Dh for a list of my favourite clothes brands. She’s found a personal shopper/stylist who is doing an online personal online styling service that includes a (socially distance or video call) wardrobe ‘shop’ and makeover. It’s to the tune of £500 including new outfits. So really bloody generous of them as a belated 40th/early Christmas gift.

The thing is, I don’t wear anything other than old leggings and t shirts as I don’t go anywhere or do anything. Pre lockdown I only left the house for the school run really or family walks somewhere. We don’t have money to go out and about And I’ve got no friends so don’t meet up with anyone, so while it would be nice to have some lovely clothes, I’d never wear them.

And my god, my ‘wardrobe’ consists of crappy old t shits, a couple of jumpers, a couple of cheap dresses incase I ever have to look a bit smart (mainly for parents Evening or going to the doctor 😳), so it would be mortifying to have anyone see the bits of crap I’ve got. Honestly, a charity shop wouldn’t take most of the clothes I wear day to day they are too worn out.

Over the years I have had moments of wanting to look nicer, bought myself a few bits but then never wore them - don’t want to chuck them on just to drop off in the car for school, don’t want to come home and clean in them and then just spend all day playing on the floor with a baby or child, or get messy at a toddler group (I’ve had three kids over 18 years so I’ve never got out of the running around after a child phase!)

If I had anything nice now, it would be utterly pointless. I know I look like shit most of the time but honestly, nice clothes would be uncomfortable and get ruined.

Just thinking about it has made me feel really down about myself.

(I now realise I sound like a really pathetic slob reading that back).

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GrumblyMumblyisnotJumbly · 29/10/2020 17:34

Similar thread this week but much more successful as not done remotely
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/style_and_beauty/4057850-Booked-an-appointment-with-John-Lewis-stylist

WankPuffins · 29/10/2020 17:40

Mil called to ask how it went, I told her it was great. It was so nice of her I didn’t want to bring down what was a lovely thought.

Her treats have form for falling a bit flat - she bought me vouchers for a hair cut when I was pregnant with my middle child - the hair stylist kept going on and on for the whole time about how her friend lost her baby at 20 weeks. I had to ask her to be quiet in the end as she was upsetting me). So that was fun. (Didn’t fell mil about that either!)

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Ddot · 29/10/2020 18:17

What a daft moo, it'll be fine this time if you stand fast, just remember she's not your friend you dont have to see or deal with her ever again. Get you stuff and enjoy it.

Whatup · 29/10/2020 18:33

Gucci do sweat pants love. Get some really nice leggings and t shirts.

Jeremyironseverything · 29/10/2020 20:06

Yes, it would have been better for you just to have the money. Still, you'll end up with some newer versions of your old clothes and mil will feel good because she wrongly believes she helped you have a lovely experience as well as some new clothes.

BessMarvin · 29/10/2020 22:44

Maybe the stylist thinks that she's going to convince you to wear completely different clothes, that you just need a push and then you'll be all tearful and amazed that you can't believe how you look and you're so happy etc. When actually you are perfectly happy as you are and just need some new clothes thanks.

BessMarvin · 29/10/2020 22:45

It could be your mil has actually given her this brief.

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