To think this is too big an age gap?

[Sjapnowpls]

22 year old female and 29 year old male. I think they're at 2 different stages of their lives and surely very different maturity levels. AIBU?

[helloNCagain]

Would you be upset by a 50 and 57 year old being in a relationship?

[MiddleClassMother]

I'm assuming this is your DC. Are you sure it's not about you disliking the partner than your concern over the age gap. That's nothing.

[TempsPerdu]

7 years between me and DP. We met when I was 22 and are still together and happy almost 20 years later.

There were a few obvious differences - some cultural references (notably kids’ tv!); I had only just graduated while he was already established in his career, so he’s always been financially ‘ahead’; he had his own flat while I was still living at home. But otherwise very few issues and the gap has become less evident as we’ve got older - nowadays DP blends in perfectly well with all my friends’ partners!

Oddly enough there’s exactly the same gap (in years and months) between my parents. They’ve been married 40+ years and still going strong.

[Ken1976]

Is it the other way round ? Is the man 22 and the woman older , maybe even with kids . If this is your son in this case I can see why you might be worried .

[feministfemme]

@Ken1976 Why would that be different based on the gender though?

[Ellovera2]

I was 17 when I met my DH who was 24.
I'm now 30 and we're married with a baby on the way. I went to uni and he stayed home. We never sat down and planned out anything much. Just enjoyed each day. It's funny because out of all our friends we're the 'last' to do stuff (get married, kids etc).

[vodkaredbullgirl]

No.

[Heyahun]

Met my now husband when I was 23 and he was 33 - our age has never been an issue 😂

[IceCreamAndCandyfloss]

I think it depends where they are life stage wise. If both have careers, their own place and are financially independent then I’d think the age gap was fine. If the younger one was still in student mode then I’d worry there wasn’t enough in common or the older one would end up having to pay for everything which leads to a very unequal relationship.

[MrsElijahMikaelson1]

All fine in my world

[formerbabe]

I met mrformer when I was 23 and he was 33...it was not an issue at all.

[SandyY2K]

Whilst I wouldn't want my 22 year old DD with a 29 year old, I don't think it's too large a gap.

I was 20 and had a 27 year old BF years ago. Looking back, I would say he had far more relationship experience than I did and can see he used that to his advantage.

[abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyz123]

When I was that age I was going out with someone that age, and it was too big of an age difference. I think men who can't date women their own age are controlling.

[33goingon64]

Nope.

[33goingon64]

As in, it isn't too big an age gap.

[theluckiest]

Are you joking??

My DH and I have a 7 year age gap.

Met when I was 18 and he was 25.

He's now 50 and I'm 43. All good. Our age has very little bearing on our relationship. Why would it??

Although the only thing is when he sings a song from his youth and I go 🤷‍♀️

[JacobReesMogadishu]

I was 22yo and dh was 37 when we got together.

[YellowishZebra]

I was 17 and DH was 26 when we got together.
We've been married 20 years, have 2 children and are the only couple out of either of our individual or joint friendship groups to still be on our first marriage/cohabiting/child making relationship.
So no I don't think that is too big an age gap nor do I believe people must be at different stages of life at different ages.

[ReallySpicyCurry]

Can't see an issue with this whatsoever. Some 22 year olds are still very immature, but they're unlikely to find anything exciting in a 29 year old who is on the more mature end really, so it's self selecting.

They're both adults with a 2 at the start of their age, it's fine

[ancientgran]

My husband is 7 years older than I am, it hasn't been an issue.

[villamariavintrapp]

Can't see any issues or even potential issues really. It's not a very big gap.

[SnowHare]

My DSis and her DH have 23 years gap. Been together about 15 years and are madly crazy in love still.

[Eckhart]

It's barely a gap at all, let alone a problematically large one.

[spotlovesbedtime]

That's not a very big age gap. Same as me and my husband, been together since I was 21 and he was 28, I'm now 35 and he is 42. It's not an issue. You might meet your perfect match at any age.....you may also never have a perfect match......most likely! Let them get on with it! They are adults!

[MorganKitten]

That’s nothing