To want my husband at our baby scan?!!

[MrsBonnie]

I have our first scan on Monday and have to go it alone... I'm so worked up worrying about getting bad news and having to hear it on my own.

You can do SO many things with other people, yet I can't go into a baby scan, both wearing masks, with my husband?!!

Am I being unreasonable to whinge about this?

@poppiesaway - I know how you feel , hang in there . Only thing that keeps be going is the wonderful benefit of the 1995 nhs pension scheme roll on 55!

I'm so sorry for your experience. sad I know cases like yours are rare, but they obviously do happen, and it's not nice for them to happen to you alone.

Exactly, which is why people being so flippant pisses me off so much. It may just be a routine scan or your whole world might be about to come crashing down.

@MrsBonnie - nobody being so rude or nasty on a forum to strangers can be a happy or fulfilled person. They wouldn’t say it to your face in real life.

@Funkypolar It makes me laugh - I always wonder if half the people out there are secretly mean but just nice to people's faces [hmmm]

It doesn't get me down, I just switch off the internet and get back to reality

I think it's perfectly fair to say 15-20 years ago or less it was par for the course for partners not to be there.

My DC are 20 and 16. It was the norm in my area for partners to be present at scans. My ex was present for all but the one he couldn't get time of from work for.

Meanwhile, I understand OP wanting her partner there. I also understand why the rules are in places, and that rules will vary from hospital to hospital depending on what the local facilities are like.

I hope very much that your scan news will be good - the vast majority of the time it is.

You can do this.

@Giespeace

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you have a lot of love and support around you, and I'm so sorry you had to be alone for that, and for what you and your husband missed out on while your son was still alive. Fuck covid indeed. All the best to you xx

Yanbu, I had to go to a 12 week scan for dc2 back in summer and was told the baby had stopped growing at 4 weeks in the room by myself, shit doesn't even come close