AIBU to be scared to tell my boyfriend that i'm keeping the baby he is so sure i am going to abort?

[nutellacrumpet8991]

I know i posted before but i find this situation extremely difficult to deal with and i need more advice.

Long story short. We're 22 and 24. Boyfriend wants abortion saying he’s made his decision, i don’t want to, i want to keep it. He thinks me keeping it will make him resent me long term. It i do decide to keep it he wants us to live together regardless if we are together or not because he doesn’t want to be away from his baby. I told him that i’m not going to live with him if not a couple. He said ‘well tough, i’m not staying apart from my child’.

I have made my decision. How do i tell him i decided to keep it when he’s almost convinced i won’t? I am scared of his reaction. Also as stupid as this sounds i am hoping we can work it out and that he’s not going to break up with me because i really do love him and he’s never acted like a dickhead before so i blame his behaviour on the initial shock (although he might just be a complete dickhead)

[quote Helendee]@Buddytheelf85
Yes it’s hard with being a single parent but you only list the hard parts. What about the first smile, the cuddles, the pure joy of raising your child, the companionship and love that also occur?[/quote]
Because they won't help when she is being abused .

[quote Helendee]@Buddytheelf85
Yes it’s hard with being a single parent but you only list the hard parts. What about the first smile, the cuddles, the pure joy of raising your child, the companionship and love that also occur?[/quote]
No reason at all OP can't have those things in the future under much better circumstances with a loving and non-abusive man who actually wanted the child.

Please do not romanticise parenthood, especially parenthood with abusive men.

@SunshineCake

The OP has already said that she wants to keep her baby and isn’t asking for opinions on continuing the pregnancy.
She is seeking support on her relationship.

What relationship ? It's not a genuine, equal, mature one and I haven't said a word about whether she should keep the baby or not.

mother in law has npd she told her son to tell me to get rid of it. So he came with the message and said my mother has kindly offered to pay for you to have an abortion. as tears rolled down my face. My husband has his dinner at her house every night, and talks hours everyday with her on the phone with the last call of the day being around 8.30pm as the hour comes up my husband says I will call you back and they go on and on and on about his mothers day and who's fell out with who just mostly bitching from her. `When husband gets off the phone I try and talk to him he says sorry I have had a full day at work and just spoken to mum I have no energy left. this went on for thirty years I am now fifty three. my daughter is the last to leave the nest and my hateful spitful mother in law with npd and now dementia whats to live until she's one hundred she's 89 and she does not want a care home she what our home. I have had a separate life from my husband living under the same roof still doing things for him not with him he has to take calls I and I wanted to go out so I did and he took calls. she's been on all our holidays with us she even came on our honey moon she makes all the decisions in our house and because I am her sons second wife she says in gods eyes I am not married to her son. So I have never been invited to any family get togethers, funerals, etc.She only wants her son so he can chaperone her she's been on her own since my husband was born. I was diagnosed with cancer last year and that was a wake up call for me. I can either carry on putting up with this shit or get out of this and have no more regrets.