To think it is neglectful to let your child get overweight

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If you cannot provide your child with basic nutrition, a balanced diet and enough exercise, would you say it's child neglect?

I know for a fact that low income/benefits families can feed their children a healthy diet at a similar cost to an unhealthy one. I've done it and so have friends.

Letting your child become grossly overweight through no fault of their own is not responding to their basic needs

This ought to go well

This is so much more complicated. I don't think a sensible nuanced discussion is going to ensue from your op

Oh wow...this so isn’t going to go well

I know... was discussing with friends and wanted opinions, controversial or what

Yep.

I often feel sad when I see an overweight child. It's never their fault. But life is complicated and there'll be reasons. Whether or not everyone agrees on whether those reasons are good enough, is a different matter

I agree unless the child is of an age where they’re able to manage their own eating and their feelings are coming into the equation more - that’s different

Once again MN can't have an adult conversation about being overweight.

YANBU.

Of course it’s negligent to allow your child to become obese. Healthy , nutritious food is cheaply and easily available at Aldi, Lidl, Asda etc etc so there is no excuse.

I completely agree op.
It's ridiculous that adults can't regulate their children's health.

I'll expect SS to come and get dd, who is overweight after five months of shielding in a house with no garden earlier in the year.

Thanks a fucking bunch.

As an overweight adult YANBU

Watch the fast food baby documentary, it’s totally sickening and actually quite hard to watch

I was obese at 11.

My mum made fantastic food for us, neither parent or my 3 brothers ever had a weight problem. My mum even went with me to weight watchers and went on plan with me saying it was for her and I was just there to help her stay on plan.

I would sneak food and use pocket money to buy sweets because I was sad and lonely because of all the little bastards bullying me t school, the fatter I got the worse the bullying and the more I ate.

I can honestly say my parents did everything they could me knew to do about my weight. I never told them that school was a daily hell from 10- 18.

You can't always blame the parents.

There are just soooo many factors at play.

Humans "kill with kindness " as they say.

Depends. My dd is 17 and she's letting herself get overweight atm but I think it's important for her to see that her weight is not bothering ME, if it is bothering HER it is within her power to lose weight. I have tried tentatively suggesting she go easy at times. I have reassured her that she is not contractually obliged to be slim. I think she needs to understand that I love her as she is fat or thin right now and that later if she decides to put effort in to getting slim, it's her choice.

Uh oh...

Anyone see that programme about fat kids? The ones being treated by the hospital. In one, the mother would undermine the doctors at every turn and would bring fatty sugary foods in for him. It was outrageous. Now she was a fucking selfish bint who wanted her son dependent on her and stuck at home.

I'm currently losing a significant amount of weight. I do cringe when I see overweight children because I know how hard it's going to be for them to grow up obese, and the damage they are going to do to their body. Through no fault of their own and often not much fault of their parents. Income inequality is wicked and has far reaching consequences.

Reported this one as I think it's purely set up for goadiness.

@EarringsandLipstick

Reported this one as I think it's purely set up for goadiness.

Why can't people have a healthy debate Jesus

@WinstonWolf I'll expect SS to come and get dd, who is overweight after five months of shielding in a house with no garden earlier in the year. that makes no sense shielding with no garden isn’t the reason for a child to become overweight. It’s mostly diet not exercise, and exercise can be done in front of youtube with a wii an exercise bike a skipping rope etc plenty of options.