To feel like there are fewer and fewer mums on Mumsnet?

[changerr]

Sooo many threads are full of people who either:

1. Have no children and don't want children
2. Are men

Or maybe it's just my imagination.....? (and before I get flamed, obviously everyone is welcome)

If everyone is welcome, what precisely is the issue? Many forums here are much broader than being a parent, especially AIBU. Everyone is also someone's child, so wanting advice on parents/inlaws even if you are yet to have children is not exactly terrible.

And the problem with that is...?

Mumsnet may have started as a parenting website but has grown and now has a number of diverse topics. Some include parenting and some don’t. Some people might consider hearing from a wide variety of people, would broaden their horizons and understanding of subjects.

@BrumBoo

If everyone is welcome, what precisely is the issue? Many forums here are much broader than being a parent, especially AIBU. Everyone is also someone's child, so wanting advice on parents/inlaws even if you are yet to have children is not exactly terrible.

Didn't say it was terrible. Or that there was an 'issue'. Just wondered if others perceive that the balance has tilted a bit away from mothers posting. Not necessarily a negative - could be viewed as positive.

I don't see a lot of men posting.

I do see a lot of threads non related to children but even if the OP doesn't mention having DC, I don't assume that she's not a mum.

For me it doesn't personally matter at all because I love reading about things non child related and certainly would be spending a lot less time here if every thread was related to being a mum

Hadn’t noticed it but I think it would be a good thing. Wider perspective....

Not sure what your problem is? I wasn't a mum when I found it, does that mean I should t have been able to access support?

Came for penis beaker, stayed for the feminism board

No. I don't think that's changed in the eleventy billion years I've been on MN. There's always been a good mix of people.

Men?! Not mothers?! Oh no! This place might stop being an entitled mummyfest echo chamber!

I barely mention my children on here.

There are a few child free posters but the majority still seem to be mums in my experience.

I assume that child free posters don’t comment much on the parenting-related threads, more on other topics. I originally joined for parenting advice but there’s plenty more to talk about!

A lot of the posts, especially on AIBU, cover topics not relating to children... So it's very difficult to know who has children and who doesn't. Just because the poster doesn't mention them in a comment it doesn't mean they don't have them.

I'm sorry, should I leave?

There are a few men - my thinking is that as long as they're 1. Dads and 2. Not Fathers for Justice (or variants), 3. Not incels/looking for dates, and 4. Not misogynists telling women how women should feel ... they are quite welcome. Fortunately, most are nice enough. A fair few weirdos after the watershed though.

Women without children are welcome as obviously this is a predominantly female space and women suffer sexism, misogyny and generally live the life of a woman no matter whether they have children or not. They need and contribute to this space too. 20% of women never have children, and rising.

I identify as a mum.

Its called MUMSnet....

I have the same impression as you OP. Definitely more goady men and people who are visiting with a specific agenda.

Do we need to discuss our kids?

Not a mum but ttc, which is why I am here. If I fail to conceive do I need to leave then?

I get totally fed up of childfree people posting on the threads where someone is having a meltdown over parenting and saying - I knew having kids would be a nightmare and that's why I don't have any! Unhelpful in the extreme.

We had a why are their men and non parents on mumsnet only a few weeks ago!

I wonder if it becomes a confirmation bias

Your looking for non parents and men so you see them!

Because yes my experience is loads of people predominantly female talking about their kids

@LaBellina

I don't see a lot of men posting.

I do see a lot of threads non related to children but even if the OP doesn't mention having DC, I don't assume that she's not a mum.

For me it doesn't personally matter at all because I love reading about things non child related and certainly would be spending a lot less time here if every thread was related to being a mum

There were lots of men on a recent thread about whether vaginas feel similar or different! (And some women)

YABU. I think probably the vast majority are mothers. There may be more non-mothers on here than there used to be, but I seriously doubt there are even remotely enough to say that threads are 'full of them'. In any case, with many thread topics it's irrelevant and people don't make it clear what their sex or parenting status is!

What’s the issue then if everyone is welcome @changerr??

Do you have to be a “mum” or “female” to have an opinion to offer or advice to give? Sure, personal experience can be useful but it’s not always essential. And anyway, who’s to say someone posting as a mum or a man actually is? It’s an anonymous forum where any personal information offered by posters must be taken with a pinch of salt. If the advice is useful to the OP then who actually cares if it comes from a man, an octomum or a brain surgeon?