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Another CF neighbour parking one...

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Lillipops · 14/10/2020 08:43

Hello fellow Mumsnetters I have for you a CF neighbor parking issue I have included a diagram so I hope it makes sense. We live in a semi detached house which has a driveway. At the end of the driveway a footpath cuts across and then there is another drive which goes down to the road. It is long enough to fit at least 4 cars because the house is set back from the road. Relatively modern development but ours and next door are the only ones in the street with such driveway. Our boundary runs from the edge of our garage down to the main road as shown in our deeds, there is a line where the concrete has been laid on the 2nd bit of the drive but other than that there is no visible division if you see what I mean. We park our car on the drive just in line with our house. A new couple have moved in next door with 3 cars. Instead of moving one of their cars off the drive to move them around they have taken to just driving across our drive to get around it. AIBU that this is so cheeky? It's really winding me and especially my partner up. This is NOT a shared drive and they are driving across our land because they are so lazy rather than just move their cars. I wouldn't mind if they had asked or queried it but they just seem to do what they like. I've attached a picture so you can see.....hit me mumsnetters

Another CF neighbour parking one...
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Hoppinggreen · 14/10/2020 08:46

That would piss me off as well.
Is there anyway you can position plant pots to make the angle more difficult for them?

Proudling · 14/10/2020 08:46

That would piss me off purely because they’d not asked. I’d either put a fence in to the edges so that they can’t swerve over like they do, or I’d take to parking on the lower drive.

WoWsers16 · 14/10/2020 08:47

Totally would annoy me too! I'd speak to them first , or park my car closer to the path so they can't just drive across - then do either the plant pot thing or big rocks :) I'd hate that and it's so cheeky!!

SoupDragon · 14/10/2020 08:48

I'd start parking on the roadside bit of driveway.

Bloomburger · 14/10/2020 08:48

I'd park my car on the bit between the path and the road. They can then move their car or ask you to move yours and you can then say NO!

Proudling · 14/10/2020 08:48

Yeah realistically speak to them first. Tell them it’s your private drive and you’d rather they didn’t use it for access. Besides anything that’s wear and tear on your drive with then having so many cars too.

Ronniesgirl · 14/10/2020 08:49

I personally would get several large plant pots and use them to ‘divide’ the driveway. Heavy enough so they can’t shift them and close enough together they can’t drive in between them. Plus you could get some really pretty flowers/foliage to look at.

Kerberos · 14/10/2020 08:49

Honestly i don't think i could get wound up about this. It's not a big deal really is it?

PimlicoJo · 14/10/2020 08:50

I think they should have spoken to you about it, but what they're doing wouldn't annoy me that much. They're not parking on your drive, just quickly driving over it. Do you really want them to move their cars every time?

I think it's cheeky that they didn't speak to you about it though so from that perspective I can see why you're annoyed.

myhobbyisouting · 14/10/2020 08:50

This wouldn't bother me. It's a drive, for driving on. Wait til you become a 3 car household Grin

TLIMSISNW · 14/10/2020 08:51

I normally love a parking thread but unless they’re squeezing g past your car, I don’t think I can get riled up about this one.

They’re rude to not ask though and I do get why you’re annoyed as, after all it is your property so you’re totally within your rights to ask them to stop it. I’m just not sure it’s worth the headspace or the potential awkwardness with the neighbours.

AyDeeAitchDee · 14/10/2020 08:51

Yes I think it's plant pot time!

This is CF-ery!

makingmammaries · 14/10/2020 08:52

Park at the end of your drive as PP suggested, then they’ll have to stop. I wouldn’t let that become a habit or it will get worse.

Hie2021 · 14/10/2020 08:53

Park your car on that bit between the footpath and the road.

SoupDragon · 14/10/2020 08:54

On the face of it its not a problem but you don't want any risk of them being able to claim access rights over the land.

AdoptAdaptImprove · 14/10/2020 08:55

OP, if it wasn’t for the fact that you say you’re the only ones with this arrangement on your development, I’d think you lived opposite me. The houses on that side have exactly the same layout, and my desk looks out of the window facing them. When I first noticed what you describe happening a few weeks ago, my first thought was ‘ooh, you cheeky fuckers’.

Just park one of your cars in the space just off the road, and stop them getting access that way. If they challenge you, just say it’s to make it easier for people delivering parcels to get to the door. I can’t imagine they’d be cheeky enough to complain, though given what I read here, I wouldn’t rule it out entirely.

PegasusReturns · 14/10/2020 08:56

It would irritate me that they hadn’t asked but if they did it would be difficult to refuse without being seen as totally unreasonable.

I’d speak to them and say you were planning on delineating the space with a fence/hedge, make an excuse that it hasn’t been done because of Covid, and you’ve noticed that they’re using your drive so wanted to let them know the plan.

If for any reason you can’t delineate YANBU but I think for the sake of neighbourly relations you probably need to suck it up.

Florencex · 14/10/2020 08:56

I think they are cheeky to do that without asking, but at the same time, I don’t think it would especially bother me as it doesn’t really impact me.

If it did bother me, I would start parking on the lower bit of the path.

steppemum · 14/10/2020 08:56

Large rectangular concrete planter with some pretty hedging in it.
Down the line in the concrete which shows where your drive edge is.

or you could talk to them Grin

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 14/10/2020 08:58

I'm usually the first one to get wound up about a cf Parker, but I don't think this would bother me too much. Can you park your car further down?

Florencex · 14/10/2020 08:58

@Ronniesgirl

I personally would get several large plant pots and use them to ‘divide’ the driveway. Heavy enough so they can’t shift them and close enough together they can’t drive in between them. Plus you could get some really pretty flowers/foliage to look at.
I don’t understand that solution. That would surely also block OP getting off the drive.
Howlooseisyourgoose · 14/10/2020 08:58

That would annoy me! I would part my car there until I found a permanent solution.

WorkingItOutAsIGo · 14/10/2020 08:59

You say it’s a new development. I would check whether you own that piece of land before getting upset about it.

Charleyhorses · 14/10/2020 08:59

You have to tell them if it bothers you.
Wouldn't bother me.

Woui · 14/10/2020 09:01

Nope, couldn't get worked up over this.