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Another CF neighbour parking one...

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Lillipops · 14/10/2020 08:43

Hello fellow Mumsnetters I have for you a CF neighbor parking issue I have included a diagram so I hope it makes sense. We live in a semi detached house which has a driveway. At the end of the driveway a footpath cuts across and then there is another drive which goes down to the road. It is long enough to fit at least 4 cars because the house is set back from the road. Relatively modern development but ours and next door are the only ones in the street with such driveway. Our boundary runs from the edge of our garage down to the main road as shown in our deeds, there is a line where the concrete has been laid on the 2nd bit of the drive but other than that there is no visible division if you see what I mean. We park our car on the drive just in line with our house. A new couple have moved in next door with 3 cars. Instead of moving one of their cars off the drive to move them around they have taken to just driving across our drive to get around it. AIBU that this is so cheeky? It's really winding me and especially my partner up. This is NOT a shared drive and they are driving across our land because they are so lazy rather than just move their cars. I wouldn't mind if they had asked or queried it but they just seem to do what they like. I've attached a picture so you can see.....hit me mumsnetters

Another CF neighbour parking one...
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AdobeWanKenobi · 14/10/2020 09:29

@DynamoKev

my partner chinned the builders I don't think that means what you think it means
I don’t think you do either.

www.merriam-webster.com/thesaurus/chinned

It’s regionalised but very much another word for ‘had a moan at’.

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Lillipops · 14/10/2020 09:30

Thanks everyone....car is parked on the second bit of drive and will be for the foreseeable....so cheeky! Hopefully they will get the message Smile

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swimster01 · 14/10/2020 09:30

That would drive me bonkers - it is so disrepectful of them. You need to put a stop to it by parking your car on the bit of driveway they are driving over.

It might seem trivial to some but this is how easements are acquired!

ExclamationPerfume · 14/10/2020 09:31

Chinned means punched in the face here.

Could you put some plant pots on the edge of your drive to stop them driving over it.

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Lillipops · 14/10/2020 09:33

Eeek I didn't know chinned meant punched...although if I hadn't have stepped in he probably would have. We have encountered nightmare neighbors once before which resulted in us selling up quickly, moving into rented and saving like crazy to buy our forever home which is where we are now. I just don't want to fall out with them but they are making it very difficult!

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2me2u2u2me · 14/10/2020 09:34

It would bug me too, just inconsiderate and definitely CFs. I think that the fact they think it's ok to do this means you won't get anywhere by asking them not to.

I would continue to park your car on your own lower drive and be looking to install a gate so they can't get through.

ashton38 · 14/10/2020 09:34

I'm a bit shocked at "chinned the builders"! Did your partner punch them?

HoneyBee03 · 14/10/2020 09:34

This wouldn't usually bother me BUT you say it's damaging your driveway. I'd also be annoyed at their builders leaving concrete marks. If you say you're getting your driveway re-done soon, can you add a fence at the same time? Avoids you looking petty as the fence would just be part of having the driveway done.

Coffeecak3 · 14/10/2020 09:36

Your dh should have chinned the neighbours not the builders as the builders are employed by them.
Is there a reason you haven’t just told them to stop driving on your land?

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Lillipops · 14/10/2020 09:36

No where we live in the north chinned means had a go at, pulled them up for something. My partner didn't punch anyone Blush

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AdobeWanKenobi · 14/10/2020 09:37

@ashton38

I'm a bit shocked at "chinned the builders"! Did your partner punch them?
You’re shocked? Did you not read the bit then where chinning means had a moan, complained to in some regions?
SlothMama · 14/10/2020 09:37

It would bother me as it's lazy and your property, I'd just block off their access. Particularly after what their builders did.

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Lillipops · 14/10/2020 09:38

Just trying to avoid confrontation to be honest, will see how it goes hopefully they will get the message

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Cheeseandlobster · 14/10/2020 09:38

The builders thing was very cheeky.
BUT this issue is a non issue. Its a driveway designed to hold weight and they are literally just using the extra space to turn. You may end up living next door to them for a long time so dont do something petty to prove a point. Living harmoniously is much more important imo

LabiaMinoraPissusFlapus · 14/10/2020 09:42

It is annoying but if they are otherwise good neighbours, I would let it go. Falling out with your neighbours could be a lot worse than them driving over your drive. If they are awkward in other ways, or noisy, then I would stop them.

Proudling · 14/10/2020 09:42

@Lillipops

No where we live in the north chinned means had a go at, pulled them up for something. My partner didn't punch anyone Blush
I live in NW and chinned means punched!

I was shocked at your DP until I realised what you meant Grin

raddledoldmisanthropist · 14/10/2020 09:43

Log it with 101 and get some penguin bollards. Sorry, I just can't do it.

I wouldn't care. We part share a big drive with neighbours and will happily let each other use both sides.

Another neighbour and their kids were playing on our drive the other day, to avoid riding in the road. I moved our car so they had more room and offered them a drink.

I like my MiL, don't send thank you cards, encourage the builders to use our loo and think teachers should be left alone to do their job. I'm just not Mumsnetty :-(

81Byerley · 14/10/2020 09:44

Is it really a problem that for a few seconds someone drives over your drive? I wouldn't think it was worth causing trouble with the neighbours. personally... I am very easy going though, so I wouldn't have thought twice about it if my neighbours were doing that. Someone mentioned wear and tear , but realistically, on concrete, how much damage could be caused?

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Lillipops · 14/10/2020 09:46

Lol no he definitely didn't punch anyoneConfused I just think they are being super cheeky and lazy. We double checked the deeds to make sure the lower part of the drive isn't shared and it 100% isn't. I'm expecting them to say something otherwise we just smile and say helloHmm

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parietal · 14/10/2020 09:46

Aside from the builders, I really wouldn't be bothered about this. Turning a car once a day does not cause 'wear and tear' on a driveway - they are made for cars.

If you can use their bit of drive to turn around / for a delivery to stop, and they can use yours in the same way, then you both benefit. Dividing the space up with fences / planters will probably make it look narrow & would be petty.

SomeoneTellBorisHeHasDandruff · 14/10/2020 09:47

This is CF behaviour, YANBU. I know this could be described as a first world problem but it’s wrong all the same. It is your property and wear and tear on your drive because they are too lazy to move cars around. It is not your problem that they have 3 cars.
I can’t believe your update where they had builders strolling around your drive and using your garden hose! I don’t blame your partner for having a go at them. Did they clean up the concrete??

I would as others suggest place some solid planters along the part of the drive they are using. You could speak to them about it, but it sounds like they don’t give a flying fuck about what is acceptable so I can’t see they would take much notice.

As an aside we have a similar issue with our neighbours. Their drive is next to our lawn, our NDN’s decided to plant a large tree in the middle of their lawn which means that they can’t easily open the driver side door to get in and out without hitting the tree. They park really close to the edge of their drive due to this which is centimetres away from our lawn. This means that any passengers think it’s acceptable to get out and trample on our lawn each time. They know it is wrong because on the occasions we have been at the front of the house and could see them arriving back they would actually let the passengers out first before parking on the drive.
We are quietly seething about this CF behaviour in a typically British way. We will be creating a border ASAP right alongside their drive with some suitably annoying plants to hopefully put a stop to this.

Allington · 14/10/2020 09:48

I'm on the fence (so to speak Grin ) with this one.

It's mildly cheeky, but not actually inconveniencing you. Chances are you will do something that they find mildly annoying but they put up with. So in the interests of good relations, assuming they aren't encroaching in any other way and it isn't causing damage, I would put up with it.

If it is causing damage, have a friendly word and ask them not to do it.

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Lillipops · 14/10/2020 09:48

We couldn't use their side of the drive though as they always have a car parked there...

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dontdisturbmenow · 14/10/2020 09:48

I really don't see what the issue is. Would you feel the same with people on the footpath briskly stepping over your grass to avoid another pedestrian?

If the parked there, absurdly, but just to pass the car and not causing any nuisance to you, yep, I think you are just looking for trouble.

Sarahandco · 14/10/2020 09:50

The concrete mixing would definitely upset me, however, I am not sure if I would get too upset about the other?