Another CF neighbour parking one...

[Lillipops]

Hello fellow Mumsnetters I have for you a CF neighbor parking issue I have included a diagram so I hope it makes sense. We live in a semi detached house which has a driveway. At the end of the driveway a footpath cuts across and then there is another drive which goes down to the road. It is long enough to fit at least 4 cars because the house is set back from the road. Relatively modern development but ours and next door are the only ones in the street with such driveway. Our boundary runs from the edge of our garage down to the main road as shown in our deeds, there is a line where the concrete has been laid on the 2nd bit of the drive but other than that there is no visible division if you see what I mean. We park our car on the drive just in line with our house. A new couple have moved in next door with 3 cars. Instead of moving one of their cars off the drive to move them around they have taken to just driving across our drive to get around it. AIBU that this is so cheeky? It's really winding me and especially my partner up. This is NOT a shared drive and they are driving across our land because they are so lazy rather than just move their cars. I wouldn't mind if they had asked or queried it but they just seem to do what they like. I've attached a picture so you can see.....hit me mumsnetters

We have a similar set up and my neighbour sometimes does this too, hadn't even occurred to me to be remotely irritated about it! Quickly driving across our driveway to get out as they are long and thin. Maybe I've misunderstood as I can't see an issue at all.

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@Lillipops

Ok so we have been parking our car on the lower part of our driveway, today we were replacing the landing light fitting and had the blinds were open on the landing which is the only window on the side of the house. Our neighbour was standing on our drive under our window...WHY? I can't wait to get the driveway done and some form of fence etc put up like seriously get off my land! We are going to have to say something it's getting beyond a joke

They have some serious boundary issues. So do mine; I really feel for you. What is your timeline for installing a fence?

Couldn't get out of my drive today as the parents of one NDNs students had parked right across the dropped curb, and blocked me in, and next door but one couldn't access her drive due to this.

Pointed out when he left that he was blocking 2 drives. He did that man shrug thing, so I asked him not to do it again (you can't bloody miss that you are blocking my car in, as he had to walk past it to get to her front door), and pointed out that there is parking at the village hall.

NDN comes out and says it wasn't his fault - yes it was, he was driving the transit van, and he didn't realise. Yes he did. Next door but one wasn't happy either.

It’s the stunning sense of shameless entitlement. And I don’t often think or say this but you know he would not have shrugged at a man.

I don't think he would have shrugged at dh, but it was the entitlement of my NDN that pissed me off. She doesn't give a shit if anyone else is inconvenienced.

I came home one day to find a van parked in the drive and I couldn't get in. I parked right behind it, got the cat cage with the cat, who'd just come home after a dental, and clambered over the stone wall to get to the drive and then the house.

I was getting the cat out of the cage, and settling him, when the door went, and it was NDN bleating that I needed to let the workman out. I just said she'd have to wait til the cat was sorted and left them waiting for 5 minutes, whilst I checked cat wasn't puking everywhere and was settled on the sofa and not wobbly.

We were getting rid of our old fridge freezer, and I wanted it out of the small sitting room, as it was being collected by the Council soon thereafter. We put it on the drive, near the house, so it was not blocking anyone's right of way, and you could get in and out, and my car was the closest to it. Cue NDN moaning about it being there, and querying when it would be gone. She can sod right off. She might find that we withdraw permission for her parents to park on our drive when they come over to sort her out. She's a fecking Cambridge graduate fgs; there should be some common sense there.

She can sod right off. She might find that we withdraw permission for her parents to park on our drive when they come over to sort her out.

Why on earth are you allowing that? That's the kind of agreement that you'd have with a friendly neighbour who treats you with respect and understands the concept of give and take - not somebody who does whatever she likes couldn't care less about respecting your rights and basically laughs in your face.

OP i cannot understand why on earth would you not come out and ask neighbour if you can help him with anything? If he was acting clueless just tell him to get of your driveway. Simpler solution rather than waiting for the fence to be installed ?

I have no idea...they seem to think our land is theirs

If they didn't like it or consider it they should never have bought the gaff. Rumour has it they're gonna do their drive imminently....I believe it when I see it. What I do know is they won't let us know when it's getting done

Webuilt
Why on earth are you allowing that?

I'm not, dh did. He did say the other weekend that they were thrashing the arse out of it when they had both their cars parked on our drive, blocking both our vehicles, and we had to ask them to move. The Mum did the irritating 'Oh I'll think about it' titter, and I sat in the car and said to ds that I might just go all Belgian on her and demonstrate why cars have bumpers.

thegcatsmother

Sorry, I'm not quite sure I follow. So your DH gave them permission to use your drive in advance or did he see them already having parked on there without asking and you struggled to make them accept that they didn't have permission to do so?

Either way, they sound horrible.

Dh had a conversation with NDNs Mum, and said she could park on the drive when she popped over, when she was parked there one day. Dh is far more tolerant than I am.

When the house was unoccupied before we moved back, NDN abused the workmen who came to do things to the house (arranged by my letting agents who were sorting things out as we were abroad) and shouted at them for parking on the drive. Really gave them a mouthful. One of them turned round and pointed out that he was there on my drive, on my say so, and that unless she had the deeds to said drive, he was going to park there.

She is shocking. She really does seem to believe that she owns your house and land - and occasionally deigns to allow you to use it yourself. Nasty woman.

@thegcatsmother wtf?! What is wrong with people? This would give me the rage... if you want the right to park on your land PAY for it don't sponge off of folk!

Lillipops It gives me the rage - but I am in my 50s and the NDN is in her late 20s/early 30s, and I keep telling myself to be mature and rise above it, but it is very hard.

I had driven back from abroad prior to the removal guys arriving, and so was here for 6 days before dh arrived, as he was working. I stood for 6 days and watched her park on my drive in disbelief, until I told her to move her car as dh would be home and would need to access the side of the house where he parks. I got asked at what time he'd be back, and she'd move it just before. I think normal interaction just slides off her.

I did point out that we had paid the mortgage on the drive for our convenience and not hers, but it just passed her by.