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Another CF neighbour parking one...

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Lillipops · 14/10/2020 08:43

Hello fellow Mumsnetters I have for you a CF neighbor parking issue I have included a diagram so I hope it makes sense. We live in a semi detached house which has a driveway. At the end of the driveway a footpath cuts across and then there is another drive which goes down to the road. It is long enough to fit at least 4 cars because the house is set back from the road. Relatively modern development but ours and next door are the only ones in the street with such driveway. Our boundary runs from the edge of our garage down to the main road as shown in our deeds, there is a line where the concrete has been laid on the 2nd bit of the drive but other than that there is no visible division if you see what I mean. We park our car on the drive just in line with our house. A new couple have moved in next door with 3 cars. Instead of moving one of their cars off the drive to move them around they have taken to just driving across our drive to get around it. AIBU that this is so cheeky? It's really winding me and especially my partner up. This is NOT a shared drive and they are driving across our land because they are so lazy rather than just move their cars. I wouldn't mind if they had asked or queried it but they just seem to do what they like. I've attached a picture so you can see.....hit me mumsnetters

Another CF neighbour parking one...
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SoupDragon · 14/10/2020 09:01

I would check whether you own that piece of land

From the OP Our boundary runs from the edge of our garage down to the main road as shown in our deeds

Whammyyammy · 14/10/2020 09:02

It would bother me, but only a little. So long as they're not parking on your drive, be neighbourly and ignore it.

emilyfrost · 14/10/2020 09:02

I don’t see the issue. How can this bother you? Confused

They’re not parking there, just driving over it.

wombat1a · 14/10/2020 09:03

First world problem, I couldn't get all upset over that.

PrincessButtockUp · 14/10/2020 09:03

I'm not sure how much this particular issue would wind me up, to be honest, but as it is bothering you and your OH, you need a solution. Bear in mind though that these are your neighbours and good neighbourly relations can be a real asset. Neighbours from hell ruin lives. So before making any changes, can you approach them about it in a friendly way? Say you were thinking the concrete is a bit dull and you were planning to put some planters down your side because you'd like to look out and see flowers, maybe. Then put them down the edge so they can't do this. All very polite and friendly with no room for things to get nasty.

BruceAndNosh · 14/10/2020 09:03

Hmm, I'm torn. They are definitely being a bit cheeky but at least their method means Car 2 starts their engine and drives off via your far bit of drive.
The correct way (not using your drive) would entail Car 1 driving out their drive, idling on the road, Car 2 starting up and driving straight out, then Car 1 being driven back on to their drive.. More noise and fumes and equally un-neighbourly

LagneyandCasey · 14/10/2020 09:05

Do you definitely own the bottom piece of driveway? If there's a footpath there surely it's a public right of way?

steppemum · 14/10/2020 09:08

@steppemum

Large rectangular concrete planter with some pretty hedging in it. Down the line in the concrete which shows where your drive edge is.

or you could talk to them Grin

Oh I have just realised that wouldn't work (well, not unless you blocked the footpath too).

I guess you'll have to talk to them!

I would point out that when the driveway needs repait/replacing, you will have to foot the bill for their use.

Keeva2017 · 14/10/2020 09:10

Not sure this would bother me to be honest.... however your diagram is top notch, very neat and for that reason il support you on this.

Nottherealslimshady · 14/10/2020 09:11

Yeah I'd put plant pots or planters along the length of your boundary with them both driveways, I'm guessing you cant block the footpath but you can block the rest of the driveway and they wont be able to manoeuvre in the small opening for the footpath. I think boundaries are really important though, I'd have put a boundary straight up when I moved in tbh.

dontlikebeards · 14/10/2020 09:12

This wouldn't bother me but it would drive my dh insane!

OrangeGinLemonFanta · 14/10/2020 09:14

@BruceAndNosh

Hmm, I'm torn. They are definitely being a bit cheeky but at least their method means Car 2 starts their engine and drives off via your far bit of drive. The correct way (not using your drive) would entail Car 1 driving out their drive, idling on the road, Car 2 starting up and driving straight out, then Car 1 being driven back on to their drive.. More noise and fumes and equally un-neighbourly
This. They are a bit cheeky not having asked, but ultimately it would be more annoying for you if they have to spend 5 minutes titting about moving cars around every time they went somewhere. I would grit my teeth and leave it.
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Lillipops · 14/10/2020 09:16

Yes we definitely own our half of the driveway between the path and the road it is shown on the deeds. I just think it's really cheeky and it will cause wear and tear on our drive that we would then need to pay to fix. We are planning to re-do our driveway from our garage down to the footpath and put up some sort of fence or gate to separate ours and theirs but there is little we can do about the second bit of drive as it's just tarmac. There is a bit of backstory in that a couple of months ago they were getting work done next door, I was out for the day so no car on the drive but my partner was in. Rather than move their cars off the drive to allow access for the builders they just let the builders go up and down our drive! They actually mixed concrete in front of our garage leaving grey concrete stains and they had used our hose which is on the wall at the side of the house. My partner couldn't see this as no windows down the side of the house but i saw it when I came in and my partner chinned the builders so I think i am getting a bit worked up on this issue. We have taken to parking the car on the second but of drive and they stopped doing it for a few weeks but I saw them doing it again yesterday. I've moved the car back onto the other bit of drive. Probably sounds petty but it's really annoying us!

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SBTLove · 14/10/2020 09:17

The infamous penguin bollard and some planters should do the trick 😉

mummmy2017 · 14/10/2020 09:20

They have shown they don't care, they know you mind, because the builder would have told them.
Just always park on the bottom and stop them from forming a habit of doing this.

DynamoKev · 14/10/2020 09:21

my partner chinned the builders
I don't think that means what you think it means

Antonov · 14/10/2020 09:22

I would pop into their house one day, take a plate from the rack, some bread from the larder, open the fridge door and make myself a cheese and pickle sandwich and a mug of tea. Then ask them if there is anything they wish to discuss.

Yesyoudoknowme · 14/10/2020 09:22

For all those who are saying 'it wouldn't bother me' I bet it would when your drive needed replacing before theirs! And yes, it is wear and tear. My parents share a very short road with their neighbours (who own the road) and the deeds state they have have right of access but need to pay towards it's upkeep, they wouldn't put that on the deeds if there was no wear and tear!

LagneyandCasey · 14/10/2020 09:24

Your last post changes things somewhat. They're obviously CF neighbours so I would just continue to put your car on the bottom driveway. If you try to talk with them about the issue they might take offence and become neighbours from hell.

SBTLove · 14/10/2020 09:24

@DynamoKev
Chinned means had a word, pulled them up. OP has used it correctly.

AlannaOfTrebond · 14/10/2020 09:28

Where I come from chinned means to punch someone.

cbt944 · 14/10/2020 09:28

Rather than move their cars off the drive to allow access for the builders they just let the builders go up and down our drive! They actually mixed concrete in front of our garage leaving grey concrete stains and they had used our hose which is on the wall at the side of the house.

How dare they! Boundary invaders, CFs, and entitled rotters! (Thank you for a decent parking thread, by the way, it's been a long time.) This is all just so wrong. YANBU. I vote for making it physically very difficult for them to continue in any of their offensive behaviours, by placement of your car(s), until other arrangements can be applied/built in, as polite requests don't usually have any effect on people this shameless.

steppemum · 14/10/2020 09:28

blimey that was cheeky of builders and by implications the nieghbours.

I would definitley be having a word

DeciduousPerennial · 14/10/2020 09:29

[quote SBTLove]@DynamoKev
Chinned means had a word, pulled them up. OP has used it correctly.[/quote]
It doesn’t round here, it means punched in the face or headbutted 😂😂😂😂😂😂

Whatamesssss · 14/10/2020 09:29

In my neck of the woods Chinned means punched them on the chin.

Very cheeky, I would have a word first.

Mixing concrete on your drive???? I would go mental.