Why is body size so important to some people?

[Beaverdam100]

I seen a post on fb of a sagging stomach area which had a caption along the lines of what real women look like after having a baby.

It didnt sit right with me. Some women bounce back and some women dont. Both are okay and real. Body shape and size seem to be a huge thing with some people and i find it really sad.

My mid area went back straight after the birth and i was in size 6 jeans straight away. My boobs on the other hand are wrecked but i get that other womens stay perky.

Anyone else find this obsession with weight, shape, size over the top? Theres more to life.

Not everyone can jump back into size 6 jeans...

No, but I think the point was that although the OP did, her boobs didn’t fare quite so well.

I find it really frustrating that people are very quick to say you can't criticise a woman for being heavier, yet the same people have no qualms about criticising smaller women. All this 'real woman' nonsense is a load of shit. As you say, some women genuinely to bounce back wirhout repercussions, we are no less of a real woman than anyone else just because our bodies went back to how they was

Maybe if like most women, you bounced back to a size 18 you might see that body size matters.

Loooool I could tell from the beginning of this post that the OP was about to say "I mean, yes obviously I am extremely thin and snapped back straight away... but I don't mind that other people didn't" 😂

This can’t possibly be the first time you’ve noticed that women are meant to measure their worth in physical appearance.

Seems like you created a thread purely as a stealth boast to me

It's easy to say 'there's more to life' when you 'bounced right back into size 6 jeans!' 😡 I'm 15 weeks after giving birth and was a size 10 when I got pregnant and have been as healthy and active as possible during pregnancy but I'm now a size 12/14 and it just isn't shifting!

Nice stealth boast. Might be worth remembering that it’s not women’s fault if they’re sometimes ground down by the relentless pressure of patriarchy and a hostile media telling them their bodies aren’t good enough because they have a financial interest in selling them the idea that they’re disgusting.

@latheritup

Not everyone can jump back into size 6 jeans...

whoosh!

I don't see why a picture like that wouldn't "sit right"

mommabear I'm with you - 10kg acquired over two pregnancies and just not moving anywhere 🤷🏻‍♀️

Well this was never going to go well.

Popcorn anyone,,,😂

It was something I was conditioned to worry about. So much so I worked out every day while pregnant in an attempt to stay healthy and t out in any excess weight. Actually, working out helped my mental health no end, I recovered really fast and I did ‘ping back’. Not hosting, just what happened. It was hard work though and the anxiety about it in the early days was not fun.

It's probably because you're just so teeny tiny, you can't understand how us giants think

Are you occasionally mistaken for a year 8?

Perhaps because we live in a judgemental world, and generally speaking people favour more attractive people.

As an ugly person, I think it’s easy for attractive or even just average people to say there’s more to life than looks / just be confident etc because the reality is people subconsciously don’t treat unattractive people the same. There is even academic evidence to back this up...

I get you op. I also soon bounced back to my usual pre pregnancy size. These "real women" posts are actually pretty offensive to many and still count as body shaming but that's ok because it's slim women who are being shamed and that doesn't count it seems 🤷‍♀️

Well that was littered with typos. 🙄

Um, didnt you read that my boobs are terrible? We are all different.

After my second, i was bassically looked like i never had a baby. However I had a prolapse. -No judge on body shape you don,t know the whole story.

Also, no one would ever remark on someone’s body size if they gained weight during pregnancy but I have been discussed at length because I didn’t. People are not kind. Isn’t that just as twisted?

@june2007 yes i had issues afterwards too. I worry what damage another baby would do.

This is why I hate the body positivity movement. It misguidedly tries to fight back against the ridiculous (and narrow) expectations placed on women's appearance by the media and society at large by glorifying other "types" of body, but still places what women look like at the forefront.

Body neutrality all the way. It's about time we got to pride ourself on what our bodies and minds can do, rather than putting ourselves/each other in a box based on what we look like...

Not everyone can jump back into size 6 jeans...

OP didn’t say they could. Just that it’s not the sign of a “real woman” to not.

OP I also lost all my baby weight (I didn’t gain much) pretty instantly, and all the criticisms levelled at Kate Middleton for daring to be a bit skinny after giving birth were really horrible. Suggestions that if you lost that weight you weren’t a real woman, must be miserable and starving yourself? Piss off.