Why is body size so important to some people?

[Beaverdam100]

I seen a post on fb of a sagging stomach area which had a caption along the lines of what real women look like after having a baby.

It didnt sit right with me. Some women bounce back and some women dont. Both are okay and real. Body shape and size seem to be a huge thing with some people and i find it really sad.

My mid area went back straight after the birth and i was in size 6 jeans straight away. My boobs on the other hand are wrecked but i get that other womens stay perky.

Anyone else find this obsession with weight, shape, size over the top? Theres more to life.

@DimidDavilby

It's probably because you're just so teeny tiny, you can't understand how us giants think

Are you occasionally mistaken for a year 8?

This kind of skinny shaming rubbish is just as bad as ridiculing someone for being overweight. Many grown women are naturally a size 6.

I get you OP.

I also don't get why people can't just be poor and happy. I mean, I earn 90k* and have no mortgage, but money shouldn't matter.

(*I don't)

Yes some people can be really nasty with their comments to women who snap back. Can you imagine if it were the other way around? There's too focus on womens bodies. I'd never say awful things about another woman's perky boobs. It's just they way our body dealt with being pregnant.

If people are overweight then it's a concern because it's not healthy. But most people want to look reasonably attractive and I can't see anything wrong with that. But obsessions with running miles a day and working out isn't that good IMHO.

@kowari I think that poster was just pre-empting how these threads usually go... the same posters who claim they “just can’t put weight on”, are usually also the ones who claim that aged 47, people often mistake them for their DD’s younger, more attractive sister, or ask when they are taking their GCSEs. Because they are just so, so tiny!

I’m petite myself, so it’s definitely not all short or thin posters, but it is definitely A Thing that some posters on here do.

Thank fuck for the 'hide thread' function

@JesusInTheCabbageVan 😂 exactly

The point is there was no need for the OP to say her dress size in order to make the point that it would be great if body neutrality was the norm. It was just goading people.

I hate the “real” posts. Slightly less irritating than the ones comparing being a parent with being a ceo etc.

Many seem to have lost sight what a healthy weight is and consequently we now have to weigh children in school and inform parents when their bmi isn’t healthy.

Size 6 doesn't necessarily mean petite or tiny. I'm 5ft 5, and in my mid thirties I certainly don't get mistaken for a year 8 child.

I don't ever get mistaken for a child. I look my age.

I hate the phrase 'real woman' too. Why are overweight women the only ones that can be considered 'real'? There is nothing wrong with being kind to yourself and your imperfections after giving birth, but it doesn't give people the right to decide who is worthy of being considered authentic and natural. Women that snap back fast aren't freaks of nature. I'm 37 weeks pregnant and yet to find out what my body will look like after birth, but I plan to be kind to myself and respectful of all women's post birth bodies.

You could have made the point without mentioning being a size 6.

I'm now, somewhat against my will, imagining an immense bouncy castle filled with women desperately trying to jump, feet first, into dangling pairs of trousers.

Clearly you get double points for s12 down, and bonus points for bouncing back into the exact same size.

@DimidDavilby

It's probably because you're just so teeny tiny, you can't understand how us giants think

Are you occasionally mistaken for a year 8?

Lol. Most ridiculous thing I've ever heard.

@noseresearch

Perhaps because we live in a judgemental world, and generally speaking people favour more attractive people.

As an ugly person, I think it’s easy for attractive or even just average people to say there’s more to life than looks / just be confident etc because the reality is people subconsciously don’t treat unattractive people the same. There is even academic evidence to back this up...

Yup. Try never having been near a size 6 AND ugly as f, OP.

I get you OP. I could zip and button my prepregnancy size 6 jeans easily within a few days of my first birth, and people made some really nasty comments. What they didn’t know was that my bits were blown to smithereens. Would’ve rather had a belly than permanent damage tbh, but hey, it’s all about looks right, whether “too thin” (bragging and/or fake, apparently) or “real”.

Ah ok, so that's your real issue, that women who "snap back" get awful comments, but those who don't, don't get comments?

Wouldn’t we all love to naturally snap to a size 6

er no thanks, I look best a size 10, anything less and I would look ill!

As someone who ‘snapped back’ (physically, certainly not mentally!) I think you are being silly.

Women who didn’t are essentially told they are ugly/shit by society. They aren’t making a personal dig at you by calling themselves ‘real’, they are just trying to make themselves feel better.

Stop whinging, they’ve got it tougher.

I hate these ‘real woman/man’ crappy posts.
You’re only a ‘real’ woman if you’re overweight with a saggy mum tum? plenty mums snap back or get stuck into exercise/diet, doesn’t make them less of a woman. I think these posts are made by ppl who need an excuse for being obese and doing nothing about it, it’s not from a nice place, nasty and resentful.

@Beaverdam100

Yes some people can be really nasty with their comments to women who snap back. Can you imagine if it were the other way around? There's too focus on womens bodies. I'd never say awful things about another woman's perky boobs. It's just they way our body dealt with being pregnant.

Can I imagine? Yes I can! I’m overweight and have been spat at and abused in the street. Are you seriously suggesting only thin women have their bodies judged?

Ffs OP.

Wow, that's awful.

Oh look, an entire thread populated almost entirely by judgy and/or jealous posters, busy body-shaming everyone they can think of. Well done everyone, OPs points very much proved.