Why is body size so important to some people?

[Beaverdam100]

I seen a post on fb of a sagging stomach area which had a caption along the lines of what real women look like after having a baby.

It didnt sit right with me. Some women bounce back and some women dont. Both are okay and real. Body shape and size seem to be a huge thing with some people and i find it really sad.

My mid area went back straight after the birth and i was in size 6 jeans straight away. My boobs on the other hand are wrecked but i get that other womens stay perky.

Anyone else find this obsession with weight, shape, size over the top? Theres more to life.

@GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat
I think you missed the point, slim women being told they’re not real women isn’t nice is it? same as the abuse you’ve had, not nice

If anything this post surely proves that hardly any women have decent self esteem, slim or otherwise.

If you are slim but find your pride mortally wounded because another woman tries to make herself feel a little better about herself, enough that you start being bitter and catty about it...why?

I’m assuming that you are just slim, not so skeletal that people stare. I doubt very much you regularly get men screaming from cars at you, or gangs of youths mocking you in the street. Or people assuming due to your body that you are stupid, lazy, a bad parent?

‘OI you, yeah you! Your so slim, what are you, a size 8? Slimmy!’

The horror...

@Badbanana
I don’t think these real women posts are somebody making themselves feel better, its demeaning other women and being jealous that they’re slim.
It’s time we stopped all the fear of commenting on obesity, it’s unhealthy, linked to numerous health problems and if you’re getting abuse in the streets yes it’s horrible but only you can change that, not belittling other woman to make you feel better.

[quote SBTLove]@GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat
I think you missed the point, slim women being told they’re not real women isn’t nice is it? same as the abuse you’ve had, not nice[/quote]
Yeah, no it’s not the same

It’s bullying and demeaning whatever way you look at it. A fat woman isn’t anymore a real woman or mother than a thin one, everyone is different.

‘Only I can change that’? The people doing the abuse can’t change? Of course they can!

I never said you had abused anyone, do you struggle with comprehension?
I said the abuse you’ve had isn’t nice and neither are the snide ‘real women’ posts, nobody deserves it.

It's exactly the same. Just because you view being fat more negatively than being slim doesn't mean that you can't insult someone by saying they're too thin.

@Beaverdam100

I seen a post on fb of a sagging stomach area which had a caption along the lines of what real women look like after having a baby.

It didnt sit right with me. Some women bounce back and some women dont. Both are okay and real. Body shape and size seem to be a huge thing with some people and i find it really sad.

My mid area went back straight after the birth and i was in size 6 jeans straight away. My boobs on the other hand are wrecked but i get that other womens stay perky.

Anyone else find this obsession with weight, shape, size over the top? Theres more to life.

Easy for you to say as you’re a size 6 and wrecked boobs can usually be propped up in various types of bras if required. For a lot of women body positivity helps with their state of mind - you shouldn’t judge.

Body positivity at the expense of other women? by demeaning them?
Imagine it was slim women claiming they’re ‘real’ and anything else isn’t 🙄

People say how slim I am despite eating like a horse etc and yes I am slim for the amount I eat.

But my god, when I take my top off, that belly of mine looks like I’ve been attacked by a pack of lions and been clawed to bits.

What I’m saying is, on the outside with clothes on I’ve ‘got a great figure so slim...’ Problem is, I don’t want my DP to see the ruin beneath.....

But shouldnt body positivity come from a place that doesn't pit body types against eachother? It's wrong to pull one type down to make another feel better. If you read my posts you will see that i have said that we all have issues, they may not be the same but we all struggle with our bodies in some way.

Honestly, how people like you OP live when you can find fault with such small things I don't know.

I would hate to have such a negative outlook on such minor things

@SBTLove

Body positivity at the expense of other women? by demeaning them? Imagine it was slim women claiming they’re ‘real’ and anything else isn’t 🙄

Body positivity is about women being able to praise or laud their own bodies without being judged by others. Like it or not society seems to hate women who take up space more than it does size 6 women with ‘wrecked boobs’ - I would hate it if my body positivity threads posted on a private fb got hijacked by a woman who has no idea of my issues just because she didn’t think saggy stomachs were a problem.

Yeah but generally people don't judge the women who bounce back to a size 6 straight after birth, and those women obviously don't feel the pressure to "get back to normal" presumably that's why its being brought to people attention

@GrumpyHoonMain
Yes celebrate all you like but not by bringing down other woman.
Saying what a real woman is IS being judgemental, we are ALL real woman in all shapes and sizes.

No one pulled your body type down

@Iminaglasscaseofemotion
Yes they did, claiming overweight is a real woman suggests other slimmer women are less real, it is pulling them down.

The Real Women was/is a kickback against the use of photoshopping of women's bodies to make them look smaller and thinner than they really are. It is not a negative comment about slim women.

Oh, and not just thinner, the airbrushing of wrinkles, freckles, blemishes and skin tone.

Hmm, ok, it’s went beyond that now

I think it’s easy for attractive or even just average people to say there’s more to life than looks / just be confident etc because the reality is people subconsciously don’t treat unattractive people the same.

Yep this. You may think you struggle with your body OP but you don't, sorry. A size 6 won't have saggy boobs ever. Maybe by comparison to your previous model body but not by comparison to plus sizes who will have never had perky boobs. This is also not something you would be judged on, or that even could be noticed in any setting other than total nudity. Again, not the case for plus sizes.

"Size 6s are real women too" is a bit like "all lives matter". Yes obviously they are, but no one ever said they weren't.

My boobs went up to a G cup and now i can literally pull loose skin. They are saggy. Please do no not assume what my breasts look like.