Why is body size so important to some people?

[Beaverdam100]

I seen a post on fb of a sagging stomach area which had a caption along the lines of what real women look like after having a baby.

It didnt sit right with me. Some women bounce back and some women dont. Both are okay and real. Body shape and size seem to be a huge thing with some people and i find it really sad.

My mid area went back straight after the birth and i was in size 6 jeans straight away. My boobs on the other hand are wrecked but i get that other womens stay perky.

Anyone else find this obsession with weight, shape, size over the top? Theres more to life.

@Strawberrypancakes

Is this a stealth boast?

Yes.

[quote SBTLove]@Badbanana
I don’t think these real women posts are somebody making themselves feel better, its demeaning other women and being jealous that they’re slim.
It’s time we stopped all the fear of commenting on obesity, it’s unhealthy, linked to numerous health problems and if you’re getting abuse in the streets yes it’s horrible but only you can change that, not belittling other woman to make you feel better.[/quote]
You do realise that some women, after birth have a flabby stomach and there really isn't anything they can do about it, no matter what their weight?

@SBTLove eh maybe try reading the OP again, it said "sagging stomach" not overweight woman, or obese woman.

I'm not bragging, just saying the truth in that my weight did go back but other parts of my body didn't. Nothing wrong with that.

I think some of the attitudes on here is really sad. We are all women and we shouldnt be dragging eachother down.

@Iminaglasscaseofemotion
I doubt ppl are being rude to strangers for a flabby stomach, I think we are all well aware at the snarky insinuation of ‘real women’ shitty posts, there’s plenty about.

@Wibblypiggly

Also, no one would ever remark on someone’s body size if they gained weight during pregnancy but I have been discussed at length because I didn’t. People are not kind. Isn’t that just as twisted?

Not true, I was a size 8 before I got pregnant with my first child. As soon as I started to show I got alot of very rude and offensive comments from damn near everyone on how BIG I was. One girl went on and on about it until I told her fuck off. Seriouslyshe would not stop, being politeabout it was gettingme nowhere. It was like everyone expected me to stay a size 8 at 9 months pregnant. For the record I had a big bump but didn't gain weight anywhere else. The midwife even told me my bump was measuring 2 weeks behind, so I wasnt HUGE at all just a normal pregnant woman.

People are assholes no matter what your size.

@RaisinGhost

"Size 6s are real women too" is a bit like "all lives matter". Yes obviously they are, but no one ever said they weren't.

This.

100x

@SBTLove well thats what it said in the OP so.....

I don't really like the real woman thing, but I always thought it was more about a reaction to highly stylised, photoshopped photos than a size thing. For example even slim beautiful models might not look like their photos in real life. Slim women can have things that are considered "imperfections" by society like stretch marks, birth marks, cellulite etc, etc. For a long time these were considered shameful, things we should cover. To not cover these at any size is showing the reality of a woman's body.

[quote SBTLove]@Iminaglasscaseofemotion
I doubt ppl are being rude to strangers for a flabby stomach, I think we are all well aware at the snarky insinuation of ‘real women’ shitty posts, there’s plenty about.[/quote]
No, its only ok if they are overweight right?

Please do no not assume what my breasts look like.

Lol. That's enough Internet for me for today.

Spiderbaby8 thank you. It makes much more sense when looking at it like that.

My mid area went back straight after the birth and i was in size 6 jeans straight away

In all of human history, I don’t for one second believe any woman has ever truly ‘bounced back’ after pregnancy and childbirth. At least not all the way back and if it does happen (skeptical), it doesn’t happen straight away.

@Iminaglasscaseofemotion
You’re determined to take everything out of context to suit yourself, charge on 🙄

@SBTLove enlighten me. What exactly have I taken out of context? I've just gone by what is written infront of me.

The thing is that heavier women are constantly made to feel shit about themselves, and then any statement of, this is my body and I am good with it, is decried as being thin shaming. Yes some do criticise slim women but it is probably the same people who do the same to overweight women, they are all fucking twats who should not be commenting on other people's bodies, however I do believe that the vitriol and crticism that overweight women get all the time is far more is volume and severity than the other end of the spectrum. And then to top it off any thin shaming ends up with an attack on overweight women with cries of "why is it OK to say to thin women when overweight women. Etc etc". Whatever happens the overweight women are dragged into it. And then the "I'm just saying it like it is bunch turn up to really slam the overweight women who dared to try some self acceptance back down where she belongs.

Highlighting a comment of mine and referring to flabby stomachs as if that’s why someone was being verbally abused, not at all what the comment was about,
My whole point is these ‘real women’ posts supposedly about body positivity are at other women’s expense, nasty and snarky.

However sb - slim women are frequently celebrated, why is a larger woman celebrating herself or being celebrated perceived as an attack on the slim?

I think when it’s worded that overweight is a real woman then yes it is an attack on other women.

Highlighting a comment of mine and referring to flabby stomachs as if that’s why someone was being verbally abused, not at all what the comment was about,

Honestly, not even sure what you are going in about now. The OP was about someone with a sagging stomach, not an obese person. In one of your pps you said something alone the lines of, its not nice for obese people to be called names in the street, but its time we stopped normalising obesity.

@SBTLove

I think when it’s worded that overweight is a real woman then yes it is an attack on other women.

Do you think people are saying slim women are unreal? Or are they saying that the perfect, body hairless, mark-less, photo-shopped women we are sold in the media is not real.

It’s time we stopped all the fear of commenting on obesity, it’s unhealthy, linked to numerous health problems and if you’re getting abuse in the streets yes it’s horrible but only you can change that, not belittling other woman to make you feel better.

Here it is. Again, the op was about someone with a sagging stomach after pregnancy, not someone who is obese. I'm not sure why you have decided that one equals the other. I pointed out that not everyone who has a sagging stomach after birth is obese, and no its not just horrible for overweight people to receive abuse in the streets for the way they look, its fucking unacceptable.

I'm with you OP. I'm a lucky bitch because I've had 3 babies, no stretch marks, no sagging...my body did literally 'snap back' each time.
But these sort of posts on Facebook sadden me too. Why is it even a discussion when you don't see men's bodies being appraised in this way as they age?

Because most people seem to need others to tell them what is normal and what isn't. They're lemmings. Facebook seems to attract a lot of lemmings, too. Horrible platform on so many levels.

Wow - you’re brave OP. Tin hat on. I would never ever come onto here and talk about springing back into a size 6. Yikes.