I've got C19. Why is my DH now pretending to be ill??

[dinosaurusmum]

I developed mild symptoms Monday (loss of smell, then taste a few days later) have felt a bit out of sorts but generally fine. Ordered home test anyway. Kept kids off school/nursery as precaution. Husband refused to isolate- "I'm not unwell. No symptoms. Why should I?!" In fairness he works outside and no contact with other others so not really a risk but not the point.

I've been extremely tired all week but thought it was migraine related. Imagine my shock to receive a positive Covid19 test today!

Literally the second I received it, DH has decided he is now absolutely desperately unwell. Has been ill for 2 weeks (err, no you haven't!!) Needs to rest over the next few days and has been generally painful to listen to all day.

I'm still feeling exhausted but getting on with it. He has absolutely no C19 symptoms but as with his usual attacks of hypochondria, I have to suck it up and get on with it. Including taking care of our 1&2 year old ds's whilst he sits on his fucking arse.

Aibu to expect him to grow the fuck up and help and that until he gets a positive test to assume he doesn't have it?! He was honestly 100% fine until my results came back.

@dinosaurusmum how are you doing?

The chances are if you have it you both do. Perhaps your symptoms are milder and he is genuinely sicker? But understand your doubts and if it’s a pattern then even if real if could be a boy what cried wolf too many times. Only you will know so no point in doubting you but the chances are he does have Covid if you do! So comes down to if you think he’s making the symptoms up or not

Didn’t read it all sorry. If he’s genuinely fatigued which is common he can fuck right off with the vodka drinking. I maintain it’s likely he has it but seems you have a lot more problems and things to contemplate than this specific episode so no point on only focusing on covid gate

OP, the virus takes a lot out of you. It must seem overwhelming now. Rest if you can and concentrate on getting better. You will feel more able to grasp the nettle once you have got your strength back.

You still have a way to go before your ducks are in a row. Bide your time and lull him into a sense of security. Avoid any dramatic gestures like sending his things away as that is the end game. You are not there yet. You sound like you know what you have to do for yourself and your dc. The scales have fallen

Well @dinosaurusmum,I've read the whole thread and I really hope you're feeling better now. Please get him out of your house and live in peace with you DC, he is such a waste of space manchild. Good luck

Are you ok?