I've got C19. Why is my DH now pretending to be ill??

[dinosaurusmum]

I developed mild symptoms Monday (loss of smell, then taste a few days later) have felt a bit out of sorts but generally fine. Ordered home test anyway. Kept kids off school/nursery as precaution. Husband refused to isolate- "I'm not unwell. No symptoms. Why should I?!" In fairness he works outside and no contact with other others so not really a risk but not the point.

I've been extremely tired all week but thought it was migraine related. Imagine my shock to receive a positive Covid19 test today!

Literally the second I received it, DH has decided he is now absolutely desperately unwell. Has been ill for 2 weeks (err, no you haven't!!) Needs to rest over the next few days and has been generally painful to listen to all day.

I'm still feeling exhausted but getting on with it. He has absolutely no C19 symptoms but as with his usual attacks of hypochondria, I have to suck it up and get on with it. Including taking care of our 1&2 year old ds's whilst he sits on his fucking arse.

Aibu to expect him to grow the fuck up and help and that until he gets a positive test to assume he doesn't have it?! He was honestly 100% fine until my results came back.

He's in the kitchen drinking vodka, feeling sorry for himself. "You think I'm a shit dad. I'll never forget that" good. Think about that and improve!!

To which the only answer is "Yes, you are. Now stop whingeing and fuck off to the spare room/sofa until such time as I organise my divorce."

Rinse and repeat till the fucker gets the message.

The fact that you used an example of him getting off his tits on booze and drugs to agree with his pity party that he was a shit dad and his reaction is... to get off his tits with vodka on a Thursday night speaks volumes.

How’re you feeling? Hoping you’re shaking off the Covid - everything else can be unravelled after, but yeah... you didn’t so much get the ducks in a row as shoot them and then put the decimated bits into pancakes!

OP your latest update is horrific. How dare he behave like that and then be offended that you mention it?! And also, a good dad doesn’t pretend to have Covid-19 to get out of all responsibility whilst his wife actually has it!!

(And the crisp packets? Is he 8?!)

Self-indulgent twat

I'd be popping his 6+ crisp packets in his pillowcase every night.

He sounds an absolute wanker and I bet your life will improve immeasurably once he's gone.

is he still pretending to be ill, the twat?

I hope you're better and able to leave soon.

I'd be popping his 6+ crisp packets in his pillowcase every night.

THIS! Or his work bag or similar. Until he goes at least.

It gets worse and worse, but you can put a stop to it all. Abandoning you and your son when you were too ill even to pick him up and were on doctor's orders not to be left alone, eating six packets of crisps a day and expecting you and your daughter to throw them away....even without the 12-hour sleeps when you're ill, this is no way to live, OP. I hate him too. Glad you're getting out.

Hope you're feeling better soon.

I had a manchild like this, kicked him out when I was 8 weeks pregnant with our 2nd dc and never regretted it for a minute.

It's shocking when you find that life with young children is easier when your ex/partner ISNT around. Once he'd gone I just had 1 less child in the house.

He sounds infuriating. So sorry you have to deal with this. Sounds like he should have been sacked off long, long ago as he’s thoroughly useless. He has an inflated sense of self importance and is very manipulative. RUN op.

Lord, he really is scum.
Thank goodness you are done.
Best of luck, mind yourself

Just sending you hugs OP [flowers

@MarriedtoDaveGrohl You REALLY need to grow up. Wow

@Cantbreathe2020 Haha I just love sanctimonious people like you 😂

Full of little cliches that mean nothing and achieve nothing. Things like 'two wrongs don't make a right' and other rubbish that will ensure you'll get regularly pushed to the bottom of the pile. Have a

How are you feeling?💐☕️

[quote MarriedtoDaveGrohl]@Cantbreathe2020 Haha I just love sanctimonious people like you 😂

Full of little cliches that mean nothing and achieve nothing. Things like 'two wrongs don't make a right' and other rubbish that will ensure you'll get regularly pushed to the bottom of the pile. Have a [/quote]
Eh?! You're making no sense whatsoever?! Two wrongs don't make a right is not a cliche but a fact of life!! Do you teach your children to do back, whatever anyone does to them?

@dinosaurusmum Hi how's things op?

Hope you’re ok op

Oh @dinosaurusmum - just read the whole thread and I really feel for you. Well done for seeing the light and make sure you stay strong.

I'm speaking from experience, unfortunately, as I'm married (at the moment) to a very similar man who has pulled some incredible stunts over the years.

The whole 'having to be the most ill behaviour ' gets very very wearing after a while - mine is aaaaaaaalwaaaaays worse than me (I have a long-term chronic illness but apparently whenever I get a flare-up, he's worse...)

They don't change. They stop the behaviour for long enough to make us slightly forget and then it insidiously starts all over again.

I've been spending the last year getting my ducks in a row. Even though you've just had a huge row and told him, still prepare. It'll probably take longer for him to leave than you'd think/like. Start the 'grey rock' treatment of him and do not look back.

He is a complete waste of space!
Hope you are on the mend op, and building up the strength to throw out the pathetic idiot!

Hope you're feeling better now

I hope you're ok op and on the mend from your nasty bout of coronavirus.

Hi OP... just checking in to see if you’re recovering. I can’t imagine how you’re feeling running the household and kids by yourself and making big decisions while so unwell. I do hope you’re feeling better.

Hi op just hoping you're ok.

The only thing I think you're being U about is calling attention seeking or laziness 'hypochondria'. It irks me a bit when people do this as hypochondriacs are genuinely over-worried about their health. My SIL gets called a hypochondriac when actually it's attention seeking bordering on Munchausens, a bit like your FiL and DH by the sounds of it