To think this mum is cheeky?

[YellowBeryl1]

About a year ago I went on a quiz night with a couple of friends, we bumped into a woman and her dh who live down the road from me, I didn't know them well but we exchanged phone numbers. A couple of times in the weeks that followed I suggested meeting up with her as we live down the road but each time she was busy. No problem, I left it.

Today she whatsapped me out of the blue, to say she noticed I collect my dd (year 2) from school on a Monday (the other days I pay for after school club, I work FT).

She asked if I can also collect her dd every Monday from next week and she will collect her from mine at 4pm (school finishes at 3pm).

Albu to think she's really cheeky? I don't even know the mum except for the one conversation a year ago. Her dd is year 6, mine year 2, they don't know each other, I dont even know her dds name!

I havent replied yet.

No need to reply at all Now op.
I’ve got a feature on my phone where individuals can be put ‘do not disturb’ mode
They can text. You receive it but it doesn’t ping or flash up on the screen
I’d be putting her on this list. Or mute on watts app
Just ignore her going forward

@BloggersBlog

"I cant sorry, but how much are you paying as I have a friend who may be interested"

Then wait for the "Ah no it's ok, thanks" reply from her

Oooh, love this reply!

God, I hate people like her. Always looking at how they can use other people. Have they no shame? I have a mom acquaintance like that in my life and it just baffles my mind. Do they just think we’re stupid?

I had a mum contact me from abroad, and another contact me for the first time in 4 years, re school run before this term started.

Both got short shrift from me.

Just no - why would you want the responsibility of looking after a child you do not know

Does this regular arranged pick-up constitute an illegal childminding arrangement?

Do they just think we’re stupid?

They know that most of us aren't stupid, but they're more than happy to work their way through until they find one that is.

Think of them like junk mail senders: they send out 100,000 leaflets, knowing that almost all of them will be thrown straight into the recycling (and it troubles them not a jot that 99,970 people have had to sift through, sort and bin it and that their council tax then has to be spent on recycling it all) - but those 30 people who will bother to read it and some of whom may respond positively to them make it all worth their while.

If you like you could even spell it out to her. "No, because you didn't want to meet up for coffee after we just met. Now you need me, however, you want to be mates. This type of friendship does not work for me."

There's no need for some of these rude replies! I would just say something like 'I'm sorry I can't - hope you work something out' then ignore any further messages from her

If you're only picking up your DD straight from school one day a week, she will look forward to that time with you too. You definitely don't need an older child you barely know in the mix.

Wow the cheek of some people!

@FlossyChick

This is cheeky and she might be desperate but if you are not actually friends it’s a bit off. There are people out there who think that ‘a friend’ is someone you met once. I have met a few Mums over the year who are probably ASD, they probably don’t appreciate that real friendships are more than this- could this be the case here? A girl in my DDs year at secondary school ‘told’ my DD that she was staying at our house- both her parents were away in the USA on business. My DD didn’t know this girl very well and the Mum hadn’t asked me. I called the Mum in the USA and told her that I would have expected a call from her to arrange this, especially if they were out of the country!!!! I don’t think she actually understood why I was saying this to her- it was cheeky/alarming and a safeguarding issue-that someone would leave the country without making sure their child was safe-but the weird thing was that she didn’t think she was doing anything strange. Do what you know is right for you, your children and your family.

That's shocking behaviour from the CF parents. How did you respond to that @FlossyChick and what happened to the daughter?

It was shocking but I also felt very sorry for the child. I told the school welfare officer (I felt bad doing this despite the situation) who contacted a grandparent-who then came to their house-both parents were out of the country with no arranged care. Sad. I know I could have just let the child stay and not told anyone but I did not know the woman or the child well at all and I wanted to flag the situation tbh.

When someone asks me for a cheeky "service" like this I say something like "Let me see if that works for me and Ill get back to you with a price." I doubt you will hear anything more of it.

You work full time, you choose to pick up your daughter on that day which sounds like it’s your day off, so why should you have to do childcare even for an hour for someone else you barely know instead of being with your child on your day off?

I know she probably doesn’t know that it’s your day off but you could tell her that. No need to feel guilty that just because you live nearby you’re obligated to help out and especially for someone who is only asking for her own benefit.

@FlossyChick

It was shocking but I also felt very sorry for the child. I told the school welfare officer (I felt bad doing this despite the situation) who contacted a grandparent-who then came to their house-both parents were out of the country with no arranged care. Sad. I know I could have just let the child stay and not told anyone but I did not know the woman or the child well at all and I wanted to flag the situation tbh.

FWIW I think you did the right thing. Completely unacceptable behaviour from the parents. That poor child.