To think this is not free time

[chocolatte2020]

I had the day off work today due to annual leave and our dc were with the childminder as they are every Wednesday. I pay for Wednesdays whether I work or if I'm off, so if I'm off work I still send them down and use the time to do something constructive.
I used today to make a start on some Christmas shopping for our dc and family. I always shop for my in-laws as I have the time and work less so I feel it's only fair.
My husband keeps making comments about how much free time I get and how I had all day to myself. I pointed out that I didn't have the day to myself I was doing stuff and he scoffed and said so "you weren't browsing for yourself either I suppose". I was gone 5 hours with two or those hours travel time.
Aibu or should I have been chained to the sink doing the dishes all day. I even left him lunch as he was working from home.

Your husband doesn’t sound very nice

Free time yes - but everyone is entitled to some of that!

Let him have some “free time” doing the same, in place of one of his hobby sessions. Then you can enjoy some free-er time as he has shared it

It’s free time, of course it is. It is your day off, and you chose to go Christmas shopping (I wouldn’t be using a day off in September or October to do this but it’s your choice). Of course you had the day to yourself, but there is nothing wrong with this.

The issue for me would be why your H seems to resent the way you chose to spend the day. And why he thinks you have so much free time? I’d be reminding him that he too has regular time to himself with his hobby nights and Sunday morning, and that you are quite happy about this, so why can’t he be happy with your arrangements.

Giraffey talking bollocks, there

Eh?

This:

I must be the odd one out here but even if it is free time WTF does it matter?
Do you dictate what your husband does in his free time because I’m sure he has some?

Anyway I agree, you were busy doing things for your family. But even if you went to a spa for the day (if they are open) you can do that if you want surely? Why does your time get dissected? Does your husband justify every minute of his non working day?

I would suggest next time you have a day off you don’t mention it and just do what you want, that way he can’t pass comment.

Why do you allow him to speak to you like this?

Actually I thought @Giraffey1 spoke a lot of sense. As did @Devora13 and the poster she quoted.

@lottiegarbanzo is right, how sickening to see so many women as well as men seem to think household chores / family’s stuff counts as free time if undertaken by a woman!
Stop shopping for the in-laws as he’s obviously not grateful op, and as others suggest, let him know he can use his ‘free time’ to do family chores rather than cycling hobby!
The lot of you saying it’s the OPs free time, shame on your sexist mindset all of you!

The lot of you saying it’s the OPs free time, shame on your sexist mindset all of you! angry

OP had free time and chose to go Christmas shopping in September.

I think most of the posters saying she ‘chose’ to go Christmas shopping are just the Christmas Bah Humbug brigade, and the fact that the OP is shopping early for Christmas has clouded their judgement.

If she’d used her day off work to search out a birthday present for Dh’s mother, I think those responses would be different.

@YardleyX

I think most of the posters saying she ‘chose’ to go Christmas shopping are just the Christmas Bah Humbug brigade, and the fact that the OP is shopping early for Christmas has clouded their judgement.

If she’d used her day off work to search out a birthday present for Dh’s mother, I think those responses would be different.

No beciaae shed still be CHOOSING to spend her FREE TIME doing it. Free time is time without obligation or duty.

Jez you were on annual leave, you should do what you want, I for sure wouldn't be doing in-laws shopping on my annual leave! Get me booked into a spa 🧖‍♀️🤣🥂

Well he sounds like a right prick.

Christmas shopping is NOT free time.

Christmas shopping is a PITA.

You need to step back.

HE has 10 hours free time on his hobby.

He sounds like he has you ground down OP.

Protect yourself.