Neighbour asked me to be quiet

[DBML]

Good afternoon!

My husband and I work full time. My son is 15 and never plays loud games or music. We bought him earphones many years ago so as not to disturb us, let alone neighbours. We are a quiet family; no parties; no late TV; no pets; nothing.

Anyway, next door (SAHM) have a two and a half year old and I understand how difficult that is, but I am getting a little pissed off. We hear the baby crying, sometimes screaming with a little tantrum and ignore...all very normal, no harm done.

But, I put the vacuum on on a Saturday to Hoover around and I get a text asking me if I can turn it off as they are trying to put the baby down for a nap and he won’t go.

Today, I’ve just almost finished my big clean of the week (as I said, I work full time) the vacuum is on at 1.30pm for less than a minute when I get the text.

‘Hey hun - were trying to get ** off to sleep. Can you do the vacuuming some other time?’

I want to say ‘actually, no I can’t. I’m doing my housework now’.

Would I be unreasonable to just start the vacuum up now and finish the job?

Send the text you suggested. They're being totally unreasonable and it will snowball if you pander to them.

I'd ignore. They should move the baby to another room, but expect you to stop.

100% ignore, they can't dictate when you do hoovering!

Tomorrow you set an alarm for 7 am. Do your chores then. And ignore any texts...
Your pandering is making their sense of entitlement a lot worse..

Ignore, finish what you are doing then reply with, sorry just seen this. You can see though that I didn’t have the hoover on for long.

Finish the vacuuming. You didn't see the message until you finished.

I wouldn't even reply - if she mentions it, just say you didn't hear your phone because of the vaccum cleaner.

“I’ll be finished in 10 mins” or wait until you are finished and send ‘sorry I missed your message - I didn’t hear over the hoover’

Wtf! Can not believe people actually have the nerve to text things like that! I would ignore and carry on. You don’t have to pander to someone’s else’s little darling in your own home!!! Sod that!

Ignore ignore ignore.

If you pander to them now they will get worse.

"No, sorry, need to do it now. Won't be long"

Or ignore. Ignoring might seem passive aggressive though.

I am all for being a considerate neighbour, and I hold the unpopular view that people should not play loud music, etc but your neighbour is being really unreasonable!!!! When else are you supposed to vacuum if not in the middle of the day?! Try midnight next time and see what they say! 😂

If they can't tolerate normal living noise they need to fuck off to a castle in the sky

Yanbu if you were doing some very loud diy I could understand the text but vacuuming?! No, as you were!!

Oh good. For a minute I braced myself for people telling me that I’m being unreasonable and that I should show a bit of consideration.

I’m getting the vacuum back out and I’m about to text:

‘Hi *, I’m afraid if I don’t get this housework done now, it’ll follow me around all weekend! Lol. I won’t be long xx’

Also please don't say "oh sorry just seen this" that suggests you think they are being reasonable which they aren't.

Honestly I would ignore or reply saying no it needs doing and I'm doing it now. I can't believe people are this self involved.

Totally ignore! That’s insane to request you stop hoovering! Their baby is 2 and a half? So probably dropping naps and they’re fucked in any case 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

Is the age a typo? You say its a baby? If its a 2.5 year old toddler they are trying to put down for a nap then your vacuuming is not the cause of the nap dodging. Their days of naps may be over. Carry on cleaning.

She's crazy, definitely refuse.

No, he’s a toddler, we all refer to him as the baby.

Right vacuum about to go again 😬

My God OP! They are being ridiculous - don't let them boss you around like that! You're absolutely within your rights to be hoovering up in the afternoon. Don't pander to them. They can't expect you to be silent!

If they had a tiny baby and were really sleep deprived I could understand. It would still be j reasonable but I'd made allowances. This is a toddler, she's nuts.

Let us know what she comes back with

Block and ignore.

They are being ridiculous.