Neighbour asked me to be quiet

[DBML]

Good afternoon!

My husband and I work full time. My son is 15 and never plays loud games or music. We bought him earphones many years ago so as not to disturb us, let alone neighbours. We are a quiet family; no parties; no late TV; no pets; nothing.

Anyway, next door (SAHM) have a two and a half year old and I understand how difficult that is, but I am getting a little pissed off. We hear the baby crying, sometimes screaming with a little tantrum and ignore...all very normal, no harm done.

But, I put the vacuum on on a Saturday to Hoover around and I get a text asking me if I can turn it off as they are trying to put the baby down for a nap and he won’t go.

Today, I’ve just almost finished my big clean of the week (as I said, I work full time) the vacuum is on at 1.30pm for less than a minute when I get the text.

‘Hey hun - were trying to get ** off to sleep. Can you do the vacuuming some other time?’

I want to say ‘actually, no I can’t. I’m doing my housework now’.

Would I be unreasonable to just start the vacuum up now and finish the job?

I'd just reply with a

and get on with the hoovering

Do you do housework in quiet, I usually like a nice accompaniment of ELO, showing my age, but always liked them.
Mr Blue Sky is brilliant for hoovering. Ramp it up, good and loud.

If they do it again, ignore it. Such a shame you didn't see the text till you'd finished vacuuming.

what?! That’s the funniest thing I’ve ever heard! 😝

Some
Babies actually sleep better with a bit of household noise in the background.

Please don’t ever stop hoovering or respond to this silly woman again, it’s giving her power in your bloody house.

If she finds bald enough to say it to your face, tell her that if this is the way she thinks she can behave, as soon as she’s managed to get her 2yo asleep she can pop on over to hoover your fucking house for you.

Seriously she’s being an unbelievably idiotic fucker

Finds balls not bald

YANBU OP but please don't make too much noise getting in the bath. You don't want the neighbours complaining about the noise of the taps running and the splashing.

Can they hear your vacuum cleaner through the walls? That is unusual.

They are, of course, unreasonable. Maybe they were a bit stressed out amusing their 2.5 year old and trying to 'settle' a young baby but, honestly, 1.30pm is a good time to do housework and it will hardly hurt a baby to go to sleep a bit later.

@oakleaffy

If a kid really needs a sleep, they’ll kip right where they are.. even at the dinner table. Or in the car or buggy. Kids sense tension in their parents, so being anxious over sleeping is likely to make a child more likely to play up . Exercise tires kids out, a good run outdoors has soporific effects.

This is hilarious.

All kids are different, just like adults. For many kids, the more tired they get, the more they fight sleep and the more any little thing gets in their way.

Wow I can’t believe anyone would suggest not to Hoover at 1.30pm.
Speechless.

Oh dear, the kind of parents who expect the entire world to stop and shush because of their child. Desperate, probably. But I suspect your hoovering has little to do with the fact that the kid won’t sleep.

YANBU

Finish that hoovering and ignore.

They are causing themselves problems if they keep the house completely quiet during naps or bedtime!
I know all children are different but I hoovered, watched tv and played music when my two were small and had naps, they now sleep through anything!

I have young children and no way would I ask my neighbours not to hoover!! The crying and screaming they put up with from my kids gives them a free pass to make all the noise they like in return!

I get both sides.

Soooo you can ask at what time their kid has the nap. It's just 1 hour or something so you should be fine to accommodate that and vaccuming slightly earlier or later.

If your neighbour starts being annoying beyond that ignore them!!!!

Anybody who calls me 'Hun' can fuck right off whatever the reason. Can't believe the CFery of your neighbours!

I think that if you're the kind of neighbours who are always quiet, some people take it for granted and start making crazy demands.
We had one neighbour who went to bed at 9pm and demanded that we be quiet. I had two young children so they ought to be in bed by then anyway so I tried keep quiet.
But one night it was shortly after 9pm, I was in the bathroom supervising the younger one while being careful to make no noise, the older one (about 6) was in her room going to bed. She stood on the bed to look at the stars and slipped, knocking against the wall. The neighbour, who was on the other side of the wall in bed, yelled at her and threatened her.
I don't think he knew I was nearby. I went to her window, opened it and shouted at him to open his, then told him off for threatening a little girl. After that I didn't bother about normal household noise, and DH then changed jobs so he was at home in the evening.
What a surprise - we heard nothing from the neighbour after that.

Send the texts and add we hear the baby cry a lot, can you stop him please

It's completely unreasonable to tell someone not to Hoover unless you are doing it late at night or very early or it goes on for ages ie 40 minutes to a hour .
Most people do a quick 5-10 minute hoover so I'm not sure why you would text someone especially when unless you are a monk and taken a vow of silence we all make noise . It's unreasonable for one person to expect the other to live their life like that .
If you want to Hoover hoover , I'd ignore.

@DBML she's at the end of her rope with a baby that won't sleep. Be a nice person, it won't be forever.

@Cherry678 the ‘baby’ is 2.5 years, he’s just dropping his nap!

[quote Cherry678]@DBML she's at the end of her rope with a baby that won't sleep. Be a nice person, it won't be forever.[/quote]
The 'baby' is 2.5 years old. Neighbour is being ridiculous.

I’d start hoovering up the adjoining wall.

But then I’m a petty wee witch.