Neighbour asked me to be quiet

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Good afternoon!

My husband and I work full time. My son is 15 and never plays loud games or music. We bought him earphones many years ago so as not to disturb us, let alone neighbours. We are a quiet family; no parties; no late TV; no pets; nothing.

Anyway, next door (SAHM) have a two and a half year old and I understand how difficult that is, but I am getting a little pissed off. We hear the baby crying, sometimes screaming with a little tantrum and ignore...all very normal, no harm done.

But, I put the vacuum on on a Saturday to Hoover around and I get a text asking me if I can turn it off as they are trying to put the baby down for a nap and he won’t go.

Today, I’ve just almost finished my big clean of the week (as I said, I work full time) the vacuum is on at 1.30pm for less than a minute when I get the text.

‘Hey hun - were trying to get ** off to sleep. Can you do the vacuuming some other time?’

I want to say ‘actually, no I can’t. I’m doing my housework now’.

Would I be unreasonable to just start the vacuum up now and finish the job?

They are being unreasonable! They need to understand they will hear household noise during the day which is perfectly normal and reasonable. Finish your cleaning and don't respond to them, they are so cheeky!

Our neighbour years back used to bang on our common wall when the clock radio came on at 6 am. Given that I needed to be out of the house by 7 I needed some sort of alarm loud enough to wake me so just ignored him. Actually it worked out quite well as if I slept through the radio coming on his banging would wake me up instead!

Oh I wouldn’t even acknowledge that text from her. It’s ridiculous.

I'd text back
Ok 🤣

And carry on hoovering.

Apparently babies who are around noise sleep through things like thunderstorms than those who have quiet.

I wouldn't have even acknowledged receiving the text. Ridiculous.

Did they bother to say please?

I would do it at a different time if it didn't matter when I did it but only if they asked politely, anybody not saying please can forget it. Personally I am glad my neighbours don't have my mobile number, I don't want them to be able to contact me like that.

Unless she wants to come and do your hoovering whilst you're at work then no!

Any chance you can get one of those carpet washers? I hear they are on par with hoover noise. What with all these viruses going around and the increase washing, makes sense to do this a couple of times week as well as daily hoovering.

Just don't acknowledge the texts, she's being beyond cheeky.

Your text is way too for how unreasonable she's being.

Two and a half? Mine dropped there naps around 15 months?.....

@redlockscelt

Did they bother to say please?

I would do it at a different time if it didn't matter when I did it but only if they asked politely, anybody not saying please can forget it. Personally I am glad my neighbours don't have my mobile number, I don't want them to be able to contact me like that.

I'm the same. Plus over text you cannot see them walk off with their tail between their legs when you tell them politely to fuck off.

Once the vacuum is on, does she expect that you’ll actually hear a text, and stop what you’re doing to read it? Ignore, carry on, text back an hour later saying you didn’t see it, but need to get the housework done on your day off. I wouldn’t apologise, it’s a Saturday afternoon, not 2am!

*way too nice that should have been

ignore it

That's a great reply. Firm but friendly.

This is why its a bad idea to creep around sleeping babies and get them used to absolute silence. Life has to go on around them. I'm afraid I wouldn't even entertain the neighbour's requests.

My reply would be fuck off hun

If you do reply, don't say sorry, it implies that you think you are in the wrong and she is being reasonable, she is not! Just text back, "I need to clean my house." That's it. You are not being unreasonable, you are just trying to live in your own home.

Ask for a timetable of when you are allowed to hoover, flush the toilet, have a shower etc.

I think you need to tell it like it is. Reply with "Sorry, no, Saturday afternoon is a reasonable time to do housework. The vacuum noise is unlikely to be the reason XX won't nap anyway".

I wouldn’t even respond. They are being ridiculous. Like hell I’d plan my housework around next door’s toddler’s naps.

Our neighbours are gutting their whole house and always ask what times are bad for us for them
To be loud... we say please crack on and do what you got to do.

At 130pm?? U shouldn't hoover??

Definitely dont ignore .text right back..i need to do this now

You cant let them boss u around like that