Neighbour asked me to be quiet

[DBML]

Good afternoon!

My husband and I work full time. My son is 15 and never plays loud games or music. We bought him earphones many years ago so as not to disturb us, let alone neighbours. We are a quiet family; no parties; no late TV; no pets; nothing.

Anyway, next door (SAHM) have a two and a half year old and I understand how difficult that is, but I am getting a little pissed off. We hear the baby crying, sometimes screaming with a little tantrum and ignore...all very normal, no harm done.

But, I put the vacuum on on a Saturday to Hoover around and I get a text asking me if I can turn it off as they are trying to put the baby down for a nap and he won’t go.

Today, I’ve just almost finished my big clean of the week (as I said, I work full time) the vacuum is on at 1.30pm for less than a minute when I get the text.

‘Hey hun - were trying to get ** off to sleep. Can you do the vacuuming some other time?’

I want to say ‘actually, no I can’t. I’m doing my housework now’.

Would I be unreasonable to just start the vacuum up now and finish the job?

If a kid really needs a sleep, they’ll kip right where they are.. even at the dinner table.
Or in the car or buggy.
Kids sense tension in their parents, so being anxious over sleeping is likely to make a child more likely to play up .
Exercise tires kids out, a good run outdoors has soporific effects.

Next doors Hoover was the reason we moved. The husband got home from work about 11pm. All was quiet until about 10.45 and then the wife hoovered every room banging the hoover of the skirting board. It only lasted 15 minutes but usually woke the baby and toddler. Then, once he got home they had a cigarette on the back doorstep and the smell came in the vent and window in our bedroom.

They were the nicest couple ever and we never mentioned it to them. We just made sure that our next house was detached!

YANBU

Ignore. Its the least confrontational way of dealing with this. They’ve clearly pandered too long to giving their baby silence while getting to sleep, and made themselves a problem now it’s so old and demands silence.

It’s their problem not yours. We didn’t tiptoe around ours, and now he’d probably sleep through an earthquake.

When you see her perhaps jokingly mention that you've decided to remove your carpets and have hardwood flooring installed. Let her see how ridiculous her request was.

This is your perfect opportunity to use the 😂 emoji. Well, lots of them.

I also hear many noises from next door and guess they hear the same from us but have never asked them not to make noise.

A previous neighbour used to hoover very early, like 6am or 6:30am, I did have a word about that and she hadn't realised we'd hear. That was in a flat so she was disturbing many neighbours all at once!

Yep, I’d have just pretended I hadn’t seen the text.

Yes another example of the piss poor acoustic isolation of UK pousing:(

You’ve handled this really well. Did she respond?

So cheeky I would be fuming.

Next time the child cries send a text saying "can you shut your f-big kid up" hoover away!

I used to live in a flat where the people underneath had a toddler. They asked me to not have my alarm set in the morning (it just went once, then I got straight up) because once DC was awake, they all had to get up.

The weirdest thing was that I worked 10.30 - 6.30 in that job, so the alarm was about 8.30, not the crack of dawn.

Well done and carry on ignoring. Cheeky mare.

How cheeky lol. I’d actually be wanting you to carry on... lawn mowers and hoovers seem to help my kid nod off.

They are being unreasonable, it's normal living next to each other nose during the day. What's more, it probably won't take you more than a quarter of an hour to finish, it's not like you are going to be vacuuming all day.

Hoover and do what needs to be done...simple as that.....ridiculous for them to think they can ask you to be quiet because of a child....this is the real world fgs....nothing they can do about you cleaning...crazy behaviour....carry on and ignore.....next time u hear the baby send a message and ask her to keep the noise down from the baby as you are trying to rest lol...impossible....baby needs to get used to noise...good luck

Simply for being called “Hun” I would keep it on for the rest of the day.

If they want complete silence they should have moved into a detached house in the middle of the woods.

Do what you want. They can move if they don’t like it.

Jeez some people are so ridiculous! I'm sure the majority of us have been there where we're trying to get the baby to sleep and all of a sudden there's noise from next door but I wouldn't dream of asking them to stop!! I always think it's the fair trade for a loud baby/toddler!

Glad you carried on and told her no OP, the more you pander to requests like that the more entitled they get

the hoover is supposed to be one of the white noises that pacify babies !

Ignore it. She cannot control when you hoover. Mine always slept through vacuuming as I used to do it whilst they were sleep so they are used to it. It actually used to send DS to sleep. Sounds like she needs to get a grip!!

Just a simple no, or ignoring her would suffice. I wouldn't start pandering to her as she'll never leave you alone.

I clicked on this to say ywbu. But you are so far from U 😂
Your neighbour is proper mad.

Turn your phone off when doing housework.

Eejits. Your life doesn't stop just because the neighbour has had a baby - sorry toddler. Ignore them and tell them to stop being PFB.

Wow that's so entitled of them. Also seems abit rich they're not thinking of the noise their toddler could be making.