Takeaways

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Following on from another thread..do people really leave other members of the household out when they buy takeaways?? There are six of us, but I would get lynched if I got a curry in without involving all of us (even though that can work out expensive!). Are takeaways an adults only treat, or should the whole family be involved??

YABU - it’s fine
YANBU - it’s not worth the risk of the row and / or it’s a bit rude to exclude

There are only 3 of us, DS is 9. Most takeaways are for all of us except he doesn’t like curry so I do him an oven pizza or nuggets or something of his choosing if we get an Indian. Takeaway is a family treat though.

All in or none in!

Takeaways are adult only in this house. We've tried to order things that the kids might like but its always ended up with a 'yuk'. An expensive mistake so now we cook something simple for the DCs and have a curry later!

Sometimes me and dh will get a takeaway for just us 2 and not the kids, but it will be after they are in bed. Very very occasionally I will order a chicken kebab (dh doesn't eat them) just for me. Sometimes I will order pizza just for the dc. I don't think it needs to be a whole family thing, but I wouldn't order say a Chinese and not ask dh if he wants anything.

Pizza or chippy- all of us
Chinese or Indian- me, dh and eldest dd only, the younger two wouldn't eat it.

Would never, ever order a takeaway and not ask others if they want anything.

Its only me and my 2 sons so I wouldn't get a take away for just me, its a family occasion.
Growing up it was like that too, my parents wouldn't just get something for themselves.
This came up a little while ago with my niece (14) calling me up frothing at the mouth with rage that my sister had gotten a takeaway for her and her partner but none for my niece so yes I do think it can cause family beef lol.
I think it would be mean once the children are of the age to be aware of whats happening.

All of us. Clearly unless kids are too small.

There’s a poster on the other thread claiming it’s perfectly acceptable to get a takeaway and not offer anyone else and someone else claiming they go out and buy it and eat it in the car.

However in general it’s perceived as a family meal. As said unless kids are too little.

It’s a family affair unless I’m out, they’ve already eaten and I just fancy a treat.
If DS (teenager) has already eaten takeaway then I wouldn’t offer as I wouldn’t want him having that twice a day.

It's just me and 7yo DS, so it depends what takeaway we get. He won't eat an Indian or anything like that so if I'm getting that I'll just buy for me and cook him something else.

Love the fact one person voted it was fine,, 😂

When all the kids were little we used to get takeaway after they went to bed.

Our eldest is now often still up at 9pm and usually joins in.

Family for us, but it can be a bit of a performance - one is coeliac, one hates curry. . . but we contrive!

We maintain a fiction of taking turns to choose takeaway once a week - more often than not it turns into McD's for the girls (or McD's and KFC if it's DD1's turn to choose, as DD2 can't have KFC, being coeliac), and we have either curry or Thai for DH and myself. Or Italian.

Pizza or fish and chips = everyone in our house (well me, DH and DS1 (8) ... our two small ones 2 & 1 have a tiny bit as a treat with there dinner)
Curry = just DH and I kids don’t like it
Chinese = just me as DH doesn’t like it but he gets his favourite local kfc equivalent without me too because I don’t like that

All are asked, those who don't want get something else to eat. No way would I "steal off" and buy one for myself

Ideally the kids would join us but they don't really like any of it so it ends up being expensive with them just eating rice and prawn crackers! I look forward to when they're a bit older and they can join in.

There's only me, DH and DS who is 6 so takeaways are for all.

We either have chippy or chinese - DS likes both.

DH isn't keen on curry from a takeaway so we tend not to order that.

The offer is for all - always!

A takeaway is either a treat or a can't be assed cooking night, whoever wouldn't offer?!

I can just imagine DH's face as he came down the stairs to see me accepting a Chinese takeaway having not asked him.

It is only me and DH and neither of us would go and get a takeaway without asking the other. When I was a child there were six of us and it was always a family treat, usually just the chippy back then in the 70s and 80s.

When DC were small ( under 5) we had the odd takeaway without them.
Once they got to 5/6 they loved a 'treat' slice of pizza or some chicken balls from the Chinese so it would have felt cruel leaving them out of this treat as it only happens very occasionally.

All or none.

All or noone in our house. My younger ones dont like curry but love a cheesy naan and chips!

I offer to include everyone, but I don’t limit myself to food everyone enjoys. I would never get to eat some of my favorites if I could only order from places everyone could agree upon.

YANBU.

Always offer to order to everyone.

Takeaway night = everyone in
Treat for one as an indulgence = fine as long as advance notice is given.

I find some of these "everyone must always be included in everything" comments quite suffocating to be honest. I'm so glad my husband respects my need for occasional solitude when we spend 95% of our time together. Sometimes the treat is to think only of yourself, not the food itself.

My kids are 10,9 and 2. They would much prefer to eat some child friendly stodge than a takeaway. So if we get one then it’s ordered to come once they are in bed or at least once they’ve eaten and are in pyjamas and hanging out in their rooms. They would rather die than eat Chinese or Indian and prefer frozen pizza to takeaway. I would never get takeaway without my husband though.