Takeaways

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Following on from another thread..do people really leave other members of the household out when they buy takeaways?? There are six of us, but I would get lynched if I got a curry in without involving all of us (even though that can work out expensive!). Are takeaways an adults only treat, or should the whole family be involved??

YABU - it’s fine
YANBU - it’s not worth the risk of the row and / or it’s a bit rude to exclude

My DC's are adults but are both living here at the moment. Sometimes one of us will get a takeaway the others don't like (DS likes Five Guys but me and DD aren't bothered for example). So sometimes we do just get one by ourselves.

If we all want one from one place (such as fish & chips) we each pay our own mostly. I don't charge rent but DC's have to buy their own groceries and cook for themselves. So I'm not paying £40/50 for a takeaway for 3 of us when mine alone would be £10/15. It might well be different if I had a long term partner/husband, but I'm not paying for luxuries for 2 grown adults when there's only my wage covering rent, bills etc. I do treat them occasionally but it's not the norm. So basically this means they sometimes say no to something when I order but I'm sure if I was paying the answer would be yes!

It’s a family treat here. There are child-friendly (ie sausage/nuggets and chips ) at most of our locals so those who doth protest too much at Thai/Indian food can still have something naughty they’re not usually allowed!

I grew up with takeaways being something adults did. We had fish and chips but never full chinese or indian takeaway.

Now, if I fancy one and DH does not then I get one, it vice versa. Not hungry = don't want one!

Kids aren't second class citizens but they are also kids and won't perish away if they don't get something adults choose to have. And I can't imagine feeding small kids such stuff anyway!

I think there are other issues going on on the other thread concerned.

Gobe it was exactly like that video. Except they were arguing about how would it be shared out equally. Madness.

Adults, yes I would include
Children, depends on what the takeaway is and how old.
Fish and chips, everyone. Chinese or Indian, adults after kids gave eaten

People are allowed to say when they would or wouldnt get a takeaway for themselves, regardless if it's in the OP.

I wouldn’t get a takeaway without DH and the DC they would never forgive me! Sometimes me and DH will get an Indian takeaway without the children because they don’t like it but I’d always ask them and then make them a treat tea instead if the chose not to eat it (nuggets and waffles)

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@CuriousaboutSamphire

I grew up with takeaways being something adults did. We had fish and chips but never full chinese or indian takeaway.

Now, if I fancy one and DH does not then I get one, it vice versa. Not hungry = don't want one!

Kids aren't second class citizens but they are also kids and won't perish away if they don't get something adults choose to have. And I can't imagine feeding small kids such stuff anyway!

DS has loved thai and indian food, and chilli, anything spicy since he was very young. He orders a vindaloo that is too hot for me and eats it like it's a korma. He doesn't like fish and chips. Think it's more preference than age.

Our kids are only 6 and 3 so tonight we had a burger/pizza takeaway and they joined us. If we have Chinese/Thai/Indian they eat earlier and we have the takeaway when they're in bed.

Depends on the takeaway. Chinese or Indian tends to be adults only. Anything else usually ends up being all of us.

Also, if you're talking about the thread I think you are, my DH and I are grown ups and used to eating separately as well as cooking for ourselves.

When I was growing up the DC never got takeaway. With my own DC they get a choice. They as often as not choose to have something home cooked instead, but they're always asked!

All of us

Dh and I get takeaways on payday but we don't always include our dc. In fact, we often wait until they've gone to bed before ordering them.

When children are little I think its fine not to include them so long as they dont know. When they get older this becomes harder to achieve so then its for everybody.

I too thought there were bigger issues on the other thread - the wife’s side of the story I think would have been very different

In our house they are mainly a whole family thing. Occasionally there will be a reason to have them just for the kids such as pizza & movie party while DH and I have a romantic home cooked meal. Sometimes just for the adults such as after the kids have had dinner at a friend’s (sadly not in the last 6 months, though).

But as a general rule we all eat the same dinner together anyway and have since they were a couple of years old. It would be odd to have takeaways for half the family and not the other. Also, we can afford plenty of treats for everyone. If money were tight I’d spend treat money for the kids on things they’d be more likely to enjoy more.

My mother and stepdad used to get takeaways when we were in bed because they didn't want to pay for all of us.
I remember the door knocking and smell wafting up and wondering what it tasted like.
One of the shittest experianced ever.
If we can't afford for adults and all kids in my household, we don't have one.

Fish and chips - family (kids are 8 and 5)
Chinese, Indian, Pizza- dh and I.

Awh I REM the days when kids were small n we'd get them to bed n have a Thai or indian in peace. Now with dc 13,11,4 no chance. If any of them hear whispers of take away they want their opinion counted n no way would we be left eat in peace -even the 4yr old tho all she'll have is rice n crackers! The others at that age would be tucked up in bed by 7!

I’ll say what I said on the other thread... there would be uproar in our house if someone got their own personal takeaway and didn’t give anyone else the option! It’s all or none here.
When the kids were really little we would probably order a pizza for when they were in bed, but they soon cottoned on and would appear downstairs a slice.
It’s expensive though for 2 adults, 2 teenage lads and pre teen DD so it’s a treat these days.

We are a family of 5ish.

Rarely get a takeaway for everyone.

No one is hugely fond of takeaways, its mostly a treat for me not having to cook.
So if a takeaway is on the cards, usually only one or two of us will want one.

We don't "exclude" anyone. Only DH, DD (9 months) and me in our house. Most of the time DH and I will agree on a takeaway but sometimes we get different ones on the same night (if I choose something he doesn't like or doesn't want or vice versa)

The only time I get a takeaway without DH is if he's out for the evening and I cba to cook

It is just me and DP in my house and we often get seperate takeaways. Doing so tonight as i fancy indian and he wants macdonalds :)