Takeaways

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Following on from another thread..do people really leave other members of the household out when they buy takeaways?? There are six of us, but I would get lynched if I got a curry in without involving all of us (even though that can work out expensive!). Are takeaways an adults only treat, or should the whole family be involved??

YABU - it’s fine
YANBU - it’s not worth the risk of the row and / or it’s a bit rude to exclude

@Iambouddicca

Takeaways are adult only in this house. We've tried to order things that the kids might like but its always ended up with a 'yuk'. An expensive mistake so now we cook something simple for the DCs and have a curry later!

Be glad, it costs a bloody fortune once the children start loving the food

Even Ds1 commented on it yesterday when we had a Chinese takeaway which was like heaven. Originally Ds1 and I ate the same thing, now Ds2 eats it too but we just order more but he could see how as a parent having your child declare they love it costs you money!

My sons are teenagers hoover up food

@Bluntness100

Sorry, wasn’t clear. Either it’s DIY - do what you like; older kids with own money and can order independently.
Or, it’s an agreed family meal so everyone included.

@CoronaBollox what! That means they have either the “main” or the side. I can’t abide non sharers when it comes to Indian or Chinese. It ruins the fun. That’s another thread though!

I wouldn’t leave people out who are present but I secretly ordered a pizza for my lunch the other day while DP was at work because I knew if I suggested getting one for tea he wouldn’t want to and then I wouldn’t get it either

@Hardbackwriter

Out of interest, when did people start sharing takeaways with their children? DS is two so currently any takeaway is when he's in bed because we'd want it later than he eats and it all feels too salty/unhealthy for a toddler - but this thread made me wonder when people do start giving DC, e.g., a takeaway curry?

DS was eating home cooked curry at 8 months, can't remember when we first had a takeaway. He just had some of whatever we were having from the start though.

At the moment DS is 14 months so he doesn't get a take away with us . When he's older though I wouldn't leave him out.

It’s me, DH and 3 dc under 5 here. As me and DH eat together late evening while the dc want dinner about 5pm due to bed time etc, yes the take aways are just for me and DH.

If I was out and turned up home with takeaway for me, DH wouldn’t care he’d just cook whatever he had planned anyway. No drama would be caused

We sometimes have a takeaway when the kids are in bed but they are all under 9 so in bed at a reasonable ish time.

We also had a McDonald's breakfast while they were all at school today - perks of working from home!

Obviously a 6pm Chinese, chippy or pizza we all enjoy together, except the toddler as it's a bit salty for him.

@Gobelion I kid you not. The shock on my face when I ate with them. Dramatic I know but how the hell am I supposed to have a lovely varied chinese if I have to choose 1/2 dishes. Plus it's very tight. My nan only ever ate a curry from chinese. No extras or sides because she didnt like them so we would order that for her then split the rest. Only time it is acceptable IMO.

Takeaways are extremely rare (maybe 2 or 3 times a year) so absolutely would not leave anyone out! I can see if you buy them more frequently they might be less of a treat, so not such a big deal.

Nah, depends on the make up of your household. If there’s individual adults eg students/house share or adult children living with parents/siblings then I think it’s okay to not order for everyone - they might have different tastes or not want to eat a takeaway at that specific time/day.

Eg I prefer to eat dinner at 6/7pm where someone else might prefer dinner at 10/11pm. I don’t want a takeaway at that time, regardless of what it is, I have already planned out my meals for the day. Especially if it’s a dodgy random takeaway with a low hygiene rating, as I prefer ordering nice takeaways from decent restaurants rather than a cheapo kebab. Some of my ex flat mates used to order takeaway virtually every other day, I wouldn’t want to order food that frequently

We rarely get takeaway (live in the sticks where no one delivers) but it’s always offered to all when we do. Even though my dh doesn’t like takeaway so in practice it’s always for me and the kids, we still offer every time.

When DC were young they were faddy and a takeaway would have been wasted.
However an adult takeaway on a Saturday night was the way we managed to get them to be more adventurous. First they were allowed little samples of our treat and eventually they were included in it. They would never have eaten curry or Chinese food if I had made it and it led the way in them becoming more willing to try new foods.

Takeaway is a treat for everyone in the house - which is why we do them rarely, because they are expensive.

I wouldn't dream of missing anyone out unless they said they didn't fancy any (fat chance!).

@CoronaBollox

This is totally dependent on the situation.

A houseful if adults or older kids then definitely for all!

House with smaller kids who are likely to be in bed or fussy then adult only.

In our house we sometimes do an earlier take away of fish and chips or Chinese with the kids but usually if we get a take away it’s spicy Thai or Indian when at least the smaller kids are in bed. Sometimes DD who is 7 will nab a bit but she has usually eaten already with her siblings!

Takeaways are a treat here so yep, we have them all together.

We do both depending on circumstances! Today is an example of adults only as the kids have their Friday night sports and then traditional Xbox late night. DH doesn’t finish work until 6-6.30 and that’s when we have to leave for sports. DH and I have both had shitty weeks that have ended better than expected so we are celebrating with takeaway and a bottle of wine.

However, if we have one on a Saturday or Sunday the kids will join in and we’ll have a vote or take turns (I.e man of the match/Mother’s Day/good result from school) gets to pick.

Obviously some kids are fussy so it’s not worth the waste - but I remember loving a chicken korma and naan bread as a treat when I was little - it felt like such a grown up treat (back in the 80s).

My children have always eaten with us if we've got a takeaway, thankfully they aren't very fussy and eat most food, curry being a favourite.

All get offered here, ds rarely says yes though and sometimes I don't either because takeaway isn't my thing really.

Occasionally we have got a curry or Chinese for just us 2 but that was before the kids wanted to try anything like that. They will just about eat stuff from there now so we tend to involve them these days.

Surprised at folks trying to find ways when it’s ok

If my teenager orders it for themselves for their own money. Or if I’m home alone, or the kids don’t like it and I’m a single parent.

The op is clearly asking if you’re the adult living with a partner, and or with your kids who are of an age who would eat it, would you order a take away for yourself and not offer anyone else.

We rarely get them but for us (DC 8 and 10):
Fish and chips = everyone
Indian = adults only. Kids don't like it!