Takeaways

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Following on from another thread..do people really leave other members of the household out when they buy takeaways?? There are six of us, but I would get lynched if I got a curry in without involving all of us (even though that can work out expensive!). Are takeaways an adults only treat, or should the whole family be involved??

YABU - it’s fine
YANBU - it’s not worth the risk of the row and / or it’s a bit rude to exclude

Just me and DD

Chinese=just me when DD is in bed as she doesn't like it

Chippy/McDonalds = always together I couldn't sit and eat myself whilst my DD eats something else

It wouldn't even occur to me (or dh) to get a takeaway for one and not the rest of the family. When the dc were really little, then yes we did, because they wouldn't have eaten it. But now (they are 12 and 15)? Never! We all eat dinner together every night.

Out of interest, when did people start sharing takeaways with their children? DS is two so currently any takeaway is when he's in bed because we'd want it later than he eats and it all feels too salty/unhealthy for a toddler - but this thread made me wonder when people do start giving DC, e.g., a takeaway curry?

It can be either way.

Always all in. Even as youngest in the family home I’d never come back with a takeaway without at least a couple of extra bags of chips for whoever might be in the house

Only exception would be a kebab in the early hours of the morning. You had to eat that before you got home cos the taxi drivers wouldn’t let you in the cab with it.

Takeaways for the purpose of not being bothered to cook/ran out of time due to activities - whole family, obviously. Tends to be pizza or fish and chips or KFC or kebabs or McDs.

Takeaway as a treat to celebrate an occasion - would depend what occasion and what we want to eat. Child's birthday - all of us- they choose takeaway. DH and I anniversary (or even just date night) tends to be curry/chinese (which the children aren't big on) and just the two of us. I tend to cook them something they really want (junk food!) if we do that, though - so they have a treat too (or they get McDs etc earlier).

I can't ever imagine a time where DH or I would get a solo takeaway and not ask the other what we wanted, or feel the need to sneak out for a takeaway! DH and I pretty much always eat the same thing together. (Luckily neither of us are remotely fussy foodwise).

I order for everyone. Usually do it on just eat so I can do a few different places if everyone wants something different. I will also text one of the kids if they're out to see what they want and leave it for them. We're a family of 7, my kids are older teens. When they were younger they liked Chinese and chipper so I ordered something small or things they could share.

It depends when kids where smaller,i would usually get them when they where in bed.

But now they are older,we all get takeaway.If we want something just for us,usually wait till they are in school and go for breakfast.

I wouldnt get a takeaway just for myself if there was other people in the house though.Thats just mean.

It’s just me and DH so wouldn’t dream of “sneaking off” to get one. I sort of think that one of the main things about getting one is not cooking, so cannot get why you’d knock up food for other family members and get a takeaway for yourself (unless very young and won’t eat a curry etc).

It depends on what we’re eating as to whether we include DD(6). Pizza will be for all but anything else is just DH and I and we have it when she’s in bed or give her something she likes instead.

@Hardbackwriter

Out of interest, when did people start sharing takeaways with their children? DS is two so currently any takeaway is when he's in bed because we'd want it later than he eats and it all feels too salty/unhealthy for a toddler - but this thread made me wonder when people do start giving DC, e.g., a takeaway curry?

I did as soon as they could eat. 18 months or so. We don't do takeaways very often. It was definitely a treat. We dont do them too often. But there has definitely been times that each member of my home has had a takeaway by themselves due to schedules.

I’m also trying to imagine my families faces if I got myself a take away, didn’t tell anyone and didn’t offer, then sat myself down and ate it. 😂

Dammit. Dreaming of a takeaway now.

I get curry when the DC are with their father sometimes. If they're here, they're included too. They're fussy and can't agree though, so we just don't have takeawaway... They like the occasional pizza, but even that is a faff as they like very different things, but don't eat enough for 2. Which is why I have solo curry when they're not here! It would feel bloody mean if they were though.

Depends. If it’s a DIY meal and someone chooses to buy a takeaway with their own money, fair play. Otherwise it’s a family meal so nobody would be left out.
Older kids here though so that may be a difference.

We'll occasionally have a take out once kids are in bed (they're very young)

@Bluntness100 can you imagine? “Who’s that at the door” then breezily replying “oh that will be my It’s just for me though”.

Takeaways / deliveries at home, everyone.
Sneaking out on my own for a cheeky maccas in the car? Totally fine also

@Gatehouse77

Depends. If it’s a DIY meal and someone chooses to buy a takeaway with their own money, fair play. Otherwise it’s a family meal so nobody would be left out. Older kids here though so that may be a difference.

Does that include the parents? 😂😂😂

Nah, no ones having any, I might be the dad but I got it from me own money, now fuck off the lot of you.

I think it depends on the age of the kids and the type of takeaway. Mine are under 8 and wouldn't like indian or chinese. I don't think I should have to not have these for the forseeable "to be fair".

Curry is always both of us (DS loves vindaloo). Fish and chips just me as DS isn't bothered.

To be fair op in hindsight you should have asked with the caveat assuming your kids are old enough to eat it,,,

DH and I would sometimes have a takeaway just for one if the other one is out for the evening - presumably that's considered ok? I would only do it if he was out somewhere fun - that feels totally fair enough whereas I wouldn't have a takeaway to myself if he was, say, at a work event.

I couldn't imagine leaving someone out when ordering. Unless they didnt fancy anything but it is always offered. I know a family who order one dish each from chinese for example and dont share it round (fair enough if that is the only thing you will eat from there) but I couldn't order just an egg fried rice and sit there with my little Tupperware box but I suspect I'm the weird one. What about the chow mein? Sweet and sour? Salt and pepper prawns? Oh I love a chinese.

One of the joys of living alone - eat whatever the hell you want, whenever the hell you want