To tell my niece that the guy she's been talking to online is her mother

[Jaimeles]

I don't know what to do !

My niece has been living with me for 2 years ( not in the UK) , she used to be very very difficult , anger ,drugs , skipping school etc... She moved in with me and now she is almost 18yo. Her mum visits us maybe once a year.

My niece is really now a really kind and nice person. Works hard , thankful , gentle. She , herself, can't even believe she used to act like she did.

So about 2 months ago , she started talking to a guy on facebook. She told me about it and is really happy about it. We had the "be careful" convo. She told me that he was always making up excuses not to meet.

My sister has a hard time believing that her daughter has changed , and always tell me I am just trying to find excuses. I once told her again how her child grew up and now is not who she was. After I mentioned the boy , she told me " I am veryfing what she is doing , X is really me. You'll see she hasn't changed and will show all the sex convo we had"

I am disgusted. Now what do I do ? Tell my niece about it , risking to ruin her already fragile relationship or just rell her he's not good to convince her to stop talking to that "guy" ?

Jesus Christ do people really behave like this in real life.

Tell your niece.

Wow, that sounds completely unbelievable!

You tell her obviously, like anyone facing this situation in reality would even need to ask.

Tell her. Eventually her mother will announce it anyway, and will tell her that you knew. Plus your niece needs to know that her mother is trying to manipulate her in this way.

Tell your niece- her mother is a cow and doesn't deserve anonymity

Is this for real?

What the actual fuck.

Fucking hell, tell her
Your sister is a nasty piece of work

Your poor niece. What a nasty, spiteful, toxic piece of work her mother is. How twisted is that, seeking to entrap your own daughter to prove to her aunt that she's no good?

Forget about jeopardising their fragile relationship, it's a very damaging, toxic relationship. But your niece might need professional support through the fallout of finding out just what her mother is like.

If this is legit and not a Jerry Springer episode, then obviously you tell her. Obviously.

I think it's more important that your poor niece has and adult she can trust than any sort of loyalty to your terrible sister.

Wow, her mother sounds like a complete bitch, I can understand why she went off the rails.

And so what if she was talking about sex, she's 18, she's allowed, really weird though that her mother has continued with the chats - I find that actually quite disturbing

She's sexting her own daughter??

This cant be true, surely no mum on earth would do this.

Anyway tell your niece, the fallout from you telling her may be rough but I can bet you that the fall out from multiple sexual convos with a boy, who turns out to be your mum, all whilst your auntie knew, would be a lot worse. Plus if your sister is sick enough to do this I wouldnt be surprised if she tells her anyway.

That’s absolutely disgusting.

What a sick person.

Since when does sexting make you a bad person.

Your sister is having sex convos with her own daughter? That's beyond sick. Tell your neice so she can cut this toxic monster from her life. No wonder she had so many problems before.

You need to tell her. Would this be classed as a cyber crime (i really don't know).

The mother sounds absolutely twisted.

What a difficult situation...you don't want to humiliate the niece but it would also be a good idea for her to know what kind of person hee mother is so she can be on her guard. I don't know what I'd do

Yes, she needs to know and as soon as you can but first get some expert advice. Try Childline or similar for a start - I imagine her world is going to come crashing down again and you’ll need help to support her properly....

Being catfished by her own mother is absolutely despicable. How humiliating

She deserves to know the truth - her relationship with her mum will most likely be destroyed by this, her relationship with you will be too if she knows you knew and didn't say anything

I'd report her to the police and her DD.

Is this for real?

Tell your sister she had twenty four hours to come clean to her daughter or you will be telling your niece. Horrendous!

So she lives with you has a distant relationship with her DM. You're her guardian as under 18 of course you tell her.
How did you find out?
If OP comes back.