To tell my niece that the guy she's been talking to online is her mother

[Jaimeles]

I don't know what to do !

My niece has been living with me for 2 years ( not in the UK) , she used to be very very difficult , anger ,drugs , skipping school etc... She moved in with me and now she is almost 18yo. Her mum visits us maybe once a year.

My niece is really now a really kind and nice person. Works hard , thankful , gentle. She , herself, can't even believe she used to act like she did.

So about 2 months ago , she started talking to a guy on facebook. She told me about it and is really happy about it. We had the "be careful" convo. She told me that he was always making up excuses not to meet.

My sister has a hard time believing that her daughter has changed , and always tell me I am just trying to find excuses. I once told her again how her child grew up and now is not who she was. After I mentioned the boy , she told me " I am veryfing what she is doing , X is really me. You'll see she hasn't changed and will show all the sex convo we had"

I am disgusted. Now what do I do ? Tell my niece about it , risking to ruin her already fragile relationship or just rell her he's not good to convince her to stop talking to that "guy" ?

Her mother is vile! I would never even dream of doing something like this. She'll be hurt and humiliated and the best thing to do is cut her mother out.

This is fucking sick. An adult woman has been manipulating her own daughter into believing she is a young man, and engaging with sexual conversations with her.

This is one of the more disturbing pieces of parenting I have seen on here. Absolutely tell your niece; how would you feel in her possition if you later found out about this and that it was covered up?

You need to tell her before her mother does. Her trust in her mother is going to be shattered. You can’t risk her trust in you being shattered as well.

If this is real, tell your sister she is a sick fuck and to either delete her account or you'll tell your niece. And if she doesnt, tell your niece

Id tell the niece and then takeover the online conversation pretending to be the niece. Start with things such as "my friends are telling me that there are sex videos of my mum online". Then see what your sister does!!

Why would she believe you though?

@HollowTalk

I don't believe any mother would be catfishing her own daughter and talking sexually with her.

And neither do I :)

Tell her.
Now that you know you can’t not tell her.
Your niece is lucky to have you, her mother sounds vile.

Fucking hell, now i've heard it all - that is absolutely grim

Tell her, she will trust you so much more treating her like an adult.
The both of you can monitor what the mum is doing.
You do not want you DN to form a romantic bond to her sick mother's fake persona.

I would tell your sister to stop this right now or you will tell your niece.

That you are not prepared to lie to your DN, you have given her a home and loved her and you will not betray her trust.

Poor girl.

Tell your sister that your DN is not in trial, and she has a right to privacy.

Tell her and tbh think I'd be phoning police for advice don't think it's legal to do that.

I think you have to tell your DN.
She needs an adult she can trust and who is on her side.

That’s fucked up. Definitely tell her. And a 17 year old has the right to have sexual conversations if they want to anyway! Exploring sexuality in your teens is not deviance.

IF this is true, your niece has to cut off her sick-minded mother for good.

If she’s not 18 yet would this count as sexual grooming of a minor?

I would report this to the police. It’s as sick as fuck.

Tell her, and also tell the police as that is sexual abuse.

I found out because everytime my sister calls , she just asks me if her daughter is taking drugs again etc.. and everytime she doesn't believe it.

My niece is always seeking her mother's approval and talks about her a lot. She regrets what she has done in the past and feels like she made her mother suffer.

I don't know the nature of the conversation with "the guy".

I hope this isn’t true. It’s sickening.

I think you’ve pinpointed the cause of your nieces issues. Tell her and cut off your sister

I'd tell the police! That's fucking atrocious!

Shocking! I don’t believe this! How sick is your sister.
You better tell her and quick. She is cat fishing her child.