How would you feel if your Dh did this?

[Autumnsunshineday]

So imagine whilst out you go to a sandwich shop with your dc and Dh. Dh agrees to go in and buy the food while you wait outside with the dc.

You ask Dh to get you a cheese sandwich, second option would be a chicken sandwich or any other type of sandwich. The dc choose a sandwich each too. Dh wants a sausage roll.

Instead of sandwiches your Dh comes out with a sausage roll each for everyone. You don't like sausage rolls, you never have. So you tell your Dh you don't like sausage rolls. He then tells you that the shop had no sandwiches, and you're just being fussy. You question the fact that a sandwich shop would have no sandwiches, at all, but your Dh insists they had no sandwiches at all, the shops useless, they've run out of sandwiches, he even asked them to make one but they wouldn't.

So you say you'll nip in yourself and get something else, your Dh then tries to stop you, berating you for not just eating the sausage roll.

When you go into the shop, they are actually fully stocked with every variety sandwiches. Turns out your Dh just couldn't be bothered to pick up the different sandwiches.

That seems a very unkind and hurtful thing to have done.

He's a twat who thinks that feeding him and the kids is your job and if you ask him to do it he's gonna do it badly so you don't ask him again.

Next time tell him to stay outside with the kids and you go on and order. Then just get him any old thing.

I’m going out on a limb to suggest this wasn’t a random never before seen act of selfish dickery.

Wow. It's the complete lack of respect for you and your children.

I'm not sure I could get over the lack of trust.

Weird. Is this normal behaviour for him OP? Sounds like the kind of thing my dad would do - I just find it weird, why ask what people want and then not get it? And why lie about it?!

@eggsandwich judging by tour name I doubt fp but would come back with a sausage roll!

Yeah he's a lazy, selfish wanker and I bet this is just the latest in a long line of shitty actions towards you. The question is what are you going to do about it?

I don't know (I don't have a husband) but I've said "sandwich " so many times in my head now it sounds weird and like a made up word sorry, very unhelpful.

I would think, how have I come to be married to a man who won't even buy me and our DC a fucking sandwich, and then lies to us about it?

WTF OP. Utterly bizarre level of twattery from H.

Does he ever go to the pub with friends? Does he struggle to remember the drinks order on his round and get them all what he drinks?

He's a twat. What else does he do OP? Not his first attempt at being a twat I'd guess

That’s the weirdest lie ever. I’m hoping there’s a back story. Is there one? Is this a series of events that have been happening?

I don't mean to catasrophise this, but there's no way this was a one off random incident.

This represents a level of selfishness and vindictiveness that is hard to stomach. Even more so than a Greggs sandwich.

I cannot fathom a train of thought that leads to deliberately not getting your partner what they asked for in a simple situation like this, lying about it, then blaming your partner.

Sod the cake buying guilt thing when he realises you're not just going to drop it.

Nah, you have to have a certain level of..well..general cruelty to do this.

Sounds like my ex. Wasn’t lazy, but mean with money.

Utter dick. Whether laziness or tightness or (OK very skeptical) trying to undermine OP in some health-related way, all of these fade into insignificance next to the lying to cover up.

My DH gets a bit stressed ordering for the family, so I almost always do it. He wouldn't pull a stunt like this if he did have to though. Has he done this before? I can't understand why he was the one to go in, if this is a problem for him.

Not something my dh would ever do to be honest... but anyone who did do this is being an utter twat!!!

I would probably have rammed the extra 3 sausage rolls up his arse. Probably why my dp knows not to fuck about with my food orders.

DH & I once went to the theatre and he was going to get some ice cream tubs in the interval. I said I wanted chocolate, or vanilla if they didn't have that. No chocolate so he came back with toffee "because that's nicer than vanilla" - not to me it isn't.

That's hilarious. Really annoying obviously, but such a stupid lie!

He's a cock lodging waste of space. Put your big pants on, get all of the ducks in a row and leave the bastard :)

@Aquamarine1029

I'd be wondering what else he lies about, because it's not just the fucking sandwiches, I assure you. A liar is a liar about many, many things.

This, absolutely.

It's also a mean spirited thing to do. It's quite possible in these topsy turvy times that the kids had actually enjoyed choosing themselves a sandwich. ☹️

Maybe he wasn't paying enough attention and didn't take in what everyone wanted, or had forgotten and this was a ridiculous and misguided attempt to save face?

Next time, either you go in the shop or else make a list - easy enough to write a note on a phone.

I'd think it was very odd indeed. It might worry me slightly. Why ask? Did he panic or what? Just weird behaviour really.