How would you feel if your Dh did this?

[Autumnsunshineday]

So imagine whilst out you go to a sandwich shop with your dc and Dh. Dh agrees to go in and buy the food while you wait outside with the dc.

You ask Dh to get you a cheese sandwich, second option would be a chicken sandwich or any other type of sandwich. The dc choose a sandwich each too. Dh wants a sausage roll.

Instead of sandwiches your Dh comes out with a sausage roll each for everyone. You don't like sausage rolls, you never have. So you tell your Dh you don't like sausage rolls. He then tells you that the shop had no sandwiches, and you're just being fussy. You question the fact that a sandwich shop would have no sandwiches, at all, but your Dh insists they had no sandwiches at all, the shops useless, they've run out of sandwiches, he even asked them to make one but they wouldn't.

So you say you'll nip in yourself and get something else, your Dh then tries to stop you, berating you for not just eating the sausage roll.

When you go into the shop, they are actually fully stocked with every variety sandwiches. Turns out your Dh just couldn't be bothered to pick up the different sandwiches.

What a dick, What was he trying to achieve?

Lazy selfish turd sums it up

What a fucking arsehole

@AlwaysCheddar

I’d be cooking him shit he didn’t like for the next week. Selfish lazy prick.

This! It sounds like he's just too lazy to bother remembering the order details.

I couldn't take the lying 🤥- I would literally leave over what this represents

Basically prioritising his own needs completely narcissistically and the arrogance of thinking he can choose what everyone eats

There's got to be more to the story than this. A normal non-twat non-wanker person would never do something like this!

What's the back story? There must be one, nobody is this dickish as a one-off.

I'd be well pissed off with him. Lazy, liar, selfish and obviously only thinks of himself and his needs, sod everyone else.
Next time you go to the sandwich shop you volunteer to go in and get him the exact opposite of what he wanted. What a lazy git.

It's the little things that hurt so much isn't it op? he's been a knob there

I fucking hate liars. I would be fuming.

Was he being cheap do you think? Sausage rolls cost less than sandwiches?

It's crazy isn't it? The lying more so than anything.

I was mightily pissed off and told him so. At first he tried to make out that I was making a huge deal over a sandwich. It's not about the sandwich it's the blatant disregard and the bare faced lying. Then came the "well you go in yourself next time, it's very stressful remembering 4 peoples sandwiches".

Since then there's been a grovelling apology and he later went out to get cake to apologise.

He's not generally a horrible person honestly, but he has occasionally lied about ridiculous pointless things like this. Just makes me feel a bit shit really.

God I hate men.

He probably couldn't be arsed queuing or asking for different things so just got what was easiest for him and balls to everyone else. Lying about it just made him look even more stupid. Pillock.

'I would feel invisible in the relationship. I would also feel very hurt, disappointed and angry on behalf of my children as well as myself.'

Yes, this sums up how I would feel too. Is he usually a dismissive, awkward, useless, lying sod or is this an isolated incident?

YANBU by the way.

honestly OP I would ask him what he fancies for dinner, then give him a plate of sprouts!

Clearly couldn't be arsed standing in the shop ordering 3 different sandwiches. Even if he was just honest and said 'be arsed with asking for 4 different things'

Minimising your annoyance is even worse than the lying. Have you asked him in a calm moment why he does it? It’s so disrespectful.

@Userzzz

God I hate men.

Helpful.

Do you know what , I’ve had this with my DH for years and it really pisses me off.
It’s not about the sandwich, it’s about the lie. He is a liar.

@rabbitheadlights
That made me laugh!
Seriously though, what a total arse!

Oh the fun you can have from now on. 'DH, want a cup of tea?' Hand him a glass of lukewarm Ribena. 'Curry take out tonight?' Get one for you and DC but give him some cold baked beans.

Selfish knob! And it’s defo more about the lying and blatant lack of respect. Make the twat grovel.

@Userzzz

God I hate men.

Haha! I love this

I wonder would be have similar difficulties ordering, say, four coffees for colleagues in work?

Or for his parents and a sibling?

I genuinely can’t imagine my husband doing this, or not just saying that by the time he got to the front of the queue he’d forgotten. Just so selfish and thoughtless.

I hope you're thinking up a revolving menu of everything he most dislikes for the next month. Lots of healthy salads? Lentils? Are you considering going vegan? Now's the time to try tofu.