How would you feel if your Dh did this?

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So imagine whilst out you go to a sandwich shop with your dc and Dh. Dh agrees to go in and buy the food while you wait outside with the dc.

You ask Dh to get you a cheese sandwich, second option would be a chicken sandwich or any other type of sandwich. The dc choose a sandwich each too. Dh wants a sausage roll.

Instead of sandwiches your Dh comes out with a sausage roll each for everyone. You don't like sausage rolls, you never have. So you tell your Dh you don't like sausage rolls. He then tells you that the shop had no sandwiches, and you're just being fussy. You question the fact that a sandwich shop would have no sandwiches, at all, but your Dh insists they had no sandwiches at all, the shops useless, they've run out of sandwiches, he even asked them to make one but they wouldn't.

So you say you'll nip in yourself and get something else, your Dh then tries to stop you, berating you for not just eating the sausage roll.

When you go into the shop, they are actually fully stocked with every variety sandwiches. Turns out your Dh just couldn't be bothered to pick up the different sandwiches.

@giantangryrooster, yes exactly! it mattered to him then. Would he be ok if OP went to the shop and bought four cheese sandwiches even though she knows that he doesn't like, it would be interesting to see what he would say/do in that situation.

"He is rubbish at thinking/remembering."
Is he rubbish at it, when being rubbish at it would impact on him? Because he got what he wanted to eat, regardless of what everyone else got.

Would he forget his favourite TV programme was on? Would he forget to meet his mate for a drink? Would he forget information he needs to do his job? Would he have lied to his boss about the sandwich shop having no sandwiches?

Is he rubbish at thinking/remembering only when he's thinking/remembering for other people's comfort?

Would he have lied to his boss about the sandwich shop having no sandwiches?

oh yes @WhereYouLeftIt, imagine him; berating his boss/friends and telling them that they are just being fussy for not eating the sausage rolls.

"DH agrees to go in". Was that like the condemned man agreed to go to the gallows?

Do you always complain about whatever he does? and so he thought sod it I'll just get her a sausage roll. She'll only moan about the sandwich anyway.
Sounds to me like DH is either a lazy, selfish bastard or he was annoyed with his DW. Difficult to say which, but that is what makes AIBU so. irresistible.

Complete arse

He does sound an idiot but you've learnt your lesson - next time: go in yourself. I always go in myself in these situations.

Op I feel your pain
My dh does this if we go to McDonald’s and will order the dc the same meal each even though they don’t all like it?! And they are old enough to order on the screen themselves
Drives me flipping crazy - what’s the point of eating out if you still have no choice !

Gosh if he lies about that what else does he lie about?

Bizarre. Very hard to understand why he would have done that. Is he normally weird like that?

That's soo bad

The only possible alternative excuse (other than the obvious one many have answered) may be he is broke for some reason....but then the question is why...unless you know.

I'd be making the meal he hates most in the world for his next dinner and throwing the same platitudes at him re getting on and eating it

@growinggreyer

I would feel like I had married a knobhead. What a stupid thing to lie about.

This. And if he would effortlessly lie about something so stupid I would be concerned and on the look out for other lies

My Ex would do this type of thing that's why he is my ex.

Not just a selfish wanker BUT also a liar.....

I’d feel it was a bit selfish. In the end he got his first choice. No one else did.
I’d be annoyed he lied about it. What can you believe if he’d lie about a silly thing like that?

He’s a prick, a thoughtless prick.

@cherish123

He does sound an idiot but you've learnt your lesson - next time: go in yourself. I always go in myself in these situations.

So his strategic incompetence followed by multiple lies get him off the hook from being an adult? Fuck that shit.

He wanted something - so everyone else will have the same because it’s easier. He doesn’t admit this obviously and instead blames it on something else. He then gets annoyed with you for checking if there’s something else that might be available. Low and behold there is...and more.
I would feel that he was a selfish arsehole with a complete lack of respect in this situation and would ask myself if this is him in general or one-off lazy twatishness (new word).

@MollyMinniesMum

Gosh if he lies about that what else does he lie about?

Exactly this. If my DH has done what yours did the only berating would have come from me. I don’t tolerate lying.

Oh dear, is he like that a lot? I would think he doesn't give a flying fox about me or mine. I may be an unusually unforgiving person, but I would ask him if he really cares so little about us, and if so, fuck off for good.

I would be pissed off by this but unless there’s more going on I think it’s a bit extreme to leave him over it. All of us, not just men, can be twattish on occasion and plenty of us have told stupid lies in our time.

Why would he even do that ... too lazy to collect /pick up something ? It’s not like he actually had to make it?? Seriously?? I would never do anything for him again. If he asked me for something I would purposely make or do the opposite . I have no idea why a grown man would even do that ???

Choccylips
My STBXH too. Also one of the reason he is STBX! Just plain lazy. Would get away with whatever he could avoid doing and would tell lies or get defensive when I challenged him. I felt like I’d married a teenager!
I am sooooooo relieved I left. My new DP would pick through every sandwich in the shop to make sure he found my favourite! Not that I’m saying you should leave your DH!!! That would be a bit drastic for a sandwich. But if he is thoughtless and lazy quite a lot of the time (I’m sorry I haven't RTFT) then I’d be asking myself some serious questions. I’m done with lazy and selfish. It took me 20 years but I finally realised it doesn’t have to be like that!! Lol!

He's a total knob!!.

Is it possible he is having money troubles he's not told you about?, assuming 4 sausage rolls are quite a bit cheaper then a sausage roll and 3 sandwiches?. I'd still think he's a complete tool but it's a possibility.

Selfish and lied about it. Is this usual for him?