His ex used to "spoil" him

[Maaanajs]

Hello,
I know this is weird as it's made me feel uncomfortable.
My income is quite low (not helped by the coronavirus). I can't buy boyfriend amazing things for his birthday, just nice little thoughtful gifts.
For example, I bought him a new coat and some of his favourite aftershave.

Boyfriend's job is quite average but he "joked" about how his ex spoiled him e.g. gucci and other designers for his birthday and christmas.

I don't know much about his ex tbh, I don't know what she works as but apparantly she could afford them.

Anyway, we've been together 2 years and he was with his ex 4 years for me.

I just feel a bit useless now. I could never afford to just buy something designer on the whim

[DrinkFeckArseGirls]

I’d take the coat back and never see him again. I could not get past this comment.

[twoshedsjackson]

Possible replies to your boyfriend:
"Comparison is the thief of joy"
"Your ex, eh? Why exactly did she get fed up with you?
As many PP's have said, "Go back to her then!"
or as Curlsand Curves suggested, a Mrs Brown-style "That's nice!" (Probably the best response)
Did he really think he could spur you into trying harder?
I wonder how the ex would feel if she knew she was being held up as an example - or even if it's completely true......

[Friendsoftheearth]

I am not sure I even believe it, if you have never seen one item of his so called designer collection - then he was either lying or joking. Unless his ex took it all back on departure and his best friend for good measure.

I would be more concerned as to why he is still even thinking about his ex on his birthday or anything that she did for him.

Based on this, I would be rethinking whether he was the right one for me, unless it was a joke made in very poor taste.

[Pancakeorcrepe]

You sound lovely and he sounds like an absolute dick!

[Awwlookatmybabyspider]

Tell him to piss off back to her then!

[DrinkFeckArseGirls]

It’s a good point that Friendsoftheearth makes - have you ever seen that designer swag? Or did the ex take it back after she was fed up with this freeloader
Or it never happened.

[daisyjgrey]

Evidently being spoilt didn't keep them together so...

[OldBean2]

I would suggest you tell him that your previous partner made you cum every time, but you thought it might be rude to mention it!

Your gifts sound lovely, him not so much.

[newnameforthis123]

2 year in and his response to nice gifts from you is to compare you to his ex? Ugh. Next!

[SunshineCake]

@Okayokayok

Next time you're having sex tell him your ex used to last way longer.

God, I hope she doesn't see him again never mind have sex with him!

[SunshineCake]

@Marie84

My bf always buys me expensive birthday and Christmas presents but he can afford it! I don't earn half as much as him and whenever I ask what he wants he says "nothing, save your money" obviously I do get him something but it's normally small meaningful things which he seems to like! I think a coat and aftershave is perfectly acceptable and a lovely present! I'm sure it was just a throwaway comment and I really wouldn't worry about it x

You need to raise your bar I think.