His ex used to "spoil" him

[Maaanajs]

Hello,
I know this is weird as it's made me feel uncomfortable.
My income is quite low (not helped by the coronavirus). I can't buy boyfriend amazing things for his birthday, just nice little thoughtful gifts.
For example, I bought him a new coat and some of his favourite aftershave.

Boyfriend's job is quite average but he "joked" about how his ex spoiled him e.g. gucci and other designers for his birthday and christmas.

I don't know much about his ex tbh, I don't know what she works as but apparantly she could afford them.

Anyway, we've been together 2 years and he was with his ex 4 years for me.

I just feel a bit useless now. I could never afford to just buy something designer on the whim

Tell him to fuck off back to her then.

He's lucky you got him anything at all, cheeky bastard.
Take the presents back and treat yourself instead.

I am absolutely done with these entitled, lazy, useless, rude, ungrateful, tight, (insert any other negative adjective here) men.

Another one here who thinks this is a bit of a red flag.

Do not go overboard in spending on him! You do the best with what you have. You sound lovely, please don’t let his comments get to you

@AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken

Tell him that your ex used to give you 12 inches every night 😉

🤣🤣🤣 Please tell him this OP

Look I will be totally honest if my boyfriend (I am married so not relevant to me now) did this he would be shown the door - you may not like to hear this as others won't like to but you will get the treatment you accept.

If you don't let people treat you like this they won't be able to

i think you should be worried that he is still talking about his ex two years into a relationship with you op,

next time you see him, give him a sharp, swift kick in the balls... that will remind him he is with you now and might help him remember to not mention other women when you have done something nice for him.

I have to go google pig plugs but I will reiterate what others said- watch out for similar comments. Squash them all. Both I and dh earn well but don’t buy expensive presents unless genuinely useful or loved, not just for expense’s sake.

"it's not quite gucci though is it?"
Desperately shallow as well as rude and ungrateful. Not quite a Gucci comment, was it? 🌹

You are not competing with his Ex, you’re competing with the ridiculous notion that the amount spent on gifts is a reflection of something deeper.

A coat and gave aftershave are good gifts. Better than average. Probably more than he deserves.

If his gifts are not Gucci or Prada yet he expects that from you. He is a first class prick. LTB

Next time you have sex ‘joke’ that it was ok but not as good as sex with your ex was.

Wow!

I honestly wouldn't waste any more time on this man!

That's no joke OP, it's just plain rude and like he's looking down at you. He's just a wannabe.

Honestly I've been there with this kind of guy and I know it's tough but just look at it in the way that he's stopping you meeting a better man that you can share your life with.

I really hope you take on board how many posters are saying this is not a sign of a nice man.
I’d honestly be getting rid of him.
One year I got my husband an expensive metal detector for his birthday, another year he got a cheese board! He is always appreciative of the simple fact that I care. Yours sounds so entitled and selfish...and rather bourgeois/nouveau riche/vulgar tbh.

Comparing you unfavourably to his ex? Fuck that shit!

How would he like if next time you're in bed you told him he did okay but your ex gave you better orgasms?

You can do better than this guy.

Read this book:

www.sherryargov.com

If a guy is ungrateful, you don't try harder you do less. Much less! Better still, dump.

@Angelina82

Next time you have sex ‘joke’ that it was ok but not as good as sex with your ex was.

Hah! You beat me to it

@netsybetsy I love Sherry

OP when I was younger I had a boyfriend who bought designer stuff so I bought him an expensive designer watch and as much as he loved it he told me never to spend that much money on him again, that if I was going to spend money like that I should spend it on myself, because he was nice.

Your boyfriend sounds spoilt and manipulative, dont waste your young years on a tosspot. Please find a new nice boyfriend ❤

A coat and aftershave sounds like a substantial gift, to me!

^This. Spending nearly £100 is very generous. He's an ungrateful git and a complete poser to be going on about Gucci!!

[quote bunnyonthemantle]@netsybetsy I love Sherry[/quote]
Yeah she doesn't take shit from any man but she does it in a humorous way. Wish that book had been around in My youth!

Do people honestly still care about “brands”? I thought it was a 90s thing. Or a teenage thing. (Possibly because I was a teenager in the 90s.) I don’t know anyone who really cares now!

@Coffeekisses

I agree, being into brands (imo) is tasteless and shows the person wearing it is a show off with not enough imagination of their own.

He's rude and immature.

My DH earns a fair bit but wouldn't buy me a coat and perfume for my birthday!

@CiderJolly

Say ‘fuck off back to your ex then’.

Job done.

This would be my reply 👏

I didn't have the money to spoil dp, he knows that, but I did cook an amazing meal (though I say it myself)

Thinking about it, I wouldn't tolerate such ingratitude from my DDs of 11 and 8, never mind a grown man. It's just so ill mannered.

Op this will be your life if you stay with this guy. Put down, comparisons, being made to feel less than.

You deserve better than that. Move on and find it