Sister fallen out with me because I won’t break the new Covid rules

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Name changed because this is outing.

My sister’s wedding was planned for May this year, obviously it didn’t go ahead. They rebooked for late September, hoping that the world would be back to normal.

She has a church wedding followed by a reception in her fiancées garden booked, with a marquee. 30 guests are going. I’ve said that while I know the rules don’t make sense, I think it’s important to do the right thing and follow them. I’m going to attend the wedding, then they are throwing an additional reception next year which I will attend. But I’m not willing to go to a party in his parents’ back garden.

She is extremely upset with me, and saying her interpretation of the rules is that a reception in their private back garden is OK.

For info, I’m also 8 months pregnant, there isn’t going to be any catering at the reception (due to Covid regulations), no chairs in the marquee, and no access to toilets. It’s 4 hours drive from where I live.

I really hope I’m doing the right thing. What do others think?

@Afibtomyboy

It’s unequivocal Weddings in public places are exempt if up to 30 people

Clear as day

Clear as day that a garden ISN'T exempt.

But you'd know that too if you READ THE THREAD.

really she should have postponed again understand if its was too awkward

but to be upset with yu because u wont go to the party as thats what it is when youre attending the wedding itself is selfish

Well yes
Hence me saying “public places”

I sure as heck don’t regard my garden open to the public

The virus knows not to attend a 30-person wedding, but will be there in a flash if the same 30 people go into somebody’s garden. It’s science

@OnItCarBonnet

Or...the government trusts professionals running an establishment to practice good hygiene, ensure social distancing, cleaning of touch points, hand sanitisation available etc etc who have to ensure they are Covid Secure day in day out to stay open and earning a living more than they do rookie members of the public who will end up pissed and all hugging each other doing a the can can to New York New York a few hours later whilst a drunk groomsman’s having it off with the bride’s depressed older sister in MILs loo and little Ava May and Jaiden are licking all the marshmallows that are to go in the chocolate fountain that Uncle Dave kindly provided? Oh and yeah mates and neighbours can just pop round now anyway, back gate’s open and a few have gone home already so you might as well, no one’s keeping an eye on this “30 people only” bollocks so you might as well!

Yes, people can go to a Covid secure venue and unwittingly pass on the virus...that’s a risk people take. But the risk SHOULD be minimised when there are responsible, experienced professionals at the helm who should ensure that it’s not just a free for all.

It's the inevitable lack of social distancing that'll be the problem in the garden, you berk.

Are all the people bickering over the regulations making the assumption that this wedding reception is in England? Because it might be an idea to find out which set of rules applies before arguing about how right you are and how wrong everyone else is...

Well it's reduced to 15 now if it's in England.

Yes what does your dsis think of the 15 rule? Or is that for other people to follow? I’d ask your mum this by the way not her at risk of sounding too I told you so.

'One of the guests that caught it at the wedding took it back to the care facility where they either work or live and it killed 6 of the residents.'

As I understand, it wasn't even the wedding guest who worked at the care facility, but someone with whom the guest lived.

It needs to be remembered that someone who is almost full-term cannot possibly guarantee to self-isolate for two weeks if someone at the reception turns out to have the virus. If she goes into labour, she will presumably have to go into hospital, and risk possibly infecting healthcare workers, however many precautions are taken; not to mention the possible risk to the baby. Of course, pregnant women can't usually be expected to isolate completely, and everything we do in life carries some risk; but surely it is not the best time to take excessive risks that are frowned on by the authorities. Go the wedding itself if possible, so long as it's being handled responsibly, but there is no need to also attend a party, where there is no one to make sure that people conform to social distancing rules. Not to mention the discomfort that it will cause to a heavily pregnant woman! In any case, regulations are now tougher than they were.