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This thread is so interesting!
I always thought asexuality was just not being attracted to anyone (sexually and romantically) and I thought that those who are in asexual relationships were emotionally intimate but never physically.
I can see I was wrong!
I don't typically agree with pigeonholeing sexuality though as I believe it's one big spectrum. But then I've never had to explain my sexuality to anyone before. The explanation of pansexual was brilliantly described on Schitts creek.
"David: I see where you’re going with this. Um, I do drink red wine. But I also drink white wine. And I’ve been known to sample the occasional rose. And a couple summers back I tried a merlot that used to be a chardonnay, which got a bit complicated.
Stevie: Oh, so you’re just really open to all wines.
David: I like the wine and not the label. Does that make sense?"
So taking this analogy a bit further, would asexuality be like just not drinking wine at all and have no desire to, but some may be prepared to have a glass here and there when offered or just because you fancy having a glass?
Ooh love a good analogy (and also wine!)
So I would say, for the majority of asexual people, it would be like saying:
"No I don't like wine," and ALL THEY WANT is for people to say
"Okay fair enough. How's work going?"
Not:
"Oh you just haven't tried the right wine yet....how about a nice merlot?"
"I didn't like wine until I was older either but then I tried my favourite prosecco. Some people think they don't like wine when they are young but then they grow out of it as they develop and I'm sure you will too."
"I accept you don't like white wine but is that really because you love red wine but don't want to admit it?"
"I assume it's because you had a bad experience with wine in the past. You should get therapy then you can enjoy drinking wine like normal people."
"But EVERYBODY likes some type of wine."
"Lots of people don't drink MUCH wine that doesn't mean they don't like ANY wine."
"You probably do like wine you just choose not to drink it."
"Some people can't drink wine because of allergies is that what you mean?"
"Are you sure? Everybody likes some type of wine, it's weird not to like any wine, is there something wrong with you?"
"But how do you have fun if you don't like wine?"
"Well I don't see why you need to declare it, who cares if you don't drink wine?" (when said person has just offered you a glass of wine - aka some of the posters on this thread 
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Where it gets into demi sexual/grey romantic territory, etc:
For some people they might say "I don't drink wine," but then occasionally have one glass, or they might have just one particular brand they like but realistically it's unlikely they'd be offered this, so it's easier just to say "I don't drink wine," rather than "I only drink 1992 rosenfield chardonnay. Do you have that? No? Ok I just won't have wine. No I definitely don't want a different wine. I don't care if it's just as nice, I only like that one particular wine."
Or perhaps they don't really like drinking wine but they are in a relationship with a wine buff so to keep them company they some times go on wine tastings with them but while they don't hate it they don't really enjoy it either.
But even with all these people, for the vast majority of the time they will say for convenience's sake, "I don't drink wine," and the best response will be "Okay, no worries." Not "But I saw you drinking wine at that BBQ two years ago," or whatever.
If you are close friends they might feel happy at some point going into the details of the rare occasions they might sample wine but for the majority of everyday conversations it's just handy to be able to say "I don't really drink wine," to avoid people constantly asking why you don't have a glass in hand, offering to get you a wine, and as an easy way of meeting other non-wine drinkers to discuss how strange and annoying it can be not liking wine in a wine focused world!