Arguing already with DH about Christmas dinner and his Covidiot family

[CathTurnbull]

DH’s sister and brother in law always come to ours on Christmas Day, I don’t mind and they don’t cook so no problem.

However they’re also people who tend to be quite selfish and acted quite stupidly over the last few months as in going abroad on list minute holidays, out all the time for buy out to help out, always at the pub not socially distancing etc.

Each to their own, if that’s how they want to behave, but obviously cases are increasing and I can only imagine how bad things could be by Christmas so I mentioned to DH that I wasn’t comfortable about them coming for Christmas dinner if they continue to act like there’s no virus. He got defensive and told me they are coming and then left the room as if the conversation was over and he was making this decision.

I feel a bit upset, but he’s acting like I’m being unreasonable?

Christmas is a long way away. Why don't you wait and see how you feel in mid-November?

Covid is irrelevant. No one has the right to invite guests into your home in the expectation that you will be bearing the entirety of the cooking/shopping/entertaining burden. Not least every single year.

He has a colossal cheek. As for adults not doing their own cooking, it's high time they learnt. Let him do his own 'wife work'.

V interesting previous thread. I smell bullshit! You've done all the things you're accusing them of doing?

YANBU to refuse anyone round yours for Christmas for any reason, it's your house and DH is neither the boss of you nor, as you've pointed out, in any position to host himself, so his view is moot, although personally I would be more tempted to refuse them because surely you've hosted them enough for the last few years without getting anything back.

YAB (a bit) U to start planning christmas now, and to make said plans dependent on what you 'expect' the covid levels to be in more than three months time. For all you know either levels could have completely reduced or we could all be in permanent lockdown again, or you and your entire family could have all caught covid by then, or we could have got compulsory same day testing sorted.....who knows! so it seems a bit mad to me to start an argument now based on a bunch of maybes and could-be.

YABU to lump Eat out to Help out as an example of not socially distancing and then go back on it when posters point it out. As others have said this was something not just allowed but encouraged by the government. EOTHO started in August and doesn't seem to have been the cause of any exponential growth in COVID cases. Even in places having local lockdowns they haven't been told to stop eating out...

Christmas is a long way away. If they had not been anywhere other than their local area for the previous 14 days I might be OK, but not otherwise.

I think other posters are BU for piling on the OP for her recent travel escapades.

She must have travelled by private jet and stayed in a private hotel, therefore maintaining social distance and hence her anger towards ILs for being so reckless as to travel on a plane with other people on it.

Bet you all feel silly now, right?

No it isn’t, arsehole

Always good to see such high standards of rational argument featuring so prominently here.

Your solution is to get off of Facebook, OP. It causes nothing but trouble in your life.

@unchienandalusia

V interesting previous thread. I smell bullshit! You've done all the things you're accusing them of doing?

My bet is a reverse that didn't go how she intended.

This sounds like you’re using it as an excuse for them not to come. Christmas is weeks away!! Who knows what will happen then? All could be fine or as it is now. Just wait and see!

It kind of sounds like the OP just doesn't like her DH's family and is using this as an excuse (and so early too as pps have said!) If you don't want to cook for everyone you can say that, especially as it sounds like you have done more than your share. Maybe it's someone else's turn to cook. Or at least make your DH cook (or can he 'not cook' either?)

V interesting previous thread. I smell bullshit! You've done all the things you're accusing them of doing?

My bet is a reverse that didn't go how she intended.

All of this. Oops. This is a bizarre place sometimes.

Yabu to say ‘covidiots’

Yanbu to not want them - your house, your rules.

However they’re also people who tend to be quite selfish and acted quite stupidly over the last few months as in going abroad on list minute holidays, out all the time for buy out to help out

And yet, definitely-a-real-name CathTurnbull, you too have been doing a lot of eating out to help out and have recently returned from a last-minute foreign holiday to Corfu.

Such a hypocrite, that CathTurnbull.

It'll get a lot of likes on FB though....