Partner just pissed on the kitchen floor

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We have a downstairs toilet, it was less than 3 steps away. He's fucking pissed on the kitchen floor. Now he's trying to sleep on the sofa while I pacify his daughter (who ou love dearly!) because he put her to bed at 5.

Keep getting "why you being mardy"

"Babe what's up"

"Why you being off with me?"

Well perhaps it's because I'm parenting tour child while you claim exhaustion b the sofa. And to think this moron is begging me to have a baby with him 😂 give me strength!!!!!!!!!!

@fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits

In my annoyance I've just said "and to this you want me to have a child with you" and how he's calling me all the disgusting shits under the sun. Me and DSD have gone to bed. No doubt he will be up in a minute

'No doubt he will be up in a minute'

I've been this child, up in bed when a drunk parent comes up to the room ranting and raving. It was horrible, scary and I've never forgot it. Please try to stop this little girl from having to live like this.

Aside from this, putting the child to bed so early just so he can start drinking is absolutely disgusting. I really hope the mother is informed of all of this.

Does he do this every week or is this the first time.?

I remember your other thread about this man OP, I'm sure many others do too.

Please, please get rid of him, it's not a safe or healthy relationship. I feel so worried for you.

Someone else had said you've made other threads about being dissatisfied with him. I just wanted to say, relationships don't have to be like this. Men aren't all the way he is, and you don't have to be whatever role you're playing in this.

What a way to bring up children🙄
I’d be embarrassed if I was either one of you. You OP, for facilitating all of it and your ex for being an absolute loser.

Is it just me who really isn't understanding the timeline here? Or is the OP not in the UK (it's the 4am posts that are confusing me 🤦‍♀️)

There are other children, and also this little girl but going to have more babies with this man. Would it not be better to out the children who are already here, first and focus on them? He doesn't sound like he is being a great father to his daughter does it.

@GinWithRosie the timeline and ordering 4am takeaway made me wonder if OP had been drinking aswell (but not as much as her dp)

And you're in a relationship with an alcoholic who neglects his daughter because....?

Your standards must be very low LTB and tell the daughter's mother what kind of "parent" he is so she can review the contact arrangements.

He sounds disgusting, you should definitely dump him

Why are you even with him?

@GinWithRosie

Is it just me who really isn't understanding the timeline here? Or is the OP not in the UK (it's the 4am posts that are confusing me 🤦‍♀️)

I think it’s just the takeaway that’s confusing.

Man ours child to bed at 5pm. Has an evening which continuous to 3am. Pees on floor. Takeaway has been ordered. Child wakes up and is kind of awake from going to bed to early.

If my husband did that then I'd be completely disgusted. If he was supposed to be looking after his child at the time then it shows you what a good dad he isn't. Why are you with him?

*puts child to bed.

Please contact her mum and tell her what he has done.
I wouldnt want my child around that.

Depend if it's a regular thing .
Few years ago DW went out and was sick all over kitchen when she came back unpleasant but a one off so not the end off the world or relationship.

Why are you with someone like this?!

If I was you I'd be leaving, and letting the little girl's mother know why.

Feel really nervous for the poor kid in this. Presumably OP wasn’t drunk - or at least so drunk she couldn’t post on Mumsnet? But the whole thing seems so odd and neglectful :(

That's disgusting! I wouldn't even expect a dog to piss on the kitchen floor. If his daughter is in the house he should be taking responsibility for her and not letting you do all the work. This guy needs to grow up.

What a disgusting man, not appropriate at all and I guarantee he will do it again. Years ago my ex and I dropped his drunk friend off at home, his wife opened the door and I kid you not, he stood in his hallway with the front door right open, and pissed in the corner of the stairs in front of us all!

OP I’ve just read your past posts.

Because of your past abusive relationship the experience has messed up how you perceive non violent abuse.

Leave him. You know you want to. This isn’t normal behaviour. Get him out of your house.

I’d be so upset if this was my child and her dad was doing this.

Are you going to tell her mum? Really think you should. He doesn't sound fit to look after kids. Or himself. And calling you names is not on. You won't change him or get him to act like a better person. I've been there. You can do better than this op. I'd get out whilst you can.

And you're still with him because....?

OP, you really need some support to leave this partner. Call Women's Aid and social services and get some help to leave, whilst making sure your partner's child is not left at risk.

This is not ok behaviour in any way, and it's not good for you to stay in this relationship. Please get as much help as you can to move on. And consider doing the freedom program to educate yourself about abuse and healthy relationships

Rant away but in the end you have the choice to get rid.