Partner just pissed on the kitchen floor

[fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits]

We have a downstairs toilet, it was less than 3 steps away. He's fucking pissed on the kitchen floor. Now he's trying to sleep on the sofa while I pacify his daughter (who ou love dearly!) because he put her to bed at 5.

Keep getting "why you being mardy"

"Babe what's up"

"Why you being off with me?"

Well perhaps it's because I'm parenting tour child while you claim exhaustion b the sofa. And to think this moron is begging me to have a baby with him 😂 give me strength!!!!!!!!!!

Child's mother is at her house, she stays with us 2-3 nights a week

I just think it's a massive piss take to be honest! My daughters are at their grandparents and yet here I am parenting at this hour while he snores. Just a joke really

Why are you with this man?

Does your P drink frequently?
Does he arrange his life / his DD's life around his drinking?
Are you left with care of his DD a lot because he drinks?
Why does she spend so much time with you and her dad?
Who decided on the division of time and why?

The sight of her dad passed out on the couch and a pool of piss on the kitchen floor is a horrible thing to expose a small child to. No wonder she is more secure with you and more dependent on you.

I feel really sorry for this little girl with such a father. She is lucky to have a caring stepmum, but if this is your P's usual habit, then the DD needs to spend less time exposed to it and more with her mum (unless the mum is as bad as the dad).

I see you have your own children living with you too.

Does your P drink a lot? Frequently?

In my annoyance I've just said "and to this you want me to have a child with you" and how he's calling me all the disgusting shits under the sun. Me and DSD have gone to bed. No doubt he will be up in a minute

Goodness, either ask him to leave, or leave yourself.

Oh OP get some pride. Don't live with this man! Don't have anything to do with him! He sounds disgusting. Your children will look at him as an example of the kind of man to go for. If they're boys they'll model themselves on him

NOT A ROLE MODEL!

But don’t do it while he’s drunk. Tomorrow.

Why did he put the child to bed at 5?

And why was a four year old up at 3.30 in the morning.
And you’d ordered takeaway at that hour ?

And you’d ordered takeaway at that hour ?

You beat me to it!

Why the heck are you still living with this charming man?

Honestly, call the child's mother and have a talk with her about what goes on , if this is his usual behaviour. Perhaps the mother can come around and take her daughter home, hopefully to a more peaceful environment.

Hearing her father call you disgusting names is not on. You don't need someone in your life who treats you like that, and someone who does it in front of a child is a waste of space.

No child needs this horrible experience in their home from a father or father figure. Your children deserve better too. They will come home to a house that reeks of adult male piss. Is this a home they can be proud of?

Please consider getting rid of him.

Oh god. My other half used to do this when drunk. He'd go to sleep then sleep walk and piss somewhere. I used to try and wake him but one time he got really angry and smashed the door so I stopped. He had no memory of any of it the next day even though his eyes were open. I hated it so much but he used to say it wasn't his fault as he was asleep. Luckily he hasn't got drunk for ages so it's not happened for a while.

Do you have joint occupancy/tenancy/mortgage on the house you live in? Or is it yours or his?

Either way I don't think I could live like this, with someone like this. Not just the abysmal parenting, but the insanitary habits. :(

OP, I shuddered reading that he urinated on your kitchen floor. I still can’t even believe he did that, and it’s not just me mistaking pissed (drunk) for pissed (urinated).

You are worth more than cleaning up someone’s urine. From a space that should never have it in it. From a person who is supposed to be your equal (ie not a child requiring your care).

OP, I really can’t come back from that. I know all the stuff about Him not caring for his daughter isn’t great, but I can’t get past his complete disrespect of you, and you taking it.

Honestly,@fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits you are worth more than this. When you were young I’m sure you hoped for more than a life partner than would urinate on the kitchen floor, expecting you to be ok with it and clean it up. You still deserve more! This low, low bar is not where you need to live. Please know that.

You should leave.
You deserve better than this.

poor kid

Is the childs mother around ? Could you ring her and say that her dad is on no fit state to look after her' when shes collected the child then kick his arse out ?

You haven't really answered any questions. As others asked, how often does he do this? Is it out of character for him? What's he normally like, etc?

If someone is that drunk to that level, there is no point trying to reason with them in that state, and especially don't try to start arguments with him while he's in this state. There's no point. He's drunk. Pissqaly, out of it. etc The best thing is to let him sleep it off and talk to him later on when he's sober and functioning without the hangover from Hell.

If my man had ever done anything so disgusting I would be out the door.

That’s awful OP. I dated a guy who was like this. In the kindest possible way, I would cut your losses now. You deserve better than this. I thought that was normal behaviour before I realised he was a drunk (albeit an affable one) and would never change.

Whatever you do, think very carefully before having a child with this man.

Aren't you tempted to call the DSD's mother and tell her to come and get her as the father is so drunk. He's not exactly taking part in his access to her is he?

Oh yeah, and LTB obviosly.