Partner just pissed on the kitchen floor

[fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits]

We have a downstairs toilet, it was less than 3 steps away. He's fucking pissed on the kitchen floor. Now he's trying to sleep on the sofa while I pacify his daughter (who ou love dearly!) because he put her to bed at 5.

Keep getting "why you being mardy"

"Babe what's up"

"Why you being off with me?"

Well perhaps it's because I'm parenting tour child while you claim exhaustion b the sofa. And to think this moron is begging me to have a baby with him 😂 give me strength!!!!!!!!!!

No, kick him out before you go away. Otherwise how do you know you won't come home to a bloody squatter, or he's trashed your house? Kick him out, get the keys and have the locks changed before you leave

Exactly this.
@fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits, it's not wise to dump him before you go, leaving him in your home! No idea if you've already dumped him (I somehow doubt it) and gone to your friends, but FFS be sensible.

Again, I'm US-centric so I don't know if this would fly in the UK.

Will the police come and watch him leave? They will here. They just park a squad car outside and sit and observe.

Do you believe in the tooth fairy, @fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits?

I ask because you seem to expect him to be gone by the time you get back after your five day break. This goes against every single thing you know about this man (who has even said he wants to go to work with you). He is not going to leave until you are willing to make him.

Your DD does not need quality time alone with you at this time. I think (in all sympathy - I know from painful experience that this is very hard) that your five day break plan is actually a case of you running away from the situation because you are afraid to directly and finally pull the plug on the relationship. You DD needs a home that is not occupied by a man who abuses her mother, removes her mother's things and replaces them with his own, and pisses on the floor. She doesn't need a break with you, with the prospect of coming home to piss-soaked floors and furniture and this horrible man drunk on the floor. Or piss - or worse - all over her bed.
GET HIM OUT AND THE LOCKS CHANGED. This is what you need to do before you do anything else.

You MUST call for help to find out how he can be removed. Do not leave for five days and expect magic to have happened while you are away. Take the steps you have to take to get this leech out of your life and your DDs' lives.

Call any or all of the numbers listed here to find out how to get rid of him:
www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/gender-violence/domestic-violence-and-abuse-getting-help/#h-national-domestic-violence-helpline

This cannot be for real, surely?

It's most certainly real. I've just left again. This time I've told people, hoping they can keep me strong

Have you left him in the house alone?

I really don't understand why you've left him in YOUR house alone. It's YOUR house. You kick HIM out, change the locks and tell him it's over.

Don't be made homeless and don't make your daughter homeless through this. He will not leave.

If you've told people, then tell people to help you pack his stuff and leave.

Have you left in the middle of the night with your daughters? You must make this the final break this time, for them if not yourself, they will be so scared.

You do know that everyone who has ever posted on this thread are rooting for you.

I have no idea why you’d leave him in your house because I doubt he’ll ever leave now.

Can your ex help you? He can’t want his daughter to be subjected to this drama.

You really need to get a grip or your life will just turn into some Jeremy Kyle episode.

Why do you keep leaving when it’s your house?

@RoSEbuds6

You do know that everyone who has ever posted on this thread are rooting for you.

I have no idea why you’d leave him in your house because I doubt he’ll ever leave now.

Can your ex help you? He can’t want his daughter to be subjected to this drama.

You really need to get a grip or your life will just turn into some Jeremy Kyle episode.

I;m sorry, but that horse has bolted.

I know it's hard when you're actually living that life, but the OP has posted again and again and has yet to take on any of the advice or go to any of the agencies suggested.

So you'd rather she stays with an abuser to prove your point, Nanny0gg?

Come out of it for a bit and remember its real people's lives we're dealing with here (well it usually is real, and if it isnt so what)

@user1471565182

So you'd rather she stays with an abuser to prove your point, Nanny0gg?

Come out of it for a bit and remember its real people's lives we're dealing with here (well it usually is real, and if it isnt so what)

No! I want her to leave because there's children involved in all this.