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Partner just pissed on the kitchen floor

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fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits · 05/09/2020 03:39

We have a downstairs toilet, it was less than 3 steps away. He's fucking pissed on the kitchen floor. Now he's trying to sleep on the sofa while I pacify his daughter (who ou love dearly!) because he put her to bed at 5.

Keep getting "why you being mardy"

"Babe what's up"

"Why you being off with me?"

Well perhaps it's because I'm parenting tour child while you claim exhaustion b the sofa. And to think this moron is begging me to have a baby with him 😂 give me strength!!!!!!!!!!

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haveagoodyear · 05/09/2020 06:01

He'd rather put his child to bed early to get pissed, than spend time with her?

And you're now having to deal with her?

Just walk away. You're a convenient nanny when he can't be bothered. Plenty childless men out there.

daisychain01 · 05/09/2020 06:10

@fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits

Anyone else living with a toss pot m?
No.

Neither should you.

You've acknowledged you have no respect for him, and he's a crap role model for his DD. That's not your responsibility to sort out.

Don't let him drag you down in life, you deserve someone you can respect, and it isn't him!

Rainbowqueeen · 05/09/2020 06:18

Please listen to @haveagoodyear.

This man does not care about you or his DD. Unless you want this to happen again and again, start making an exit plan. And if you love your DSD give her mum this information so she can protect her from this waste of space

FlySheMust · 05/09/2020 06:19

It's not all men, OP. Only cunts like the one you live with.

Get rid of him and gain some self respect.

RinderTinderNotRinderGrinder · 05/09/2020 06:58

You’ve got your own dcs, you don’t want them growing up around this sort of behaviour. You don’t want them to think this is a normal relationship.

I’m worried that you think this is normal - it really isn’t. It sounds like he decided to get this drunk when he put dsd to bed so early. He’s useless and cruel. Kick him out tomorrow. This is only going to get worse.

You deserve so much better than this. So do your dcs, so does dsd. I might tell her mother about it too so that she can protect her.

LadyH846 · 05/09/2020 06:59

That is seriously disgusting.

LadyH846 · 05/09/2020 06:59

I don't know anyone who has pissed indoors when they've had too much to drink. I don't think it is normal either.

madcatladyforever · 05/09/2020 07:00

Hed be dumped if that was me.

LadyH846 · 05/09/2020 07:04

@madcatladyforever

Hed be dumped if that was me.
Same
Soubriquet · 05/09/2020 07:07

Well he sounds like a diamond

Why did he put a 4 year old to bed at 5pm?

No wonder the girl was awake

Do not have a child with him unless he changes (which he probably won’t)

Keep an eye on your birth control to make sure he doesn’t sabotage it

DalzielandPaxo · 05/09/2020 07:12

So on one of the few nights he has his daughter, he shoves her to bed early so he can get hammered? Wow. What a catch.

AlrightTreacle · 05/09/2020 07:12

OP I've just read your other threads about your relationship, and feel really creeped out so God knows how you feel living with it. It's your house right? Change the locks when he's out and tell him it's over. You'd be much happier on your own.

speakout · 05/09/2020 07:16

I would call the child's mother and tell her what has happened.
If I was her I would want to know.
Even when lover boy wakes up he won't be in great shape to look after a child.
Poor kid.
OP find some respect.

Friendsoftheearth · 05/09/2020 07:17

Surely this has to be the last straw, there is no future at all with this man op, change the locks and move on, he is going to bring you utter misery and nothing more.

A very serious also needs to take place with your dsd mother, because you can not leave such a young child in the care of someone that gets so drunk they can't care for her properly, and putting her to bed at 5pm?! Honestly it is neglect and abuse. Please talk to her and tell her everything you have told us. 2-3 nights a week is a lot, and she is in danger with this man.

BillywilliamV · 05/09/2020 07:17

Good men don’t behave this way and there honestly are good men out there,
Go and find one OP! ( That poor little girl though....)

Friendsoftheearth · 05/09/2020 07:17

**talk

IHateCoronavirus · 05/09/2020 07:18

Have my very first LTB Brew and a cup of strong coffee to get you through the morning.

ApolloandDaphne · 05/09/2020 07:22

I think you know what you need to do. You and your DC do not need a man like that in your life.

Alonetime · 05/09/2020 07:22

Why was she in bed at 5pm? Why was she awake at 3am and on a phone? Why were you ordering takeaway?

I notice that people are trying to advise you on leaving this relationship, but do you want to?

Alonetime · 05/09/2020 07:23

And I'm surprised that when you asked, "anyone else got a man like this, lol?" someone replied, "yeah, my dad and my boyfriend have both done this. Men, eh?".

fortysomething78 · 05/09/2020 07:25

Why put a nearly 4 year old to bed at 5pm, was it so he could drink ?
How often does he drink ? How much alcohol does he bring into the house every week?
Has this happened before ?
I would ask him to leave.
He is showing a complete lack of respect towards you, your house, his daughter.
Why were you phoning a takeaway at 3am ?

frolicmum · 05/09/2020 07:26

Yeah, this used to happen loads in our house. He couldn't really control it seemed to think the floor was the toilet when pissed.

It's an accident, I didn't really mind and thought it's more funny than anything else and it's a brilliant story later on. We now have a DS and a second on the way - it hasn't happened ever since DS had arrived 💜

Darker · 05/09/2020 07:26

Poor little girl.

frolicmum · 05/09/2020 07:27

Sorry didn't realise you already habe a DD! Yeah I think it would piss me off if this happened now! Stay strong and make sure he makes you breakfast

HoneysuckIejasmine · 05/09/2020 07:28

@frolicmum

Yeah, this used to happen loads in our house. He couldn't really control it seemed to think the floor was the toilet when pissed.

It's an accident, I didn't really mind and thought it's more funny than anything else and it's a brilliant story later on. We now have a DS and a second on the way - it hasn't happened ever since DS had arrived 💜

Gross. If my husband pissed on the floor when drunk then he wouldn't be getting drunk again. Awful behaviour.
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