Partner just pissed on the kitchen floor

[fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits]

We have a downstairs toilet, it was less than 3 steps away. He's fucking pissed on the kitchen floor. Now he's trying to sleep on the sofa while I pacify his daughter (who ou love dearly!) because he put her to bed at 5.

Keep getting "why you being mardy"

"Babe what's up"

"Why you being off with me?"

Well perhaps it's because I'm parenting tour child while you claim exhaustion b the sofa. And to think this moron is begging me to have a baby with him 😂 give me strength!!!!!!!!!!

I often think what I'd tell my daughters. First of all I'd be raging. Secondly I'd tell them to leave, urgently because they deserve so much more

But you'd left!!

Why are you back there with him?

The constant random intrusion onto your body is not ok. Not ok at all. You are not an object to be grabbed whenever he pleases. A long time ago I had a boyfriend who used to do similar. I'm actually glad I told him off for it, his face was incredulous, which angered me more! What an entitled sleaze. Although he's now married with children, I doubt he ever stopped this lack of basic respect. Just someone settled for being treated that way. I'll stop commenting but pleeeease do get away from this utterly odious man.

@fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits if I woke up to find my husbands hand in my bra or found him randomly groping me whilst I was unloading the dishwasher I'd give him a proper piece of my mind.

You are a woman. A person. You deserve respect. Not to be treated like a piece of meat. Please leave him. Why do you think you're not worth more?

Did you take your daughters back to him with you? Are they also now living with this man and seeing all this?

I hope your mother contacts SS to protect those poor children from that awful home they have to endure.

Poor children.
What a dreadful environment for them.

Not sure this is real
Anymore

OP I left my ex three time’s before I actually left for good.

You can still go back to your mums and start again.

Biscuits, wishing you the best of luck going back to work.
Very good that you will have financial security, for you and your child.

Do you Think it might help if you talk to Women’s Aid?

Your situation is not normal, healthy or acceptable, and it isn’t your fault. You are not to blame.

This man’s behaviour is not normal, healthy or acceptable, and he is to blame.

But it isn’t easy to get rid of him without support.

Take care of yourself.

Xxxx

Did he refuse to leave when you went to your mums the last time? I thought you’d left and told him to be out by the time you got home from your mums and to leave the keys for you house etc. How is he still there? He’s totally not respected your boundaries and is taking you for an absolute doormat. You need to tell him to get the fuck out of your life. He isn’t good for you, he isn’t good for your daughter. Get him out, and if he refuses get back up, call the police and tell them you need help removing an abusive EX partner from your property then change the locks and block his number. You and your daughter deserve so much better from life

Do you own the house you live in?

Absolutely appreciate how hard it is to leave. I've been in an abusive relationship. But you have children. He has a child. If you do not either leave him for the sake of your kids or, if you decide to stay with him, admit to their fathers/your parents what is happening and protect the kids by ensuring they never have contact with your boyfriend, you're not fulfilling your job as a parent to adequately protect your children. You will be at risk of social services getting involved and deciding that though you may be a competent parent, they're at significant risk of harm (which doesn't have to be physical) and remove them. And that would be a fair conclusion if all of the things you've said on this post and others happens when they're in the home. I also think you should let his child's mum know what is happening when she is there given you're an adult and she is a child in your care.

I appreciate 100% how complex domestic violence is. I understand fully how you can be an intelligent woman and through the drip drip drip of manipulation and cutting down of your self esteem end up thinking its all your fault and you deserve nothing more. However when it comes to kids social services rightly prioritise them. Even if it is sad for you and not your fault, if you cannot adequately protect them due to staying in a relationship, they may rightly remove to someone who can protect them

Please. You had left. You can do it again

@fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits, may I ask you a question?

Were you hoping something would change in your partner in the time you were away at your mum's?

@mathanxiety I wasn't hoping. I guess it habit. Yet here I am tonight and all day everyday thinking this isn't making me happy and yet here I am.

He pulled my leggings off me the other day, I cried and he refuses to talk about it. I've had enough

I’ll say it again- those poor children.

OP, you’ve posted a lot on here. Any chance you’d add your address so someone can contact social services?

Gosh this all sounds awful. What do you mean he pulled your leggings off you? Please please get some help to leave him

Come on OP can you please sort this out - I can’t think what’s going to get you to kick him out?

I'm not adding my address. They see nothing. Flame me if you want but they're my everything. He pulled my leggings off as a 'joke' I had no underwear on underneath. I cried. He minimised and refused to discuss it the day after. I KNOW I need to leave. I'm so unhappy

I think these ‘jokes‘ of his frighten you, and he’s trying to bully you with physical threats into keeping him there. All veiled as him just being a dumbass or you taking his jokes to seriously. He is degrading you and he knows it. He is a horror show of a person.

Are you still with him OP? Sorry I went through your updates but couldn't quite work out if you ever went back with your mum to leave him or if you've gone back alone and are still a couple?

@fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits

I'm not adding my address. They see nothing. Flame me if you want but they're my everything. He pulled my leggings off as a 'joke' I had no underwear on underneath. I cried. He minimised and refused to discuss it the day after. I KNOW I need to leave. I'm so unhappy

You need help. Youre currently putting an abusive man above your children because he is in their home.

You need to get him out of your house. You already left. You need to get him out and keep him out.

Who do you know who can help you?

You need to stop navel gazing and pondering and wondering why, and get your kids away from this dangerous man today. Otherwise I hope your mum goes to social services and protects your children, because right now you are utterly failing to do it. He held a lighter to your genitals FFS, how much more abusive does he have to be before you wake up?

@fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits

He's useless. He can't even wake up for the food I've ordered. Hoping little one settles, but even she just wants me, says it all about him

Who eats at 4am?

You're choosing to put them little girls in this situation. They are 4 years old. Disgusting

I was on this thread under a different user name while he sexually assaulted you as you spoke. His daughter witnessed his abuse. You also have daughters living there.

Sorry, but get a grip. You left. Repeatedly. And took those children back. Repeatedly. You have a responsibility to stop this right now