Partner just pissed on the kitchen floor

[fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits]

We have a downstairs toilet, it was less than 3 steps away. He's fucking pissed on the kitchen floor. Now he's trying to sleep on the sofa while I pacify his daughter (who ou love dearly!) because he put her to bed at 5.

Keep getting "why you being mardy"

"Babe what's up"

"Why you being off with me?"

Well perhaps it's because I'm parenting tour child while you claim exhaustion b the sofa. And to think this moron is begging me to have a baby with him 😂 give me strength!!!!!!!!!!

I believe in you @fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits...

I'm ok.

Good to know, Biscuits.

What’s been happening?

Did you see the discussion about the nature of abuse and how some people react to abuse that took place in your thread?

Did it resonate with you?

It’s such a hard thing to turn around from.

It does resonate with me. I grew up without a dad, he decided he didn't want anything to do with me at the age of two. My step dad has been around since I was ten but we don't have a close relationship bar the normal caring and a chat etc. My view of men is most certainly skewed.

Plus I spent so long accepting my ex partners behaviour. I 100% need counselling, I recognise that x

Glad you are okay, and you have seen the light, so to speak.

Counselling will be a good thing, maybe try the Freedom Programme run by Women’s Aid.

Really cheering for you. You have taken a brave step.

So has he left ?

I have t seen the light. What is wrong with me!?? We have no children tonight so decided to have a couple of drinks, he's just dragged me about in my trousers, I laughed with nervousness then I started to cry. He's minimising. I need help. Massive help

He pulled my leggings off, previously tore my underwear out to the point I had to cut it to free the last bit. I was naked from the waist down. Al he could say was "what's up with ya" even when I was crying he didn't apologise, try to comfort etc. He's now doing the washing. This is my own fault, what the hell

I will add he didn't pull my trousers down aggressively. It was in a joking way, we were having a laugh before hand. Can I ask, is it normal for a man to grab your boob/bum allllll the time?

Even now he's not understanding the reasons for me being upset. Is this normal? Would you just laugh at a partner/husband doing this??

None of it is normal. No respect for you at all. Please try and get help from agancies for abused women. It is only getting worse - how much more will you take? Good Luck

My partner does give me the odd boob/bum feel up but never ever ever in a million years would he pull my trousers and pants off to the point I’m
Naked unless we were both partaking in consensual sex

I can’t believe u have put urself back in this situation. This is never going to change unless u change it and get rid. Right now u are being the enabler and allowing him in ur life to do this. YOU NEED TO TAKE CONTROL.

what happened to taking the kids me leaving until he moved out?

i get that you’re both drinking. this is a dangerous situation for you. my genuine advice? call the police, get out of the house and don’t go back until he’s packed his worthless shit together and gone.

is this how you see your life? you are worth more than this. stop drinking, get out of there, deal with it properly tomorrow before you or any of your children go anywhere near this man again.

taking the kids *and leaving

Please take all the support you can from this thread and use it to get away from this man. He is hurting you, abusing you, disrespecting you, it will never be better than this, and you deserve so much more, please. Let us help you.

You need to leave, and stop enabling him to treat you like this

So why am I being soft? Thus genuine question. I am annoyed massively by his indifference to me becoming upset, he couldn't understand it. But in the same way I have boyfriends in the past that would be mortified to see me cry as a result of their actions. Even it was unintentional.

I fell appreciate I am going to get flamed for thud. BUT I am going back to work next week having had to leave the NHS with anxiety so I'll be financially secure.

I genuinely feel in my gut that something is off

Fucksake my typing is all over the shop. I'm embarrassed and ashamed by this. I'm an intelligent woman. I've been reduced to shit. I want to just disappear. Pack mine and the kids stuff and just go elsewhere one day

Ahh OP that’s a shame he’s still hanging around. He sounds so horrible. Doesn’t it make you furious? I feel angry with the idiot and I don’t even know him. You’re worth more than this. No one deserves this crap.

I'm just
Bored of waking up to a hand in my bra pulling my nipple. Loading the dishwasher and having my star grabbed. I'm not a prude, I've had boyfriends, it just bugs me xx

Just a question to help understand. When you say that you have a gut feeling something is off, what or who are you referring to in comparison? Is tonight standing out more than all the other times, for you?

You know tomorrow you'll feel awful. He really is not a good egg even if he doesn't understand fully that what he is doing is wrong. He's unfixable. Your child and you really don't deserve all this negative energy.

But I know I will wake up in the morning and feel I've overacted

But in current position, I feel that he needs to just fuck off