AIBU to not want to be called the version of ‘mum’ DH and family have in mind

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All the other kids in the family have a slight regional variant for mum or mummy but I don’t like it ... aibu to just want to be mum or mummy?

If they get to pick what you're called then it would only be fair that you get to pick what everyone else is called. "If you're going to refer to me as XX then you'd better be prepared for the baby to grow up calling you Grandmama/Grandpapa/Pater".

Unless Mammy is said in an Irish accent, I would always be thinking of Al Jolson shows age.

I am Mam and proud..

I’m still Mummy even though DDs are 19 & 16. It’s an Irish thing, not posh.

Sometimes my DC use Mim which I prefer to Mum.

Mam ? Mammy (sounds fat) ?
Not BU but .....

Teen DS calls me Mawbags at times to wind me up. It's beginning to grow on me

I'm in a mam area but am a Mama which I'm happy with. Or DD has taken to calling me Mother Goose. I'm even listed as that in her phone.

I think it is up to you in the first instance, but you need to be prepared for the possibility that your children will call you something different. I grew up with Mum/Mummy but Mam is the norm where we now live. My children refer to me as "my Mam" or "Mother Avocet"if they are talking to their friends and Mimi to my face. No idea where that came from actually!

Children can easily swap between one title when talking about their parents to their friends and another when talking directly to the parent/ at home.
We're abroad so my kids speak a different language to their friends and even pronounce their own and one another's names differently when speaking to friends, as well as calling me Mummy but refering to me as Mama (local language) when talking about me to friends. They did these things instinctively from pretty much as soon as they could talk.

We've got family in different places so I get mum/mam/mom/mummy depending on who is talking or which way the wind is blowing as DH calls me all of them when he's talking to DC.
I'm not too bothered either way. My mum felt kept trying to push her particular name once we'd grown out of saying mummy and I didn't get the obsession. Children will fall into whatever the people around them use and there's no point policing use of local words in my opinion.

Best case scenario is you insist the children call you a certain thing to you, because you'll not be policing what they say when talking about you.

@PaquitaVariation

I live in a Mam area, but get called Mum/Mummy. However when talking about me to other people the children say Mam 🤷🏼‍♀️

Same here

They call me Mum but I'm their Mam if they talk about me

My children are 17 and 22 now
Was mummy, then mum but they still call me mummy sometimes ( generally when they want something!). Oh and to wind me up by my first name

DS calls me Mama. I don’t mind. I tend to refer to myself as Mummy when talking to him, but he has speech and language delay so frankly I’ll take what I can get!

It's up to you what you want to be called by your own child. And I don't think it's a big deal if other family members refer to you as Mom/ Mam/ Mamma/ whatever it is, so long as you use your own version. After all, most children will hear their father call their mother by her first name, and, unless they are encouraged to do so, they usually won't themselves. My mother's relatives spoke English as an additional language, and would use the term for mother in their first language when talking about her to me. I still used Mum/ Mummy.

I'm Mum/Mummy in an area which is very much Mam! I grew up here ut my parents are from elsewhere so I always called my Mum Mum. My kids have no issue but I did wince when I used to get "Dear Mam" cards etc from nursery/reception before they could write independently.

I’m mami (Welsh) and call DM Mam. Most people I know use mami/mam, although I have noticed an increase in mum recently

Not sure Id call Mam posh or pretentious...

I always wanted to be mam, which is what I call my mam but I’m mum. Honestly, never mind anyone else, your little one will call you what feels more natural to them, and once they start to call you anything at all in their cute little voice you will love it ❤️

My kids definitely don’t refer to me (to anyone) as ‘my mam’. They never have always said ‘my mum’. DS is talking to a friend now. The friend refers to his mom, DS to his mum and neither of them would consider using mam instead.

Admittedly DS has spent all but one year of his life here and not developed the local accent at all.

I was mummy but told the kids that they could Call us mum and dad as they got older. We are still mummy and daddy but expect not in front of friends. Both Are young adults.

I’m confused about the Mama thing. It seems quite a recent trend.
Is it pronounced “Mam arr” which sounds very Victorian nursery to my ears or ma,ma : two short syllables which sound the same. ?

@TheBabyAteMyBrain

I'm Mama or Mãe, it's cultural.

I looked after kids who had an Amma and Appa, but when speaking with friends they learnt to say mum/dad. It'll be the same for my children.

Korean?

I started off as Mummy, now I'm the 'Old dear' 😂😂

I'm Mama -wasn't my choice but I like it.