AIBU to not want to be called the version of ‘mum’ DH and family have in mind

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All the other kids in the family have a slight regional variant for mum or mummy but I don’t like it ... aibu to just want to be mum or mummy?

You can be called whatever you like by your own child surely!

I'm Mom. Outing to where we live I suppose and very frowned upon on mumsnet! But I'm happy with it and I wouldn't want family telling ds that I'm Mum or Mummy.

Fair enough. You should be called what you want to be called.

Ask to be called what you want to be called.

I'm Mom. Outing to where we live I suppose and very frowned upon on mumsnet!

Me too! But now live in a Mum area. Kids still call me Mom as I insist!

I live where mom is the usual, but have always been mum to my kids and that’s how I like it! To be honest, don’t think most people realize unless they see it written down.

It’s not mom

Hmmmmm if it's regional and you live in that region, then your DC might end up saying it about you. "My Ma said...", "my mom did..." etc. But you can definitely ask your DC to call you mum or mummy and hopefully they'll listen!

I'm a mumma, personally. It's entirely up to you what you want to be called. However I will say your child will end up calling you what you want, and you'll not have much say in the end.

Your child, your name, your choice. Irrelevant what DH or his parents think. Tell them to mind their own business - they can choose their own names!

I'm mum and live in a mom area. I get called what I like. Start calling DH papito and tell him he can lump it if they insist.

Is it Mam/mammy?

You can tell your children to call you what you like. Just be aware if they go to school etc then peers and teachers etc may unintentionally steer them to the local norm.

Is it mam/mammy? I live in a "mum" area but prefer mammy/mama, and just trained DS to call me that, he does it without any issue.

I’m a displaced Londoner living in a mom area. No way would I be anything other than mum or mummy! Husband uses mom for his mum not for me.

I'm in a Mom area
I have a Mom. DH has a Mom.

DS calls me Mama. I liked Momma but he definitely puts two A's in it. I like it. He did it automatically and altho now it's occasionally Mom or Mam that's fine with my too.

Your name, you have to be ok with it. Unless you get to choose what his child calls him, tell him or isn't his business.

Yes there's a chance he'll pick up from the other kids calling their female parents Ma or Mam or Mother or whatever but that's a different issue

You tell your children what you want to be called. It starts young with naming yourself ie when you pick your baby up you say come to Mum.

You decide, if anyone in the family tries to call you something different correct them. If it continues use names for them that are not their names.

Ds2 calls me Mum or Mammar (?) but he is now 14. I will answer to either, but I chose to answer to Mammar.

It’s up to you what you’re called surely?

My parents were a bit strange, in making us called paternal grandmother “grandma”, when all her other grandkids called her Nan or Nanna, so that was presumably her choice! Now they insist on their own choice of gp names! (Not that I object to their choices, I don’t mind either way!)

I’m going to be Granny I’ve already decided!

If it helps my DHs family are mam/ mammy types and MIL is forever calling me mammy to the children.

The children have never once called me it themselves, although they are currently at the mum mum mum mummy mum mum mum muuuuuuuuuuuuum stage so if they did at least it would be a change from that

I wanted to be Mam but somehow ended up Mum. No idea how. I often get Mumma from one child which I quite like.

I'm overseas and it's mama here. I much prefer it to mum or mummy.

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If it helps my DHs family are mam/ mammy types and MIL is forever calling me mammy to the children.

The children have never once called me it themselves, although they are currently at the mum mum mum mummy mum mum mum muuuuuuuuuuuuum stage so if they did at least it would be a change from that

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It's completely your decision. I'm mum/mummy, that's what I called my mum. My kids father calls his mam which makes my teeth itch.

When you talk to your baby just keep saying the the name you want.

• it's time for mummy to change your nappy
• mummy is going to give you some milk now
• mummy's back (from when you have gone somewhere)
• do you want mummy to cuddle you

Once baby is older and starting to talk you do a lot of this

• can you say Mummy. Mum..mee. Muh Muh Mummy

Of course children can be a bit random. I was 'mother' for a while thanks to reading the lovely old fashioned Naughty Little Sister books out loud.

I was always Mummy when referring to myself to DD when she was a baby. Everyone else also calls me Mummy when talking about me but DD has decided to call me Mumma. I don’t mind it and that’s what she wants to call me.

I asked my parents and PIL what they wanted to be called as DD was the first grandchild on both sides. I would expect your DH and family to respect your wishes on how your children refer to you.

I live in a Mam area, but get called Mum/Mummy. However when talking about me to other people the children say Mam 🤷🏼‍♀️

I’m curious as to where a Mom area is, I’ve never heard that used in the UK unless the family is American or Canadian. Enlighten me!