AIBU to not want to be called the version of ‘mum’ DH and family have in mind

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All the other kids in the family have a slight regional variant for mum or mummy but I don’t like it ... aibu to just want to be mum or mummy?

Mom Region as it shall hence forth be known?

Is that like a lady garden?😃

@BluebellsGreenbells

Mom Region as it shall hence forth be known?

Is that like a lady garden?😃

😂😂😂😂 Little Steve: Mommy, how did I get out your tummy? Mommy: You entered forth from my Mom Region Little Steve: I'm AMERICAN????

I feel quite offended here about mothers called mam/mammy and am sure 1 proud MAM am a geordie and every person i know is called mam be proud of what you children call you weather its mam mammy mum mummy mama mumma its all the same really

I live abroad so I’m the only mum/mummy around so I know when I hear it that it’s my kids who are calling me. When I return to England on holiday I realise I am only responding to the words not the voice as I react to every kid that calls for their mum/mummy 😆

I’m originally from Birmingham but now live in Yorkshire. DCs called me ‘Mom’ when they were v small (and also had rather amusing hybrid Brummie-Yorkshire accents 😂) but as they started school it morphed into Mum

For some reason at some point they started calling me ‘Mother of the Nuggets’ when they were messing about, which then has shortened to MummaNugget and MumNug and stuck! Sounds ridiculous but I love it 😂

I think it's sweet to be called the local variant, part of embracing the culture of new place i moved to.

I’ve always called my mum “mom”, but I write it as mum, grew up in the Black Country and that’s how everyone pronounces it, didn’t realise it was pronounced differently until I was an adult

@roseymacdoo

Oh, I think they should give you your full title. Mother of the Nuggets is excellent

I'm an expat American living in the UK and always called myself Mom. My husband said Mum (he's British) but the kids all called me Mom. Until they got to age six or seven and started calling me Mum like all their friends call their mothers. I think the general cultural soup of friends, school, media, etc. overrides whatever you say at home.

I don't care - I still call myself Mom and sign notes to them from Mom. I can't think of myself as a Mum - someone called Mum is surely English. But it doesn't bother me that they do. They are English, after all. Use whatever you prefer and don't sweat it if they slide into something else.

My eldest two who have moved out call me "Mother and then our surname! " So eg "Mother Smith". The younger ones Mummy ( as older ones did) as its what I have called myself. As they grow up I guess they will abbreviate it to Mum. My mum is Momo and Granmother other side is Granma. However she is also Gran to other grandchildren and Momo to her great granchildren. I love this thread...its amazing. How many names for mum can we find......

@PaquitaVariation exactly the same here.

There was an American comedy on tv recently called Speechless where English actress Minnie Driver played the Mum. They essentially made the character English (it wasn't an important part of the plot - maybe Minnie Driver just didn't want to have to do an American accent). Anyway she (the character) would often refer to herself as Mum or Mummy but the children called her Mom, the husband would say "your mom" etc. Although there was a scene I remember where one of the children wanted something and his way to get his 'mom' onside was to call her 'mummy' in a total English accent. That scene made me smile for some reason (I think there was another episode where he made her English style afternoon tea too!)

I think it's sweet to be called the local variant, part of embracing the culture of new place i moved to

No it’s not, you don’t change your name to fit in, why would you? Mom is a name and I correct my kids when they’ve shipped up and refuse to answer them!!

We are Yorkshire but husband is slightly more north east than me. I’m mama/mam/mammy dependent on the mood. Very rarely get mum or mummy. Surely you can be called whatever you want to be called? Although you might find it hard to stop them saying mammy if it’s just how they were brought up, I find the same with my mum who refers to me as mummy not mam which is slightly annoying.

Lol...Snap!

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we live in a mum or mam area it varies. Be called whatever you want to be called. But be warned, they may change it anyway.

@amispeakingenglish

🙄 Reply fail! I meant to say snap that's my combo too.

@Bioprepper

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we live in a mum or mam area it varies. Be called whatever you want to be called. But be warned, they may change it anyway.

I’m ‘mum, mum, mum, mum, mum’. DS seems to get stuck on it as he tries to remember what it is he wanted me for. 😆

You can try...
I'm originally from a Mam area but now live in a Mum area. I would love to be a Mam I'm pretty sure that DS will call me what his friends call their mothers. I've accepted my fate!

Mine has us as mama & papa, when just us but when talking to her friends mum & dad. I've heard grown men & woman referring to their mum as mammy and think it is hugely endearing

you don’t change your name to fit in, why would you?

Yes, I did, actually. My name has been Spanishfied by Spanish speaking friends & it never crossed my mind to be offended. Actually, I was flattered that they made the effort to view me as one of their own, and embrace me as part of their community.

I’m loving MumNug! That’s adorable!

I am from the North East of England and I called my mother Mam. I moved south and when I had children I called myself Mammy and Mam to my kids. When they were little this is what they called me. However once they got to school and heard the other children they started calling me Mum. I was sad but had to accept it.

I'm Mummy in a country where Maman is standard, because that's what I wanted to be. DD calls me 'Mummy', or sometimes 'Mama', which I love because it was her own idea, but she talks about me to French-speakers she refers to me as 'ma maman'.

Posted too soon. I had to insist that I was going to be Mummy, as DH and my ILs said it would be too confusing and they wanted me to be Maman, but it's fine, it works.