AIBU to not want to be called the version of ‘mum’ DH and family have in mind

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All the other kids in the family have a slight regional variant for mum or mummy but I don’t like it ... aibu to just want to be mum or mummy?

My DD 10 has taken to calling me ‘Martin’

I'm more than ever convinced that we Brits and our relentless class consciousness are absolutely barking mad. This stuff is far less noticeable on the continent; likewise the area of the US where I previously lived.

Being British has certain things to recommend it but this isn't one of them.

@mammmamia

My DD 10 has taken to calling me ‘Martin’

Crying 🤣

@mammmamia

My DD 10 has taken to calling me ‘Martin’

Didn't you ask her why?

My daughter has always called me Mam, which is what I called my mother too. (Northern England.) But when she's annoyed with me it's "Mother!!!" If you dislike what you're being called, just say so.

In Ireland is mam or mammy but mine have what's called me mum x

@BluebellsGreenbells

I'm Mom. Outing to where we live I suppose and very frowned upon on mumsnet!

Me too! But now live in a Mum area. Kids still call me Mom as I insist!

I'm Mom as is my mother and hers before - but try finding that on birthday cards.

It's up to you what they call you, not anyone else.

@FelicisNox

It's up to you surely, I get called allsorts: mum, mummy, madre.

But I wouldn't be happy with mam or mom: we're not northern nor are we American so 🤷

Mom has been the preferred name in Birmingham for a long, long time. I'm proud of my working class heritage and not trying to be American!

I am Mumma or Mum.

I would not mind what version of mother my children call me but I don’t want to be called by my name. I like being their mum/mumma.

Mam or Mammy I’m guessing, you can try to keep to mummy but others may not stick to it 🤷‍♀️

I'm Mumma or Mummy to my 5yr old. I was Mimi when she first started talking

My kids call me mum to other people when saying my mum etc but to me they use the word for mum in our 1st language

I wanted to be Mam but I realised it didn't work down here where I live now and I seem to have become Momma which is my least favourite!

Where I live everyone says ‘mam’ but I’m a ‘mum’ as that’s what I grew up calling my mother. My husband refers to me as ‘mam’ when talking to the kids 🙄

Just teach your baby to call you Mummy. If your dh's family try and teach your child otherwise (although not sure why they would be so rude) then pull them up on it. Every. Single. Time. It's very much personal taste. On a related note we live in a Nan/ Nanny area which I hate. My Mum is very clearly Grandma as will I be ( until such a time as the child has other ideas )

I had two born in south east England, one born in Scotland, and I’ve always been mummy, then mum as they got older. To my ear mom is very American / maybe midlands (I know one brummie “mom”) and mam or mammy is Irish. All the grandparents chose what they were called, and we have most variations (complicated family!)
But you should choose what you’re called, although I wouldn’t be bothered if the child picked up the local norm once at school.

Absolutely whatever you'd like 🙂

I’ve noticed quite a few replies referring to teaching your child what to call you by repeating your favoured name and constantly referring to yourself by that name.
I made a point of teaching my children how to say Dad and Daddy and hardly ever referred to myself at all. So when they wanted attention they called for daddy.
😄 result!😄

I'm a Mumma. It's certainly not a new fangled Insta thing for me as my son is nearly 26. Frankly I don't care if someone doesn't like it, he chose it himself and that's good enough for me.

Seems to be Mumsie these days if he wants something though!

I’m a mummy. That’s what I wanted to be but I must say all three of my sons call/called me mama till school and the influence of teachers/peers took over. My daughter still calls me mummy at near 7.

Isnt it a regional thing and personal choice?
I'm mam/mammy. My husbands family aren't from where we live and they use 'mum'. It used to bother me when my son was younger if they referred to me as Mum to him as I didn't like it but as he got older, I realised it didn't matter as he still calls me Mam.

My poor mother gets hubbard/goose/mother/shorty 🙈🙈 bless her

I love mam/mammy. It’s died out here now. My mum’s generation called their mothers mam but that became mum over time.
I’m mum to my face and “me Ma” to their friends.

Surely Mom is American? I’ve never heard anyone in the UK use it. Is it a thing now?

@Musmerian

Surely Mom is American? I’ve never heard anyone in the UK use it. Is it a thing now?

No, it isn't a 'thing'. As stated earlier, used in Birmingham (and other areas) for years and years, as is Nan!