AIBU to not want to be called the version of ‘mum’ DH and family have in mind

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All the other kids in the family have a slight regional variant for mum or mummy but I don’t like it ... aibu to just want to be mum or mummy?

My son calls me different things depending what he wants 'mum' is standard but said in many many different ways. Same as 'dad' but it up to us and our son what we are called not extended family

Its up to you what you call yourself to your child, and the rest of the family should follow your lead, but your child might just be a git and call you what they want to call you anyway. I've always called myself mummy to DD but around 6 or 7 she started calling me mama, even though I really really dislike it, and won't change.

I was mummy, then we moved to a mom area when did was almost 4 and I'm now mom.

Always called my mother mum but sometimes when taking about her with friends will say mom too as that's the norm around here.

I was mammy to my 3 year old dd until about 2 weeks ago and she suddenly reverted to mummy. I think it could be to do with visiting family down south although her cousins were using mum. I miss being called mammy

Where are all you Moms from? I've only heard that in a US context.

I'm a mumma. Kids chose it. Not sure where they got it from.

Mam is just weird

@Zerrin13 why is it any weirder than anything else? It's just normal in Scotland, Ireland and N England

I'm a mum in a land full of mams. I had to correct relatives a lot in the early years. It infuriated me. I have accepted some will never change but my children call me mum so that's what matters.

Kids call me mummy/mum but in my region (East Midlands) my dad's generation refer to me as 'the kids Mam'

It's worse in some areas than others but from genx generation down thankfully mum/mummy is now more commonly used.

Though I'd rather 'Mam' than the bloody awful whine of Mommaaayyyyyy

@Zerrin13 Mam is just weird
Really. Now I don't like Ma or Me Ma in conversation.

Some people are quite rude on here, if people use different terms and that’s their choice and regional differences, doesn’t make one right and another wrong.

I am from NE so grew up with Mammy and Mam, but live down south and my children use Mum and Mummy. That’s fine too.
If I still lived in NE probably would have been a Mam as that is the norm, but equally happy with Mum.

Where are all you Moms from? I've only heard that in a US context

Birmingham mainly and surrounding areas.

@CeeceeBloomingdale

Did you honestly tell people not to refer to you as the child's mam?

That's control freakery right there

@SummerSummerSummertime

Where are all you Moms from? I've only heard that in a US context.

I'm a mumma. Kids chose it. Not sure where they got it from.

Birmingham/ Black Country.

@Zerrin13

Mam is just weird

Can't beat some undisguised ignorance

So many people who hate 'mam' but I live in Tyne and Wear and I feel like I have to put a fake voice on to say 'mum'

I grew up in Hartlepool and feel the same!

Though I'd rather 'Mam' than the bloody awful whine of Mommaaayyyyyy

No different to Mammeeeeyyyy surely? Wining kids aren’t any fun whatever they say.

I call my mother Mam but I am Mum and was Mummy when the dc were small.

I live in the north-east but it’s very mixed as to whether or not children use Mam or Mum. I wanted to be Mum as I see my mother as Mam, not sure if that makes sense or not? Both seats of Grandparents are known as a Grandma/Grandad (first name).

I’m curious as to where a Mom area is,

me too

Birmingham Black Country Midlands

Has been for generations

Has been answered more than once

I have a Mam, I am from a Mam area but DH and family are quite a bit posher than I so my kids call me Mummy.

They've also no Northern accent perceptible which is sad to me. Well except when they say 'wort-ta' instead of 'wort-er'

I was born and brought up in a mam area, now live in a mom area but I'm mum to my dc. It's completely up to you what your dc call you.

I'm a Mam in an area exclusively of Mums. I'm fairly sure that around here it is associated with the less affluent/sophisticated members of society. Nonetheless I insist on being Mam or Mammy, it is very important to me as it is part of my family history.
DD would like to call me Mum like everyone else in her class but I always use it as a chance to highlight how different doesn't mean wrong. As we say to her, 'in a field full of sheep, be the unicorn.'
She pretty much gets it now. Some of her friends call me Mam as a name, my DH does this with my mother (his MIL) and I really like this. It feel special.
If in-laws call me mum we just correct them. If a toddler can grasp it they'll get there in the end I'm sure...